Sisters, would you like to marry a QJ criminal? How to convince your family?

As a male friend, I also express some immature views when I see LZ's road of love frustration. Said a lot, the length is longer. Friends who are a little tired of surfing the Internet should do an eye exercise first. Ready ... Keep watching.

get to the point.

Personally, there are no absolute "right" and "wrong" in this world, and there are no absolute "good guys" and "bad guys". If this is really the case, then we are all making movies! (Director: You, the walk-on, are you. Remember to help the grandmother cross the road in this scene, and grab the children's lollipops in the next scene. Look natural, OK? )

It is said that your boyfriend committed the crime of QJ at the age of 18, which is just the age when adults can be independent. Maybe it's time to go to college, or maybe it's time to start living on your own feet. In this age when he has just left his parents and has a group of "buddies" who are playing well, he is very likely to go to see HS movies and the like. So curiosity, coupled with physical maturity, and a person who is suitable for committing a crime, can lead him to deviate from the normal state and act contrary to his own thoughts. Namely: crime!

QJ usually causes great mental and physical harm to the victims. However, after seven years in prison, he has paid a corresponding price for his mistakes in his youth. That is to say, from the legal point of view, he has been a free man since he was released. Although his life record will be indelible from now on.

then, I would like to ask you, when you were at school, did you cheat in the exam? Many people will say weakly that this is not a crime. Yes, it's not a crime. But I believe that many people, including myself, want to keep this scandal in the deepest part of their hearts. Why? Because it's disgraceful, it's unfair to those students who didn't cheat, and let their parents know, they also have no face.

if you are caught cheating, will you be punished? The general situation is: fail the exam on the spot or cancel the qualification of all subjects. This is the price of making mistakes. Have a good time? Hey, if I had known, I wouldn't have QJ! Oh, I was wrong again. I'm sorry. However, in your future study and life, will teachers and classmates label you as a "cheating brother"? The answer is no, because you have been punished, you have returned to the starting point, and everyone is equal.

to go back to what I said before, that is to say, many criminal acts are mostly done on the spur of the moment, not on purpose. For example, if you find a wallet on the ground and there is no one around, in this case, if you take it away, it is actually a "temporary idea". Because the cost can be ignored and you can benefit yourself, it drives you to have this idea. But that doesn't mean you're inherently bad.

to sum up, as well as what LZ said, your boyfriend Qiang is a kind-hearted and motivated person. And after learning this lesson, I believe his life will get better and better. But I also want to advise you not to get hot-headed because of what I said before. Be sure to remember that in life, pay attention to your boyfriend's friends, observe more, think carefully and analyze. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. People with the same personality and preferences usually walk together. I believe you should understand what I mean. Although most women's IQ will drop to zero when they are in love, I believe that you are an exception.

As for your parents, believe me, except them, no one in this world is willing to give up everything for you, including life. Maybe when you are a mother in the future, you will naturally understand their pains.

However, as people born 2 or 3 years before us, their outlook on life and world is very different from our modern concept. In your parents' time, you may not attach great importance to material things, but you will attach great importance to a person's character and sense of responsibility. Coupled with the special times they have experienced, they refuse to believe in a person's quality too early. For people with criminal records, there is even more resistance. Therefore, I will also worry that you will make a mistake and make a mistake. In addition, China people are all face-saving, and there is a custom that "good news travels fast without going out". I believe your parents are also worried that if you get married, you will be pointed at in front of old classmates, old friends and neighbors, and you will lose your head and face in life.

Outsiders can see many things clearly, but insiders live a hard life. If you say something offensive, why should everyone be so "face-saving and suffer"? In fact, parents also want to see their children happy and spend their lives safely and happily. If your parents can let go of this mental burden, I believe all problems can be solved. It's not terrible to get stuck in a dead end. I'm afraid I just don't want to come out. I've circled a mental cell for myself, but it's my closest family who gets hurt.

Solution: Make a suggestion. You can take your boyfriend to visit (or meet by chance, think for yourself) your parents' brothers and sisters (that is, your uncles, uncles and aunts) and grandparents, as well as your parents' old classmates and friends, as well as neighbors, including children, dogs and kittens, and walk around more. Your parents should also come and go frequently. Note that it is not enough to just walk around. When you go to be a guest, bring some small gifts, and you will be OK when you get your heart, and it won't cost much.

If your boyfriend is smart, he will look at things and do things. When he meets his elders, he will have dessert. If he needs help, he will take the initiative to give him a hand. (In fact, you should also carefully observe this. Generally, you can take the initiative to help others. After marriage, you will share the housework with you; If you still need to be reminded, half of the situation after marriage can be shouted; If you don't respond at all, you won't even say a word: I'll do this. Then you should think for yourself, too. )

On the other hand, when chatting with elders, you can talk about the past with a natural expression and sincere attitude. Slowly let everyone accept your boyfriend: the young man has done a good job, treated the girl well, and made progress quickly. The past is over, so we should all look forward to it. It is unnecessary to always carry a psychological burden. And so on, after a long time, let people around your parents recognize your relationship with your boyfriend. Then invite some elders to do ideological work. I believe your parents can still be reasonable. This is called "encirclement" tactics, and Chairman Mao was very good at using this method in the war.

however, there is a but in the end! That is, the premise must be that you and your boyfriend have a good relationship, they know each other, have the same interests and hobbies, and are willing to work hard for the same thing (having a baby is behind, don't worry), all of which are details to increase feelings. When two people are together, it is necessary to advance and retreat together in everything. I believe that as long as you are willing, the flower of love will grow more and more beautiful. Didn't Milu, the coach who took the national football team to the World Cup, say that? Attitude is everything!

well, that's all, and everyone's suffering can be over.

finally, I wish LZ a sweet love and an early date.

PS: When you get married, there is no love. Oh, it's "pro" love! You know what "pro" means, right?