How to deal with when upset?

With the increasing pressure of life, many people are often upset. What should we do when we are upset? How to solve this irritable situation? Today, Bian Xiao will teach you how to be depressed, so that you can stop being depressed. Interested friends come and have a look. First, what should I do if I am irritable? 1. Diversion When I feel irritable, it is a good way to stay away from the events that cause irritability. By turning your attention to other things, such as listening to favorite music, watching humorous jokes, variety shows and so on. , can let anxiety dissipate slowly. When you are upset, don't die, which is not conducive to peace of mind. Doing exercise is undoubtedly a good way to vent emotions. Worldwide, the probability of black people suffering from depression is lower than that of other races, which is largely related to black people's love of sports. In the process of exercise, you can not only jump out of your troubles, but also get good exercise. Sweating during exercise, toxins in the body will be excreted with sweat, which is beneficial to physical and mental health. 3. Drinking sugar water Autumn is a very dry season, and at the same time, people are more likely to feel irritable. Because drinking more sugar water in autumn has a certain effect on irritability. 4, psychological self-regulation, although irritability will make people impulsive, but usually pay attention to cultivate sentiment, such as painting, refining words, tea and so on. Can help us broaden our psychological world and reduce the occurrence of seasonal irritability. Cultivating interests in many ways, making daily life positive, learning to enjoy life, and enjoying life all help to prevent irritability. Second, what should I do when I am upset? 1. Listening to music can cultivate my temperament and make my mood calm. Listen to your favorite music when you are in a bad mood, whether it is pop songs, orchestral music or traditional songs. The most important thing is to touch your heart, let go of your troubles and balance your mood. 2. Rereading an old friend's letter sometimes makes you burst into tears. In this case, there is no need to forcibly suppress. You can take a few deep breaths. After you calm down, read the contents of the letter again and again, which can ease your mind and make it easy to remember. If you encounter something unsatisfactory in the future, you can search it out from your memory and get a little comfort. 3, revisit the old place When we are upset, we can go to see the old place where we have had good memories, let us recall the happy time, so that the mood is no longer so irritable. Expressing emotions in words is a good tool to express emotions. Even if the relevant personnel can't receive the information, the author will feel relieved to express his feelings at the moment of missing. 5, painting If the reason for melancholy is because I miss my parents, at this time, I can draw their kind faces with a pen, whether they like it or not. As long as I concentrate on painting, I feel that I want to spend the holidays with them, thus eliminating the unhappiness caused by their absence. 6. Bookmark yourself. Handmade bookmarks can help you concentrate and get rid of unhappiness. You can also show your mind by choosing books or patterns. For example, if you care about your parents, you can think about their teaching, make relevant pictures with words into favorite bookmarks, and put them in books you often read to remind and encourage yourself from time to time, so that you won't feel lonely and depressed. 7. Watch the natural scene When you feel helpless and depressed, you can try to be alone with nature, listen to nature, watch the changes of nature alone and experience the smallness of human beings. Where you will go, like changes in nature, is a recurring fact, so don't get into trouble. Third, the treatment of irritability 1, the goal transfer method If you feel annoyed because of something or someone, you can't concentrate, don't force yourself. At this time, the most important thing is to relax and do something that can kill time without consuming the brain. You might as well listen to music and watch TV. Only when your mood is relieved and relaxed can you have the energy to do what you should and want to do. 2, appropriate crying, crying when you are heartbroken, can calm your mood. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, trouble and pain. Wilfred, an American psychologist, believes that tears can expel some toxins produced by the body during stress response. From this point of view, it is chronic poisoning to hold back from crying when it comes to crying. 3. There are a large number of men and women with excessive feelings in online chat rooms all the time. As soon as you go in with a "tearful girl", wow, there will be so many IDs soon, asking questions, comforting you with soft words, or sending roses, or telling jokes, whether true or not, trying to make you happy. You are typing fast, quarreling with these people for a long time, immersed in the happy bubble of the network, and the unhappiness has already escaped. It is inevitable to suffer some grievances and setbacks in society, or be scolded by the leaders in the unit, or have misunderstandings between friends, or be blackmailed by competitors. All kinds of troubles and unhappiness are like assassins hiding in the dark, jumping out and cutting at you when you are not paying attention. At first, I was upset and haggard by these bad emotions. Later, I accumulated experience and gradually summed up a set of effective and good methods to deal with bad emotions. 4. Learn to self-debug, relax yourself in time, and maintain psychological balance and tranquility. In view of long-term mental stress, white-collar workers should learn to adjust themselves and relax themselves in time. Such as participating in various sports activities; Take a hot bath after work and chat with family and friends; Travel on weekends; You can also vent your repressed emotions in various ways and so on. In addition, you can relax at work, such as listening to music while working; Chatting with colleagues and telling jokes; Walking back and forth in the office, stretching; Open the window, look out the window, take a deep breath and so on. At the same time, in complex and tense work, we should maintain psychological balance and tranquility, as the saying goes, "peace of mind is naturally cool." This requires white-collar workers to develop cheerful, optimistic, generous and other good characters, be steady in dealing with people, and have an inclusive, accepting and detached mentality. 5, divert attention When anger surges, consciously change the topic or do something else to divert attention, so that emotions can be alleviated. When you are imperial, you can relax your nervousness by watching movies, listening to music, playing chess, playing ball games, walking and other appropriate and meaningful activities. Some people work hard when they are angry, which is not only a diversion, but also a catharsis and an effective way to control anger. But at this time, it is necessary to remind him to pay attention to safety, because in the case of being angered, the action is often not accurate enough. Fourth, the way to keep happy (1) must have at least one hobby. A person who has good hobbies in life, such as collecting stamps, reading books, boating or planting flowers, will make people feel full, satisfied and happy. (2) People who can try new things will feel unhappy when life falls into a monotonous "old routine". If they take part in a new activity, they will not only expand their lives, but also bring new fun to their lives. (3) Strive for yourself to do more work. In life, if you rely too much on others and expect too much from others, you will easily be disappointed. If we can establish the concept of doing what we can and doing it ourselves, we can avoid the bitter fruit brought by many disappointments. (4) Making a few intimate friends is helpful to physical and mental health. When you are free, you can get together with friends and chat extensively, which can not only increase your knowledge and exchange information, but also tell your angry things frankly to your friends. Friends will help you solve problems and enhance your confidence and courage to eliminate difficulties and troubles. (5) Don't entangle everything, otherwise it will be easily entangled. We should learn to look at things from different angles, analyze problems, find different solutions to problems, and get rid of the depression caused by rigid treatment of problems. (6) learn to be tolerant. In life, even people who are very close to themselves have angered you and blamed you, so we should relax the scale of blame. After a long time, people will be happy to get along with you, and you will certainly taste the happiness and comfort brought by harmonious interpersonal relationships. (7) Willing to admit failures and defects. A person will inevitably encounter failures and setbacks, or there are some defects in himself. In this regard, we should remember a philosopher's saying: "When you are willing to admit the fait accompli and accept what has happened, you will take the first step to overcome any misfortune that comes with it."