Why are people in China so tired of raising children?

China's parents are tired of raising a baby, which is mainly reflected in these seven aspects:

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Expect too much from children.

In most China families with children, children are the center of the center.

Parents revolve around their children all day, planning everything for them, and this kind of planning, from pregnancy to the whole pregnancy, children are born, children go to kindergarten, children go to primary school, junior high school and high school;

Until the children go to college, the children work, the children get married, the children buy a house, and the children have their own children, there is almost no day off.

During this period, there are all kinds of worries, comparisons, choices, entanglements, all kinds of efforts, all kinds of incompetence, all kinds of hopes, all kinds of frustrations, all kinds of dissatisfaction, and all kinds of early knowledge today;

All kinds of regrets are often that children are old and they are old, and then they are expecting their children to repay their parents and be filial to their parents.

So tired for decades, why not?

The root cause of this kind of fatigue is that parents expect too much from their children, including their own development and parents' return.

With such high expectations, it is not only parents but also children who are under great pressure. But why do we have such high expectations for our children?

Isn't it good that he can become an independent, independent and happy adult?

If mom and dad can get through this, put aside all expectations of their children's external fame and fortune, and care about the inner peace and satisfaction of their children and parents, parenting life will be much easier.

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People other than parents are involved too much.

We often see that foreign parents can push one in a stroller, hold one in their arms, hold one, two or even one person in their hands, and take a small group of children.

The typical scene of China family is a group of people with a baby, taken care of by mom and dad, and served by grandparents;

Even with the nanny aunt carrying a big bag to do logistics support, ostentation and extravagance, it can catch up with the emperor's inspection.

We might as well make an analogy. A small family is like a company. Originally, mom and dad should be wholly-owned shareholders and the highest responsible person, with the decision-making power of all affairs.

However, many families have accepted all kinds of "investments" from their elders-subsidizing the purchase of houses, waiting for labor, helping to bring children, and so on;

So grandma, grandpa, grandpa and grandma have the ownership of this family more or less and become "shareholders" because of their "investment".

As shareholders, they must express their opinions and participate in decision-making, and some even require themselves to have a "one-vote veto".

Such a governance structure makes the original simple family affairs extremely complicated. As the head of the family, how can mom and dad not be tired?

What's more, some parents don't even have the status of the head of the family, and their parents still need to have the final say in their own family affairs, so everyone is even more laborious and full of contradictions.

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The heart of comparison is too heavy.

Other children have attended various remedial classes. Are we going to participate? If not, will the child lose at the starting line?

Other children are eating hundreds of barrels of foreign milk powder. If you don't eat it, will it affect your child's development?

Other children are wearing famous brands and brands. If we don't buy it, will we be laughed at for being poor?

Others, others, others ... In the eyes of a considerable number of parents, they look at others too much all the time, and they often take what others do and how to do it as the criterion and guidance.

We should always look at others and try our best to keep up with them so as not to fall behind. How can I not be anxious or tired?

However, others are others and we are us. We have our own principles, choices and behaviors. Why do you want to follow others?

I believe mom and dad can relax and save a lot of hard work on the way to raising children.

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Excessive interference in children's affairs

Parents want to do their best for their children, but they often interfere too much in their children's affairs and cultivate children who can't be independent since childhood.

Children go to school, help carry schoolbags and remember homework;

The children do their homework, and mom and dad accompany them to stare;

What tasks did the teacher assign? Often, children have not thought about what to do, and parents are rushing to help them finish it.

Children go to school, help carry schoolbags and remember homework;

The children do their homework, and mom and dad accompany them to stare;

What tasks did the teacher assign? Often, children have not thought about what to do, and parents are rushing to help them finish it.

Not to mention staring at the children eating, dressing, bathing and going to the toilet every day.

Children who are taken care of in this way have almost only two things left in their lives: attending classes and attending interest classes.

Neither the ability to study independently nor the ability to live independently can be developed, so mom and dad should always take care of, serve and be tired.

Only by cultivating children's autonomy from an early age, including independent living, independent learning, independent reading and independent emotions, can parents really relax.

This is not to be lazy, but to let the child really grow into an independent individual and become a better self.

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Information overload, lack of views

Besides the above reasons, China's parents are tired of raising children. There is another reason that is not so obvious, but it certainly exists, because they are exposed to too much information, but lack opinions on how to raise children.

Seeing that children need prenatal education here, they quickly learn to do prenatal education; Seeing that children need early education there, they quickly take their children to various early education classes;

Seeing that the newborn needs swimming exercise here, I took the baby to the infant swimming pool; I saw that the child wanted to make up this and that, so I quickly went to buy it for the child.

A lot of time and energy are spent collecting as much information as possible, and then running around with this information.

We need to achieve a certain degree of "separation" in parenting life-we don't really need that much information, what's more important is to form our own "opinions" through independent reading and learning-

I know what kind of method is good, I know what I should do, I know what I should insist on and what I should debug.

In this way, we don't need to be impacted and overwhelmed by overloaded information, and we can adopt a simple, effective and unchanging way in parenting life. The whole process will be much simpler and easier.

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Dad is too involved.

There is a very sharp saying called "Widowed Parenting", which is about the situation that the father does not participate in parenting and is absent from the child's growth.

Dad doesn't take part in taking care of the children. Taking care of the children is the mother's business. I'm afraid this is the normal state of many families in China, and it is also an important reason why quite a few mothers feel tired with their children.

"Parents cooperate" to take care of the baby, not only sharing the specific work in parenting life, but also discussing various issues about the size of the child, and putting them into action together after reaching a consensus.

The advantage of this way is that the workload can be reduced by sharing, and both children and parents can establish close relationships.

Of course, more importantly, the companionship of parents makes children's psychology and personality develop more healthily and soundly.

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Consumption is not rational enough

Cause excessive economic pressure

The last and most inevitable reason for raising children is economic pressure. Some parents unilaterally think that they should try their best to give their children the best, and their consumption is not rational enough, resulting in excessive economic pressure.

There is such a case:

An ordinary working father bought a skirt for his three-or four-year-old daughter and spent it on 700 yuan. 700 yuan, a skirt.

Of course, it is likely that the quality and design are very good, and it may be really beautiful for children to wear.

An ordinary working father bought a skirt for his three-or four-year-old daughter and spent it on 700 yuan. 700 yuan, a skirt.

Of course, it is likely that the quality and design are very good, and it may be really beautiful for children to wear.

However, mom and dad don't consider their endurance. How long can they spend money like this? How can they not feel great pressure?

As the saying goes, "ten acres of land per son". It is not difficult to raise a child from an already born baby, but hard work does not mean stress and fatigue.

We have seen parents who are tired with their children, and we have seen many parents who feel relaxed and happy with their children.

Are you tired of raising children? It still depends on how mom and dad choose.

If mom and dad can get rid of those factors that make parenting life exhausting, I believe that parenting will become a quite pleasant, beautiful and relaxed life journey.