The most important thing is to learn to give up.

People often imagine a person's 40 years old to be too beautiful. What July Flower Rhapsody? 40 years old is the golden age for a man to start a career, but it's not like that at all.

The post-90s generation has almost become the backbone of society, and the post-80s generation has been gradually marginalized, not to mention the post-75s generation. Enterprises that have something to do with technology don't even want people over the age of 35. How competitive are people over 40?

Forty years have passed, the bottleneck of career is getting tighter and tighter, the pressure of life is getting bigger and bigger, and the expectations of people around you are getting bigger and bigger. I pulled out my dagger, and I peeped in four directions in vain. There was no one to rely on, but many people needed to rely on you. My heart is tired. In recent years, many middle-aged people died suddenly.

Therefore, only by throwing away unnecessary burdens and constantly letting go of unnecessary people and things can middle-aged people catch their breath and move on.

Give up the career plan that is not recognized and give up the comfortable working state.

Many people will definitely choose a very popular job and a well-paid company when they choose a career, unit or company just after graduation. No one can predict what will happen in more than ten years, and of course they can't regret their original choice.

However, the world is changing so fast that we have seen many industries collapse or even die out in recent years. How many people, with the growth of age, have not improved their income and status, but their status in social stratification has been declining, and even face a crisis of survival?

Among these industries, newspapers impressed me the most. Around 2000, a city newspaper was in full swing, each as thick as a book, and it was sold to 1 yuan. How much did the full-page advertisement earn? It's hard to find a newsstand on the street now. Now you can think for yourself about the sadness of the newspaper staff.

Many people have adapted to the comfort formed over the years. Every day they starve to death, they hold a little hope and resign themselves to fate. I have nothing to say about such people.

However, if you still have some ability to struggle, I suggest you really evaluate it. Evaluate whether this industry is completely finished? Where is the way out? What kind of peak can I reach if I try harder?

If the evaluation results make you more desperate, you might as well change your mind, see what value you can use and what potential you can tap, and then make a new plan and move in different directions.

Give up comfort, maybe there will be an eagle-like rebirth ending.

Give up meaningless circle of friends and irrelevant entertainment, and make life simple.

When I was young, I thought I had many friends, but now I think I know more people and fewer friends.

Over the years, I have found a rule: the happiest middle-aged man who drinks three or four times in street food stalls and small and medium-sized restaurants, the louder his voice, the less happy he is in real life.

In reality, they are rarely respected, and only on the wine table will they feel great. And basically, as long as someone is invited, he doesn't even have an invitation, just let him make up the number, and he is happy to go.

I am more and more reluctant to take part in such meaningless fun. A body is definitely going downhill. How can you get drunk when you are young? Besides, sometimes I think this wine game is boring.

To put it bluntly, how highly respected are you in society? How well-connected are you? It basically depends on your use value. How many skills you have, how many resources you have, what you can provide to each other and what benefits you can create are your core values.

Some people will say that I am very popular, and how many people have invited me to drink, including many successful people such as officials and bosses. Then you really don't understand. Your value lies in being a hostess, creating an atmosphere, or being a stepping stone to support others. What's the good news? See if others will look for you.

Try to borrow tens of thousands of dollars from people who often ask you to drink.

Of course, middle-aged people are not without friends. Early this morning, a friend my age said to me on WeChat, "Shall we go to the park for two laps?"

I gladly went there, suddenly feeling that talking while walking was much better than patting my chest and being my brother on the wine table.

Give up unhealthy living habits.

For middle-aged men, the hardest thing to quit is smoking and drinking, right? This really requires perseverance, but when you do this, you may have a reorganization of your physical and mental outlook.

I have a friend who was an alcoholic. Once, because he was too drunk to find a home, he took a taxi to a police station. The policeman on duty asked him what he was doing here. He said, isn't it difficult to find the police? I can't find my home. This joke has been laughed at by everyone for years.

He has given up drinking in recent years, and I feel that his whole life has changed. He is approaching his old age, but now he is more and more energetic.

It is often his self-discipline that determines a person's ultimate achievement and destination.

Give up the past, and a simple life is the happiest.

When people live to 40 years old, there will definitely be grievances. Everyone has a story.

Family regrets, love regrets, making enemies in the workplace, being misunderstood, being calculated, being suppressed, etc. , all kinds of unforgettable things, all kinds of unwilling will certainly be a lot.

It may have been brilliant, it may have been full of pride, lost my heart, and people are wandering.

But so what? Is it necessary to exhaust your energy, to understand everything, to explain everything clearly, and to achieve everyone's goals?

Forget it, there is no need to entangle these things, let time explain everything and let time forget everything. If it's good, we can meet and laugh. If it's not good, people will die and everything will disappear.

Let everything become an old dream, live a simple life, sleep peacefully, and the sun will smile at you tomorrow.

Good morning, middle-aged man.