Children in kindergarten still wet their pants at night. Do you want to wear them?

A treasure mother said that in the past, the baby was clever and sensible, could go to the toilet and dress himself. It's all because I'm going to kindergarten, so I trained my child in advance, but I didn't expect that after entering kindergarten, my baby held his urine three times and even became constipated recently. Parents at home are also very anxious. If this behavior simply involves children wetting their pants, the big deal is to wash more pants, but if it rises to children's health problems, mothers begin to worry. One of them, Ma Bao, asked if it had anything to do with teachers or kindergartens.

In fact, many treasure mothers have had this kind of anxiety, feeling that their children are getting worse and worse since they entered kindergarten, and their behavior is beginning to be naive. Many treasure mothers are worried about their children's problems, even the problems in kindergartens, and the carelessness of teachers. However, in fact, what I want to say is that it is very normal for children to pee their pants after entering kindergarten. Moreover, many parenting experts and kindergarten teachers have pointed out that this behavior of children is very common. Therefore, you treasure mothers don't have to worry too much about this behavior of their children.

So why do children start to pee their pants after going to kindergarten instead of going to the toilet? What is the reason behind it?

First of all, why does the baby not go to the toilet when he enters kindergarten, which causes him to pee his pants? In fact, it is caused by strangeness to the new environment. I saw an example shared by a kindergarten teacher before. At that time, the teacher taught the new small class children. After school started, the teacher organized the children to paste all their pictures on the wall. After posting, many children said similar things to her. This sentence is: "teacher, look, we help you make your home more beautiful!" " Many mothers may think this sentence is nothing, but in fact it reflects the child's perspective: kindergarten is the teacher's home, not others' home. In the eight stages of Eriksson's human development, it is suggested that children aged 2-4 are the stages of developing autonomy and shyness. In other words, children at this stage have begun to understand that those things can be done in their own homes, and those things can't be done in other people's homes or are embarrassed to do them.

Then think about the child's behavior. Can you understand why children become wet pants and don't love toilets after entering kindergarten? Because this environment is strange, it is someone else's home. The secret thing of going to the toilet is very personal privacy. Moreover, children are curious about everything, so they will laugh when they hear others say they want to go to the toilet, which makes them unwilling to talk about this need in public. I remember when I was in the third grade of primary school, I still didn't want to raise my hand to the teacher in class to report that I wanted to go to the bathroom. I tried to hold my breath until the bell rang, so I ran out quickly, making me criticized by all the teachers and playful! Actually, actually, I can't hold it any longer. In fact, to put it bluntly, the reason why children's behavior of going to the toilet has regressed is because of their anxiety, even if they are shy and shy, this is also a slight manifestation of anxiety.

Then it may be inconvenient for children to put on their clothes. Many treasure mothers only consider the beauty of the clothes they wear for their children, and may not consider the practicality of their children so comprehensively. I remember that the clothes my sister used to wear for her children were too complicated, so every time the children wanted to go to the toilet, it was because it was inconvenient to undress, and finally they peed their pants. The kindergarten teacher also specifically told her sister that dressing children is not that complicated. Because kindergarten teachers are not one-on-one, they also have to take care of many children at the same time. Your child's clothes are too complicated for the teacher, and the teacher will inevitably have some emotions in the process of helping, and the child is the most sensitive. Often influenced by teachers' emotional communication, they become afraid to go to the toilet and find a teacher.

Then the reason for the child has been found, so how can we correct it for the child? Then the most important prerequisite for helping children is to make them feel no pressure and shame. These methods can help children move forward easily.

1,? Help children by playing games.

Children in this period prefer imitation, that is, role-playing. Then this game lets parents and children exchange roles. Let children play teachers and parents play children. Remember, in the process of beating children, parents must express their children's psychological state as much as possible! For example, "I want to go to the bathroom. Should I tell the teacher? " ? Should I raise my hand? But I don't want my classmates to laugh at me. But I really can't hold it! "At this time, you can see how the child's teacher guides the child. Not only can we see how children are treated by teachers in kindergarten from the side, but it also helps to inspire children's courage.

2,? Go to the bathroom secret club to help!

Nowadays, children all like to watch Peggy Piggy cartoons. So we can learn from the bridge. For example, this method can be used when children are embarrassed to go to the toilet and are embarrassed to tell the teacher. Tell the children that there is a secret club to go to the bathroom now. As long as you need to go to the toilet every time, you can go to your mother or teacher, pat your teacher or mother gently, and then send a "scratching" signal in your mouth. It's best to demonstrate this method at home first, and then you can say hello to the teacher and tell the teacher about the child's behavior. Slowly, the child will let go and dare to communicate with the teacher. He wants to go to the toilet.

3,? You can temporarily relieve stress with pull-up pants!

All the children don't mean that you pave the way and play games for her, but she can certainly do it. What should parents do at this time? Then put the children in pull-up pants! In fact, think about it, we are anxious only because our children will regress. But in fact, the worst result is just to wear pull-up pants for a while? However, there are many benefits. For example, instead of reminding children to go to the toilet every day, tell the teacher. I also need to prepare a lot of pants for the children. As for teachers, they don't have to face their children's dirty pants every day. After all, teachers are human beings, and we are in a bad mood when we face our children's dirty pants every day. The point is, you don't have to remind your child to go to the toilet every day, but you can talk to your child about interesting things in kindergarten every day. When there are more and more positive emotions, the child becomes more and more comfortable in kindergarten, that is, when he dares to communicate with the teacher.

Just treasure moms, when your baby has these problems, you can try the above methods. However, treasure moms must remember that when doing these things with their children, don't use routines, but use * * * feelings. What is a routine? For example, when a child encounters something that wets his pants, a treasure mother says, "It doesn't matter if he wets his pants, but be sure to tell the teacher in advance next time!" This is a routine. If there seems to be no condemnation, it actually gives the child invisible pressure. Talking like a teacher is a shameful problem. How can I put it? A nanny said, "You were an accident, you know? When I was five years old, I always peed my pants. Oh, not once, but many times! " You see, this is love.