Strong rural women

I was born in the countryside and worked with my elders. I really feel my head turned to loess. I envy city people since I was a child. Although I don't know how they live, the rural women I remember always have a hard time.

Left-behind mother

At the time when I was born, the concept of son preference was still very strong. Many families have three children, two daughters and a little son. Even if family planning is strict, they will have a son even if they are desperate. Even in hiding, they live in fear every day.

The same is true of Empress He in the same village. His husband's three brothers are all daughters of the first child, but the second child was lucky enough to have a son. However, her second child is still a daughter, and she has no choice but to send her second daughter to her parents' home for raising. She gave her eldest daughter TOEFL to her husband's family and went to other places.

A few years later, she came back with a 3.4-year-old boy. Many people gossip, as if she secretly gave birth to a son in other places in recent years. She is lucky, but she still has a son.

This time, when she came back, she took the boss and the second child back to her side, paid a maternity fine, and stayed in the countryside with her three children. She is a beautiful girl in our village. She studied for several years, but in order to raise three children, she had to live apart from her husband, willing to be a peasant woman and undertake the heavy farm work in the countryside alone. I have to send three children to school sooner or later. I have to wash clothes, cook, raise pigs and ducks when I come back. No matter how sunny the sun is, I have to work in the fields. When the children come back, I have to face three children's chickens flying and dogs jumping. Speaking of homework, I saw her cry several times. "If it weren't for you, I wouldn't feel so guilty. You are still so angry with me." Even if she is wronged by every means, she is usually alone, rarely fights with other peasant women, and will not solve problems by gossiping and saying goodbye to her family.

Every three days before the Chinese New Year, He Niangniang's husband will come back early for the Chinese New Year, with big bags of candy and snacks and suits. I heard that he is starting a business outside. Every time this period of time is her happiest day, her face is always full of smiles and she doesn't show her usual complaints at all. She wears slim clothes that she doesn't usually wear, with beautiful long braids in her hair and a red face, just like a gentle little wife, which makes people feel pity. She will carefully prepare the family's favorite meals, and her husband, like a big child, takes several children everywhere to play with guns and watch the fun.

She cherishes it every year. Her husband plays cards with her, and her husband visits relatives. She also dresses up the children beautifully and tries her best to make relatives and friends feel that they are a match made in heaven. Every year, I look forward to the appearance of their family wearing new clothes on the first day, and at the same time make sure that there is a virtuous mother and the children live a completely different life.

During this period, many people rumored that her husband was raising a woman outside, looking for it again and again. At the worst time, he said that he had found a married man and was beaten. But she didn't make trouble or cry. Dont Ask For Help made a rumor and didn't respond. As always, she takes good care of her children and her family. Sometimes when I go to visit her children, I will meet her and her husband on the phone, talking about family affairs gently and calmly, which is not as dramatic as the legend. I think she must feel that the other party deserves her to stick to this family, and the other party has given her enough confidence to stick to it.

Many years later, I have been working. Back home, I heard from my father that her two daughters are now admitted to graduate schools and her son is also in college. Their family bought a house in the city. Now I rent a house at school to take care of my son's life, but now I have more free time, so I buy tickets from time to time to meet my husband. I don't think she needs to stay here after her son graduated from college.

Every woman who stays behind is very difficult. The warmth of love and the future of children must be chosen. She must bear the pain of raising three babies alone and the physical fatigue brought by life. Fortunately, however, her children are perfect, and her husband and she stick to their original intention together. This is the greatest comfort to her. I hope that every left-behind mother can keep the clouds floating, and everything is worth it.

? The second best grandmother

This time it's about a distant aunt of mine. She is many years older than my mother. Her eldest daughter, in her thirties, died of illness, leaving two women and a son. The older girls are 9 and 7 years old respectively. The youngest is only 4 years old. The white-haired man sent the black-haired man, and the son-in-law ran away. Anyway, we can't get in touch. So this grandmother, who is over 500 years old, can only shoulder the sadness and resist the future of her three children.

She hasn't read much, and she is too old to go out to work to support three children. The only hope is rural land. It is worth mentioning that she has a good labor force, working from morning till night without stopping, neither thirsty nor hungry. Others can only carry corn on their baskets 2.3 times. She filled two huge bamboo baskets at a time, carrying a shoulder pole on her shoulder, and when her shoulder resisted, she picked it up with strong steps and fast steps. After several trips, others were still busy in the field, and she had gone back to peel corn and dried a bazi of big corn. So many people are busy at home and have no time to ask her for help, and she can earn some extra money.

No matter what crops are planted every year, her harvest is the highest, and the harvested grain is big and looks good. Not only did she plant the land herself, but everyone else went to work in other places, and she also planted all the wasteland. When I was a child, no matter on the way to and from school, I could always see her shuttling between various crops, tanned and thin, but her small arms and calves were tight and looked full of strength. She sometimes picks manure to water the land, sometimes picks up baskets and weeds, and sometimes picks up hoes to grow sweet potatoes. monsoon rains is open all year round. Most of the harvest is sold as money for children to learn and live.

She not only does farm work outside, but also manages the housework of a large family at home. Every time I wash clothes, there are 2.3 large basins, which are 10 meter long from the clothes rail on this side of the house. It's not that there are too many clothes, but that the work in the field is too busy. Does anyone share it? There is also a grandfather running outside all day at home, and his income is slightly stable. Children's clothes are often dirty, and they can't be worn anymore, so they are stored in big pots. When there are really no clothes to change, she has time to wash them again. The child will come back when she is older. First of all, she will pump enough water from the well at one time and teach the children to wash slowly. Although it is not clean, when she comes back, she will scold first and then ask for a new wash. Later, the children washed clean every time.

She is good at cooking and taught several children to cook very early. Before I could cut the vegetables, several children in her family set the table. Every time I go to her house for dinner during the Chinese New Year holiday, the dishes are the most, stewed and stir-fried, everything is complete, with good color, flavor and taste. Now that the children are older, she is often only responsible for lighting the fire and directing several children to cook, when to add seasoning and when to mix water. The three brothers and sisters are quite obedient, serving, cooking and washing dishes. Division of labor and cooperation have won praises from many relatives and friends.

Later, in order to send her children to vocational schools in other places, she borrowed money everywhere to raise tuition fees. Although she was rejected a lot at first, Xiao Yu, a hardworking family and many people who knew her difficulties, chose to believe that she would repay the loan as soon as possible, and finally she borrowed enough tuition. After that, she stayed at home and still worked hard day and night to pay off her debts.

After many years, I went back, passed by her vegetable field and saw her fertilizing in the scorching sun. Her hair has turned white by more than half, her wrinkles are deeper and her skin is darker. When you see me, you will greet them quickly, talk to me about the schools of those children, and ask if they have jobs now, so that I can take care of them more. She said one-way, and I don't know how long I can take care of them in this old bones. You'd better have a father and a mother,

I answered her sadly, don't worry, aunt, you have tried your best, and you have taught them many life skills. As for them, they have grown up, so just wait and enjoy them. They will not only take care of themselves, but also let you live a good life in the future.

A face of vicissitudes of my aunt sighed and said; "I just want them to live a good life. This life is enough for me. If I go there, I will be worthy of their mother. " Sue's eyes are actually wet. She raised her calloused hand, wiped a tear from the corner of her eye, and quickly told me to go back, saying that the sun is big, don't bask in it, and go back to cook when I'm busy here.

Later, all three brothers and sisters took part in the work, and the old aunt continued to stay at home. When she was exhausted, she went to see them by coach from time to time. Every time I bring them a lot of food from my hometown, I usually raise a large group of chickens and ducks in my hometown and keep eggs and ducks for several children. Many of them were sold for money. During the Spring Festival, there are fresh and delicious local chickens and ducks to eat. She said that her mother didn't care about them, but they all did.

I believe that the causal cycle will be in the same boat. In the future, these children will definitely feed back grandma's hard work over the years.

? Three rural images

All the people in the countryside are suffering. A woman married a gambler's husband, but had to leave her children behind, endure the separation of flesh and blood, and kept wandering outside to pay off debts, supporting a family by herself.

Over the years, she couldn't give birth to a woman whose son was laughed at by Qili Baxiang and forced to drink pesticides to commit suicide. Later, she gave birth to a son, but it is said that it is not her husband's. She bravely took her son out to start a business for him and was not overwhelmed by gossip.

She gave birth to two sons in one breath and said she was pregnant before she got married. She is an unruly woman. Her husband didn't defend her. It is said that even her husband doesn't like her. She hasn't come back once in years. She stood up for right and wrong, took two sons, and raised them into high flyers with certainty. She bought a new house alone in a small town, far from the center of right and wrong.

Of course, there are also happy women who go to Gai Lou with their husbands when they are in the countryside. Later, their husbands opened factories in other places and became bosses, and they also managed the factories with their husbands. Although some couples have been underdeveloped, they are very loving. They usually farm together at home. When not busy, my husband goes to the construction site to do construction, and my wife washes and cooks at home.

However, no matter what kind of life, adversity or prosperity, they all get bitterness and joy. The tenacity in the bones of rural women is reflected in all aspects of life. They never leave their families and children, treat life seriously and responsibly, and are willing to endure hardships and pay. Like Optimus Prime with indomitable spirit, although his strength is limited, he gives everything selflessly, supporting his simple love and belief.