How to get yourself out of emo?

When you are emo, you must learn to regulate your emotions, face your life urgently, tell yourself to make yourself better, and face every day with a smile.

One of the three important topics in life is to be yourself. However, selflessness is more advanced than "being yourself". It is a state that breaks narcissism and establishes a deep connection with everything in the universe after finding and realizing yourself. This is what Li Ka-shing said, "Create yourself and pursue selflessness." At this time, "I" seems to disappear, and it seems as if it is so big that it is boundless and one with all things. You no longer pay too much attention to other people's evaluation of you in the relationship, no longer worry about gains and losses, and are no longer too entangled in the gains and losses of the individual. "The heart of a villain is the heart of a gentleman" and he projects his inner darkness onto others. You can be aware without judgment, maintain "Dharma mindfulness" when observing yourself, maintain the perspective of the perceiver, and no matter how strong your physical sensations, emotions and emotions are, do not regard them as "me" yourself. This is what is called "flowing without becoming". Let yourself become a channel, just like Michael Jackson said, I often feel that I am just a channel and God expresses through me.

Selflessness is the prerequisite for love. While love is about shutting down the mind, your body and emotions are connected directly to the other person. At this time, the warmth you can convey is the warmth that is "based on his needs", not the warmth you think you are. At this time, magic will happen, and the true self and the true self will meet. "The self is looking for the object, and I am looking for you." Wonderful moments of energy flow all occur in high-quality relationships. Learn to understand others. Understanding others is often as difficult as asking yourself. We are always trying our best to find faults with each other. We always feel that the other person can't get along with me. We always feel that everyone is making an enemy of me. There are many things that are unintentional, but there are those kind of narrow-minded people who always have to check the situation. , asking for trouble.

I don’t know how to understand others, and I often say something unintentionally. When the person who wants to find fault hears it, I will take it personally, thinking that it is sarcastic and sarcastic, and I can’t get along with myself and become troubled. As time goes by, over and over again, there may finally be a general outbreak, a fight, or even a murder. Various social news reports in newspapers, such as a murder caused by a few dollars, a joke leading to a tragedy.

Learn to forgive: Learn to forgive your friends and relatives. The closer people are, the more likely they are to have misunderstandings because they care too much about each other. I can't explain, I can't defend. Outsiders see the joke, but I can't let it go in my dreams. At this time, the only thing that helps is time. Time will dilute many things and melt resentment. One day you will find that if you are a friend, you will definitely come back. The sooner you forget those things you said or heard in anger, and the sooner you forgive the other person or yourself, the biggest beneficiary will not be the other person, but yourself. You will be happy and your worries will be gone.