Strong jealousy, jealous peers, is it sick?

It is recommended to refer to Master Xuecheng for telling

what you don't have and don't want others to have. This mentality is called "jealousy". Jealousy will especially appear in people who are close to their abilities and identities, or people who think they are "inferior to themselves", because we are always comparing with the people around us, and our hearts are narrow and closed. Open your mind, cultivate your will, look to a broader world, set up a longer-term ambition, and naturally reduce your troubles.

Being jealous of others will not help you get what you want, but will make you go further and further. If you are unwilling, then work hard and focus on improving yourself is the way out, otherwise people will walk into a painful dead end. Jealousy is a habit, and it is constantly deviated by habit, and it must be corrected by a clear purpose. Of course, it is not a day's work to subdue your troubles, and you must constantly strive to grow your inner light. For example, if something is in trouble, if someone else is in charge, he won't feel anything. If he is in charge, he will be as anxious as a cat on hot bricks, fearing that he will be laughed at if he fails. Or when you do a good thing but are misunderstood, your heart is wronged and painful; Or when no one is looking, I feel lonely and jealous ... This is all about fame and fortune. Realm is the mirror of trouble.

It's not easy to get rid of jealousy. You should expand your mind slowly and step by step and set up a higher purpose, so that you won't always limit your vision to a small range and compare with people around you. Learn from the example, and you will have a heart of looking up, and jealousy will not be easy to grow up. "Don't let the ancients, is aspiring; It is infinite not to let today's people. "

orchids don't need to be jealous of peony flowers, and stars don't need to be jealous of the moon. Everyone has their own karma, destiny and position, and everyone has their own value, mission and path. No two people can completely overlap, and there is no need to measure and compare with the same ruler. Jealousy is because you are greedy for what you don't have, and you are controlled by anger and can't really look at yourself.

Possession is greed, and jealousy is anger. These two troubles are like two poisonous snakes entrenched in people's hearts. Once they break out, they will hurt others and themselves. If you want to restrain evil thoughts, you can't crush the grass like a stone, you can only crush the surface for a while; There must be stronger mindfulness and kindness in the heart, such as sunshine melting ice and snow. To cultivate the inner mind, on the one hand, we must learn the classics of wisdom, on the other hand, we need to have personal feelings and often go to temples to study. The root of jealousy is that you are antagonistic to others and narrow-minded. Always go with the joy, always go back, and let your heart expand.

Being envied shows that you have advantages in some aspects, but you are not excellent enough to be admired. Make yourself better-kinder, more tolerant, more intelligent, don't look down on people who are inferior to you, don't resent those who slander you, and don't be hostile to those who reject you. Only when you have jealousy in yourself can you be sensitive to the jealousy of others, and you are very nervous and afraid. Many comparisons between people are meaningless, and they are caused by their own inner ideas and delusions. We should have a sharing heart and a happy heart, so that we can share our achievements with everyone and the success and happiness of others.

To overcome jealousy, we should have a broad mind, not limited to our own vision and income, not narrowly competing with others in secret, but able to understand, admit and accept the efforts and success of others; Have a compassionate heart and be happy to see the happiness of others; If you have confidence in yourself and have your own goals, you won't be depressed by the temporary results.

not letting the ancients, it is said to have aspirations; Don't let today's people, is boundless. If you set up your ambition, you will not blindly compare with others, be jealous or feel inferior. Because people are greedy, they will be angry with what they can't get, and jealousy is a kind of anger. The poorer and weaker the heart, the stronger the desire to "satisfy oneself" and the stronger the jealousy; On the other hand, people who are rich and powerful in heart and less greedy are not easy to be jealous.

Jealousy is a comprehensive reaction of "narrow-minded" and "disorientation". The so-called "narrow-minded" means that you can't see the whole. For example, if you compare your excellent peers in the team and don't think that the team needs more and more excellent talents, the whole can be continuously improved; The so-called "disorientation" means that the goal deviates from the purpose and runs in the wrong direction. Learn to share the success and growth of others, sharing can help your own growth; Instead of comparing and rejecting, it will only make you miserable and degenerate. Everyone has his own life trajectory, and we can learn from others, but we don't need to compare with others, and concentrate on our own path.

Jealousy is caused by being unclear and uncertain about one's own direction, and by looking at the problem one-sidedly, only seeing what one lacks and what others have, forgetting what one has and not seeing what others have paid. Countless causes converge to form a person's fate, and different causes create a unique life track for everyone. We should work hard on our own origins, and it is useless to compare with others, but beneficial to follow the joy.

If you want to get a solemn appearance, you must cultivate the power to endure humiliation, without losing your temper, hatred and jealousy; Always smile, be kind to others, and be kind and soft inside. If you leave these, you will only get farther and farther away from the real "beauty" if you just ponder and draw on the skin. Enlarged heart volume. We should have the heart to tolerate the faults of others, and we should also have the heart to appreciate the beauty of others. If we always live in a narrow self, others will be unhappy when they do something wrong, and they will suffer when they succeed.

Jealousy and arrogance are both delusions caused by the loss of mindfulness and one-sided insistence, and also troubles caused by "focusing on myself" in the heart, because they take themselves too seriously and can't stand the envy of others who are better than themselves; In my heart, I repeatedly taste my own strengths and ignore others, so I have arrogance. It is necessary to cultivate more gratitude and self-exchange, so that the heart can see more others and understand the realm more comprehensively and correctly. Jealousy, first, possessiveness, can not tolerate others surpassing themselves; Second, I don't know what I want, always keep up with others, and rely on external "victory" to realize my sense of existence and reflect my own value. Both of these points stem from not really knowing yourself and not finding the direction and meaning of your life.

greed means not letting go of what you like; Hatred is anger, disgust, hatred and jealousy all belong to the category of anger; Foolish, just don't understand the cause and effect, muddleheaded alive. Persistence and worry are like chains that bind us, but this chain is tied to people without beginning. We mistakenly think that this is "me", and when we hear that we want to let go, we will feel afraid, confused and at a loss. Buddhism also requires us to be self-motivated, but this self-motivation is not to win or lose compared with others, but to learn from better people and improve ourselves. On the other hand, we are always competing with others. On the surface, we can make progress for a while, but our intentions are very different. The resulting troubles such as fear, arrogance, inferiority and jealousy will make our hearts restless, such as roasting on the fire.

It's a good thing to see your own gap by comparing with others, and to have an upward desire. However, it is a bad thing if the competition produces an uneven heart, an inferiority complex, a jealous and hateful heart, or even a heart that harms others. We should firmly grasp the goal of self-growth, rather than focusing on the external environment. Pursuing fame and gain, greed, jealousy, arrogance and slowness ... all kinds of troubles also follow; Struggle hard, and you won't get your own blessings. People are addicted to desires, but their hearts are scarred, and the future is full of thorns. The fame and fortune you get can't always be guaranteed, and you are in danger of losing it at any time. Your heart is often uneasy and you are bound by it all your life. Second, it has its own troubles, a house of wealth and resentment, and a media of slander. Why bother?

We are very sensitive and attach great importance to physical discomfort, and we also know how to go to a doctor. However, most people don't know the discomfort of the mind and don't know what to do. In fact, our hearts have been seriously ill, tied tightly by all kinds of separation, persistence, greed, hatred, doubt, jealousy and arrogance, and we are getting farther and farther away from real happiness and freedom.

practice is to untie the bonds and bonds.