How can a taciturn and talkative man chat with the person he likes?

I think you can know how to chat with people by knowing the following points:

1, to determine the personality characteristics of girls

Girls with different personalities, your speaking standards are different. For example, an introverted and gentle girl, your chat should keep a sunny and positive warm man style; A lively and cheerful girl, your chat should keep a funny and mature style; Because what you have to do is which style is easily attracted by her personality characteristics.

2, determine the preferences of girls, to their own liking.

Including the other party's favorite games, variety shows, stars, amateur life direction and cosmetics. For example, girls who like Wu Yifan can't talk about Daniel Wu every day, girls who like walking after meals can't talk about drinking every day, and girls who like playing the glory of the king can't talk about dota every day. If you are interested, you can make girls feel that your life direction is the same. If you show that your preferences and concerns are completely different, the other party will easily think that you are not suitable, so they will not speculate.

3. Pay more attention to each other from each other's point of view, instead of educating each other like their elders.

Girls love to complain. Their purpose of complaining to you is not necessarily to find you to solve the problem, but to hope that you will be sure and care about them. For example, if a girl is wronged at work and you complain, some boys will help her rationally analyze the causes of this problem, put forward various suggestions in a neutral way, and even say, "Anyone will be wronged at work, so don't worry so much. What should you do next time? " Everyone will say, you don't have to do anything next time. She knows all about it. What she wants is your heartfelt support and care.

4. Look to the future with scale and act.

I believe that most girls fall in love for marriage. And girls all want their boyfriends to give them a better future, so we can customize the small goals and big goals within our ability and work hard. In the process of hard work, there will be many small problems and topics that girls are more gratified and interested in. If it is too exaggerated and impossible to achieve, even if there is no action, then girls will slowly save up their disappointment.

5. Dare to create a topic and keep it fresh.

After getting along with girls for a long time, we should create topics according to the characteristics of girls in all aspects and keep them fresh. The simplest thing is to establish a similar hobby in real life and build a topic centered on similar hobbies. You can also use various small dynamics in the circle of friends as a topic. It's also good to talk about the newly opened food store, the new tourism goals and the surrounding life.

Borrowing a line from the movie, I accurately expressed a girl's love view: I don't want someone to send me hot coffee in the cold weather, but I want someone to accompany me to eat ice and have a toothache in the rain. I don't want someone to protect me, but I want someone to take risks with me. Maybe you are very attentive, but your heart is not your heart. Girls pay great attention to the love experience. Being different from others is what they want in their hearts.

The above is purely a personal opinion.