Do you need to chat every day during the ambiguous period? (Do you dare to read the chat records during the ambiguous period?)

When did the ambiguity between you and TA begin?

How long?

What happened in the end?

Zhang Ailing once said:

Love without love will never go bad.

So, we flirt, we are ambiguous, but we should never fall in love.

After the ambiguity is over, only humor remains.

The ambiguity has reached the end, how are you doing?

Someone said:

"The ambiguity at the beginning seems only funny now."

Don't say "humble secret love is specious" "The lover is not satisfied with the ambiguity and friendship."

Real love will come out of your eyes even if you cover your mouth.

Generally speaking, what can’t be expressed is because you don’t like or love enough.

Why do you want to be ambiguous?

Because ambiguity is ambiguity, not like or love.

He didn’t let you go, but he never let you stay.

From good morning to good night, every day, our ambiguity lasted for three years.

He will reply to all my messages instantly; he will be the first to like it in the circle of friends;

He will report to me what he is going to do; and he will explain in advance what time he will come back. ;

He would call me at two o'clock in the middle of the night to ask me to watch football games with him. It was his favorite team.

Later, he was going to another city and told everyone around him, except me.

When I heard the news from my friends that he was leaving, I felt stupid and stupid.

I don’t know how to end this relationship that I don’t know what to call.

During the phone call to him, I could only ask him over and over again why he didn’t tell me?

I don’t even dare to ask: Who am I?

Because I don’t have the answer myself.

Later I learned from his friends that he had a girl he liked, but he just didn’t catch her.

But he never told me about this.

He didn’t tell me, and I was in no position to blame him.

Actually, I don’t blame him. Since he has chosen not to be responsible for the other party, he cannot ask the other party for anything.

The end of our story is that I no longer send him WeChat messages, and I no longer reply to the WeChat messages he sends.

After experiencing him, I know,

I want a real relationship, a relationship in which I am qualified to question the other person.

A relationship that can be justified without being let down.

It is by no means ambiguous.

You didn’t insist, and I didn’t take it seriously.

In fact, you should have liked me in many moments, but these moments were fleeting.

You didn’t persist, and I didn’t take it seriously.

The unspoken love finally turned into good night.

We have known each other for eight years and been friends for eight years.

Growing up, maybe you never thought I was a girl.

I know what size clothes the girl you like wears;

The spicy hot pot you like never puts coriander in it, I know;

You I like horror movies but only dare to watch them with my eyes closed. I know;

Because I accompanied you to pick out that girl’s clothes. Spicy hot pot has always been my go-to dish. Horror movies are all about it. I watched it with you...

It was me who chatted with you until late at night, and it was me who kept you awake all the time.

In the end, I became ambiguous with you. I am also a pure person.

What is the note I gave you, you ask?

I said "no notes".

Actually it is: "I like you."

You are so smart, then ask me:

"Am I not special?"

You see, sometimes one lie requires a lot Lie to make up for it.

Then I asked you, "What about my remarks? Is it my full name?"

You said, "Of course not, who is as heartless as you."

Just when I was ecstatic and overwhelmed, you said:

"We have been friends for so many years. Of course you are different from others."

...

Time flies, and it has been many years since I graduated.

After graduation, we went our separate ways, and we also lost contact, and soon after that, we no longer even had any ambiguity.

It only took half a year from the initial exchange of greetings to the final drifting apart.

Eight years of acquaintance, almost the ambiguity between lovers, are worthless.

Look, I'm not even qualified to ask you why you didn't contact me.

Because you already have a new girlfriend.

Later, I heard that you broke up.

That day you took the initiative to contact me again and asked me if I liked you.

I said: Yes, I like it.

You said, I actually like you quite a bit.

I thought about it and said: It’s good for us to be friends.

You quickly said: Yes, yes, I think so too.

......

Look, what you said was "quite like", but not "like".

Later, I learned from your friend that you also liked me in those years.

It’s just that now I also have a boyfriend, and you are no longer alone.

That’s it, if you didn’t insist on it at the time, I didn’t take it seriously either.

3. It’s not “you think”, but “are you sure”

What do you think makes two people officially together?

Is it when you already understand the other person’s feelings;

Or is it to the point where you can hold hands and hug each other?

Actually neither.

The beginning of two people really getting together should have a conversation like this:

"I like you, can you be my girlfriend?"

"Okay, I do. "

After saying this, the relationship officially begins. Every word, it is absolutely certain.

Recognize your "identity" and declare his "sovereignty".

This is why there must be a process of confession and fighting before falling in love.

Because starting in confusion will only end in confusion.

The carrier of emotion is never "you think", but "you are sure".

When you decide to end an ambiguous relationship, you ask him:

"What kind of relationship do we have?

Who am I to you? "

He said happily: "I like you, can you be my girlfriend? "

In this way, we are truly together.

The unspoken love is just a joke.

In fact, being single is not terrible, it is just a person.

The terrible thing is that after having a dispensable ambiguity, he became a dispensable person.

So, be yourself.

It’s okay to deceive yourself into “liking”.

What is it like for a girl who has been insecure since childhood?

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