Why not get back at the person who hurt you?

Visitors from Yellowstone National Park come out at night and sit in open-air seats with other tourists, facing the dense forest, waiting for the appearance of the forest killer grizzly bear. According to the ranger, grizzly bears can probably knock down all the animals in the west, except bison and Alaskan bears.

The grizzly bear went out of the forest to rummage through the garbage thrown out by the forest hotel. Except for a small animal, no animal has ever been with a forest killer. The grizzly bear not only let it out of the forest, but also ate with it in broad daylight. It is a skunk. The grizzly bear knows very well that the palm of its child prodigy can destroy this skunk with one hand. But why doesn't it do this? Because it knows from its own experience that it is not worthwhile to do so.

One can meet a four-legged skunk in one's life; You may meet a skunk with two legs. However, from many unfortunate experiences, no matter what kind of skunk is provoked, it is not worth the loss.

When we hate our enemies, we give them the strength to win, give them the opportunity to interfere with our sleep, affect our appetite, raise our blood pressure, make us worry and damage our health. If our enemies knew how they worried us, made us miserable and let us retaliate wholeheartedly, they would dance with joy.

Remember: hatred can't hurt each other at all, on the contrary, it will turn your life into purgatory.

Someone once said, "selfish people want to take advantage of you, so don't pay attention to them, let alone think about revenge." When you want to get even with him, you will certainly hurt yourself more than others ... "

This passage sounds like what an idealist said, but it is not. This passage is from a notice issued by the new york Police Department.

You may not understand why revenge hurts yourself. According to Life magazine, revenge can even damage your health. "Life" magazine said: "The main feature of patients with hypertension is that they get angry easily. "Long-term anger can easily lead to persistent hypertension and heart disease."

Now you should understand that Jesus' so-called "love your enemy" is not only a moral lesson, but also a medicine for the 20th century. When Jesus said "forgive them 70 times and 7 times", he was teaching us how to avoid high blood pressure, heart disease, gastric ulcer and many other diseases.

Charlie Makalo was taken to the hospital with a heart attack. The only advice his doctor gave him was: Don't get angry under any circumstances. The doctor said that a person with weak heart may lose his life as soon as he loses his temper.

Is that really the case? In Washington, a restaurant owner died of anger. The police report said: "William Fakabo used to be the owner of a coffee shop because his chef insisted on drinking coffee with a saucer, which made him very angry."

At that time, the boss was very angry and grabbed a revolver to chase the cook. As a result, instead of catching up with the cook, he fell to the ground and died of a heart attack, clutching his gun. The coroner's report reads: "He died of a heart attack caused by anger."

When Jesus said "Love your enemies", he was also telling us how to improve our appearance. Some people have wrinkles because of resentment, and their faces are ugly and their expressions are stiff because of regret; No matter how beautiful you are, it's hard to change. In fact, as long as they have more tolerance and love in their hearts, their faces will soon be vivid and beautiful. This hatred will also affect our appetite. The Bible says, "It is much better to eat vegetables with love than beef with resentment."

Wouldn't it be more satisfying if our enemy knew that our resentment against him made us exhausted, made us nervous, hurt our appearance, gave us a heart attack and even made us short-lived?

It may be difficult for you to "love your enemy", but at least we should love ourselves. We should make our enemies unable to control our happiness, our health and our appearance. As Satubia said, "Don't set yourself on fire because of the enemy."

When Jesus asked us to forgive the enemy 70 times and 7 times, he was also talking about business. For example, Mr George Rona from Uppsala, Sweden, worked as a lawyer in Vienna for several years and didn't return to Sweden until World War II.

At that time, he was penniless and badly needed to find a job. He can speak and write several languages, so he wants to find an import and export company to do paperwork. Most companies wrote back saying that this service is not needed at present because of the war, but they will keep his information and so on. One of them wrote back to Rona and said, "Your imagination of our company is completely wrong. You are really stupid. I don't need paperwork at all. Even if I really need it, I won't hire you. You can't even write Swedish well, and your letter is full of mistakes. "

Rona flew into a rage when she received this letter. How dare this Swede say that he doesn't know Swedish! As for himself, his reply is full of mistakes! So Rona wrote a letter that was enough to anger each other. But he stopped to think for a moment and said to himself, "Wait, how do I know this man is wrong?" I have studied Swedish, but it is not my mother tongue. Maybe I don't even know what I did wrong. In that case, I should study harder. This man may have helped me a lot, although he didn't mean to. He used such ugly words to express his meaning, which can't offset the favor I owe him. I decided to write a letter to thank him. "

Rona erased his letter and wrote another one: "It's very kind of you to take the trouble to answer my letter because you don't need a clerk at all. I'm really sorry for my misjudgment of your company. I am writing this letter because when I asked, I was told that you are a leader in this field. I don't know that my letter made a grammatical mistake. I'm sorry and ashamed. I will try my best to learn Swedish well and reduce mistakes. I want to thank you for helping me grow. "

A few days later, Rona received a reply and the other party asked him to meet in the office. Rona arrived as promised and got the job. Rona found a way by herself: "Drive away anger with gentleness."

We may not love our enemies like saints, but for our own health and happiness, we should at least forgive them and forget them. This is a wise move.

When someone asked John, the son of General Eisenhower, whether his father would always hold a grudge against others. "No," he replied, "my father won't waste time thinking about people he doesn't like."

As the saying goes, people who are not angry are fools, and people who are not angry are wise.

William Galen, the former governor of New York, is such a smart man. After being attacked to pieces by an internal tabloid, he was shot and killed by a madman and almost died. When he was lying in the hospital struggling to survive, he said, "I forgive everything and everyone every night."

Are such people perfectionists or idealists? Schopenhauer, the great German philosopher and the author of Pessimism, thinks that life is a worthless painful adventure, and it seems that the whole body exudes pain when it passes. However, in the depths of Schopenhauer's despair, he shouted, "If possible, you should not hate anyone."

Bernard Baroque was an adviser to six presidents, including Wilson, Harding, Coolidge, Hoover, Roosevelt and Truman. I once asked him if he was upset that his enemy attacked him. "No one can humiliate me or interfere with me," he replied. "I won't let them do that."

No one can insult us or disturb us unless we allow it. Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt us unless we agree.

For centuries, mankind has admired people who have no hatred for their enemies. I often stand in Jasper National Park and look up at this mountain named Edith Cavell. This is probably the most beautiful mountain in the west.

191510/October 12, a nurse named Edith Cavell generously died at the muzzle of a German firing squad. What crime did she commit? Because she took care of many injured French soldiers and British soldiers at her home in Belgium and helped them escape to the Netherlands.

/kloc-on the morning of October, when an English priest walked into a military prison, her cell, to say her last prayers, Edith Cavell said two immortal words: "I know that patriotism is not enough, and I must never be hostile or resentful to anyone." Later, these two sentences were engraved on Carville's monument. Four years later, her body was moved to England and the funeral was held in Westminster Abbey.

The most effective way to forgive and forget people who are hostile to us is to let ourselves do something that is absolutely beyond our ability, so that the insults and hostility we encounter are irrelevant. Because then we won't have time to care about things beyond our ideals.

19 18, a very dramatic thing happened in Mississippi-a black teacher and missionary Lawrence Jones was about to be burned at the stake. It is necessary to mention that the school founded by Jones himself has now become a national famous school. But the story to be told here was a long time ago.

At that time, during World War I, there was a rumor in central Mississippi that the Germans would instigate black people to defect. Jones is accused of sedition and will be burned at the stake. A group of white people heard Jones say in the church outside, "Life is a battle, and black people should take up arms and fight for survival and success."

"fight!" "weapons!" Enough! These excited white youths rushed into the church, tied Jones with ropes, dragged him a mile away, pushed him to the guillotine, lit firewood, and prepared to hang him and burn his body. At this moment, someone shouted, "Tell him to talk! Talk to me! Say it! " So Jones stood on the platform, with a rope around his neck, and began to talk about his life and ideals. He graduated from university of idaho 1907. He talked about his personality, degree and musical talent, which made him very popular among all the teachers. When he graduated, he was invited to join the hotel industry, and someone was willing to pay for his music education, but he refused.

Why? Because he is keen on an ideal. Influenced by Booker Washington's story, he decided to educate his poor brothers. So he went to the most backward place in the southern United States, that is, a remote place in Mississippi, and pawned his watch at the price of $65,438 +0.65 yuan. He started a school in the wilderness.

Facing these angry people who were going to kill him, Jones told how he struggled-educating these dropouts and training them into useful farmers, workers, chefs and housekeepers. He also told these white people who helped him in the process of his education-some white people gave him land, wood, pigs, cattle and money to help him complete his education.

After listening to Jones' sincere and moving conversation, especially when people heard him plead for his mission instead of himself, the mob began to soften. Finally, an old man said, "I believe what this young man said is true." I know all the people he mentioned. " He is doing good deeds. We were wrong. We should not hang him, but help him. "The old man began to pass hats among the crowd, raised 52 dollars from people who wanted to hang Jones and gave it to Jones.

Afterwards, someone asked Jones if he hated those who dragged him to hang and burn him. His answer is that he is too busy telling things more important than himself to hate. He said, "I don't have time to quarrel, and I don't have time to go back on my word. No one can force me to hate them. "

/kloc-the sage Epiktetos 0/9 century ago told us that karma, no matter who it is, fate can always make us pay for our mistakes. "In the final analysis," epiktetos said, "everyone will pay for their mistakes. People who can remember this will not be angry with anyone, quarrel with anyone, insult others, blame others, offend others and hate others. "

Lincoln may be the most criticized, hated and framed president in American history. But as can be seen from Hayden's Biography of Lincoln, Lincoln "never criticizes others by his own likes and dislikes. If there is any task to be completed, he will not cancel someone's right to work because he is his enemy. If a person who has humiliated him before or disrespected him personally is the best candidate for a position, Lincoln will still let him take that position, just as he will send his friends to do it ... Moreover, he has never fired someone because he is his enemy or because he doesn't like someone. "

Lincoln appointed markland, Edenton and Chase-people who had criticized and even humiliated him before, but he forgave them with a broad mind. Lincoln said, "No one will be praised for what he did, nor will he be deposed for what he did or did not do."

All people are influenced by conditions, circumstances, environment, education, living habits and heredity, which have made them what they are now and what they will be forever in the future.

Maybe Lincoln was right. If you and I inherit the same physical, psychological and emotional characteristics as the enemy, if our lives are exactly the same, we may do exactly the same things as them, because we can't do anything else. Let's remind ourselves with Indian prayers: "Great God! Please help me not to judge and criticize others before I put on other people's buckskin boots for two weeks. "

We should not hate our enemies, but sympathize with them and thank God for not letting us experience the same life as them. Instead of cursing revenge on our enemies, we should give them understanding, sympathy, assistance, tolerance and pray for them.

Now, repeat the words of Jesus Christ-words that should be repeated as long as human beings exist: "love your enemies and be kind to those who hate you;" Bless those who curse you; Pray for those who insult you. "

If anyone can do this, he can get the kind of peace and tranquility that many powerful people in the world can't pursue.