Are there more people in pain or happiness?

The first and most important consolation is today’s heart

Why lose your current mood because of painful regrets, why be in panic all day long because of inexplicable worries. The past is gone forever, no matter how much you regret it, it will be useless. The future is still elusive and out of reach, and no matter how much you worry, it will be in vain and sad. Today’s heart, today’s things, and today’s people are real and feel good. Of course, it is wise to summarize past experiences and prevent future risks.

Yesterday has passed, but tomorrow has not come yet. It's true today.

The second comfort is that you can only heal your heartache by yourself

Why lose your current mood because of painful regrets. It is also necessary to vent your complaints occasionally. But endless complaints will only add to your troubles and show your incompetence to others. Complaining is a fatal negative mentality. Once your complaining becomes a bad habit, your life will be dark. Not only will you lose your good mood, but others will also be unlucky. Complaining does no good, optimism is the most important thing.

The third comforting and good mood is created by oneself

We often cannot change other people's opinions. The only thing that can change is ourselves. A bad life does not lie in other people's sins, but in our bad moods. The golden key to making life better is not in the hands of others. If we give up our resentment and sighs, a better life will be within our reach. We subjectively want to live a good life, but objectively we do not have a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives.

Don’t expect to change others, be the master of your own life.

The fourth comfort is to do what you should do with your heart

Life is so short, how can you waste it? A wise philosopher once said: "There are people on the street. Scold me, I won't even look back, I don't want to know this boring person at all!" We neither want to hurt others, nor should we be influenced by other people's criticism. We should follow our own wishes and learn our skills steadily first. Especially when you are young, you should go all out to learn skills and don't get distracted.

The fifth consolation is: Don’t always be in trouble with yourself

Learning to appreciate yourself is equivalent to having the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not self-admiration, appreciating yourself is not self-respecting, appreciating yourself You are not narcissistic, and appreciating yourself is not complacent... Give yourself some confidence, give yourself a little happiness, give yourself a smile, why worry about not having the happiness of life?!

Always give yourself some Celebrate the holidays by yourself and learn to find a happy mood.

The sixth consolation is not to chase worldly honors

If you spend your life looking for the so-called things recognized by others, you will forever lose your own happiness and happiness. Vulgar comments will annihilate your own personality, and worldly advice will make you overwhelmed. Taking money for the sake of money will make you disown your relatives, taking power for the sake of power will make you bold, and taking fame for the sake of fame will make you rob. In the deliberate pursuit, the real me will turn into pieces flying in the wind, and the secular me has become hateful. After gaining kitsch and losing truth, we must strengthen our confidence and have ourselves.

The seventh consolation is extremely undesirable

Some people often become mentally disturbed because of excessive worry; some people are indifferent to anything because of insensitivity. The former often suffer from the search for reason, and decline because of being too smart. The root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. The latter does not know what regret is, and lives in a muddle all day long. There is no difference between living and dying.

Going to extremes will always lead to miserable failure, looking for the wisdom of life.

The 8th consolation is not to care too much about other people’s evaluations

There is no painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is no person that is not discussed by others. If you are taciturn, some people will accuse you of "the city is deep"; if you are good at talking, some people will accuse you of "boasting"; if you praise others, some people will accuse you of "ulterior motives"; if you criticize kindly, some people will get furious and think that " have a finger in the pie".

Just by looking at other people’s faces, you can decide whether you are alive or not. Have yourself but not be limited to yourself.

The 9th consolation is that the more evil thoughts you have, the deeper the pain will be.

Why can’t you live in peace? The key is not exorcising the devil in your heart in time. Because you have evil thoughts in your heart, you will not be able to restrain yourself rationally and will often do stupid things that you regret. Because the dust in the soul is not cleaned in time, the weak-willed will fall into the deep pool from time to time. Because if you are often distracted by ghosts, you will be blinded by stupidity, and you will not know that you have entered the wrong side of the road.

If you have evil thoughts in your heart, you will feel restless and get rid of evil thoughts.

The 10th consolation is to be careful not to live too tiredly

People often lament that living is really tiring. Tiredness means great mental pressure; tiredness means heavy psychological burden. Being tired and not being tired are always relative. If you don't want to be tired, you must learn to relax; the most important thing in life is relaxation. A tired heart will make a person fall into a sub-healthy state; a tired heart will make one lose energy.

Don’t be too tired and learn to free yourself.

The 11th consolation: Everyone has their own way of living

You know your own pain, your own sadness, and your own happiness. Maybe the hell in your own eyes is the hell in the eyes of others; maybe the heaven in your eyes is the hell in the eyes of others. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring lies in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your own mentality.

The most important thing is to live your own life well, not to compare yourself with others.

The 12th comfort to slaves who do not want to be slaves

People always lament that "moths fly into the flame", people always ridicule "fish takes the bait", people always laugh at "getting stuck in the quagmire" ". But if you think about it carefully, are there many tragedies of this kind of desire around us in our lives? The human heart is not enough. Those who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true ones! We must always be wary of bad desires.

Be kind and get rid of bad desires, and do not indulge yourself.

The 13th consolation is to live a relaxed and happy life

If you don’t blindly compare with others, you will be leisurely and contented; if you don’t set your life goals too high, you will always be happy. ; If you don’t deliberately pursue perfection, you will stay away from pain; if you don’t be harsh on yourself all the time, you will live at ease; if you don’t always find fault, you will be relaxed.

If you live too tiredly, you will be miserable, but you will always be happy when you are content.

The 14th consolation is that you will embrace life only if you like yourself

Being blindly arrogant and self-respecting is a life of pride and ignorance, and blindly giving up on yourself is a life of negativity and pessimism. It is more difficult to understand yourself than to understand others, and it is even more difficult to like yourself than to like others. With healthy and appropriate self-esteem, you will be extra strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself to the temptation of the outside world, don't deny yourself because of temporary setbacks. Always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself optimistically and pertinently.

If you don’t even love yourself, how can you love others? Like yourself.

The 15th consolation is to see the world with good eyes

If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if the people are clear, there will be no friends. If you cannot tolerate the shortcomings of others, then everyone will become a "bad guy" and you will not be able to live in peace. If you look at the world from an "evil" perspective, the world will be broken everywhere; if you look at the world from a "good" perspective, there will always be something lovely in the world. The more you see the good points in others, the more lovable they will be.

Sages must "think three times a day" and be tolerant of each other. The 16th consolation is that you don’t have to blindly please others

It is impossible and unnecessary to please everyone. To please everyone is to offend everyone. Deliberately trying to please others will only make others disgusted. You need to be natural in getting close to others, and your "speculative" mentality needs to change. If you have time to please, it is better to do things down-to-earth. It is always unreliable to please others. Only by working hard can you be real.

If you blindly please others, you will lose yourself. It is important to enrich yourself.

The 17th consolation is to let nature take its course once everything is done

It will be of no use to regret your past behavior after the uncooked rice has been cooked. The only wise way is, how to Handle the following matters properly and don't make things worse.

The water that has been thrown out cannot be recovered, and the wood that has been carved into the boat cannot be restored to its original state. Knowing these simple truths, you can deal with the remaining problems calmly.

Regret does no good, don't make things worse.

The 18th consolation is that although the material is poor, the mentality is not poor

Material poverty is not terrible, but psychological poverty is terrible. Poverty is often associated with downfall, and poverty is often associated with lack of ambition. If you are psychologically poor, the rich can also become poor. If you are psychologically rich, even the poor can become rich. Material poverty combined with despair will quickly destroy a person's body; self-confidence and self-reliance, although material poverty is temporary, good times will come soon.

When a person is poor, his ambition is not short, and he strives for self-improvement.

The 19th Consolation: There are blessings among blessings and blessings among disasters

Don’t be dazzled by temporary gains and losses and be intoxicated with temporary victory. You must be prepared for danger in times of peace, and never take credit or be arrogant or complacent. Being intoxicated with victory means stopping and pausing. Being intoxicated with victory means losing vigilance. Never let up on the road of life, victory is just a small signpost. If you want to achieve the final victory, just work hard, work hard, and work hard again.

Don’t be fooled by temporary gains. Whoever laughs last will laugh happiest.

The 20th consolation is to live a fulfilling life

Living every day well is the greatest happiness. Happiness comes from feeling good every day. If you always worry about the risks of tomorrow and cannot erase the shadow of yesterday, how can your life be satisfactory today? If you always compare with the incomparable and always fantasize about the unattainable, how can your mind be peaceful today? Anything unrealistic will It is the source of pain, and the biggest killer of life is sorrow and anxiety.

Suffering comes from lack of fulfillment. If you live a fulfilling life, you will not have random thoughts.

The 21st consolation: life should be joyful in a moderate way

Appropriate entertainment activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy can easily turn into harm. When things are extreme, they will be opposite; when they are limited, they will change. "Everywhere that is pleasant is where there are many diseases." "Chess is a way to relax, but it can easily arouse the anger. ..." Blindly carousing and having fun is a superficial life, and it often results in painful regrets. A life of optimism is to enjoy yourself to the fullest. The extreme joy that brings about sorrow is not limited to entertainment, but involves all aspects of life.

Happiness and sorrow go hand in hand. A moderate degree of joy will always keep joy company.

The 22nd consolation: It may be happier to change your way of life

When you are extremely unhappy at work and feel like there are walls everywhere, is it necessary to change the environment? When you If you are extremely unhappy in your marriage and feel like you are in an ice cellar all the time, do you have the courage to break through the siege? When you are used to accepting things, will you stand up and say "no"? People who are confident and capable of self-improvement are good at adjusting their living conditions. Excerpted from Daquan.com

Don’t live too useless, Shu Xin is the spirit of happiness.

The 23rd consolation is to put aside your troubles temporarily

Life is too short, why should you always live unhappy. It is normal to have worries, but it is abnormal to have no worries. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go see a movie, listen to some music, sing a song, play a song, enjoy the sunshine...

Let your troubles go to hell Come on, have fun first.

The 24th foundation of comfort and joy lies in oneself

Most people always place their joy in life on external affairs and attach themselves to worldly recognition. They attach great importance to status, property, treatment, reputation and other things. Once they lose these, it will be a heavy blow. They will often be in pain, and the foundation of their happiness and happiness will also be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is quite far away from us.

Why let others evaluate your happiness? Take control of yourself.

The 25th comfort feeling is happiness

Many people are deliberately pursuing the so-called happiness; although some get it, the price is huge. Many philosophers say that happiness is a feeling, just like "Buddha" is in our hearts. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction and is closely related to people's mood and mentality. The sages said: The harder it is to get, the deeper the love, and to have happiness, always think about the difficulties.

A person's greatest sorrow is that he never feels happy.

Happiness is a feeling. If you are not satisfied, you will never be happy

The 26th consolation is to "think openly" to have a happy mood

"With the spirit of transcendence , do the cause of joining the world." This famous saying that integrates the essence of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism makes people more cheerful, open-minded and detached. "Can't think about it" is always related to the word "crazy", and the main crux of it is to get into trouble. "Thinking openly" is always related to the word "wisdom", and the main reason is still taking a step back to open up the world. Taoism's "retreat to advance" and Laozi's "Tao always does nothing but does everything", which is really the great wisdom of life! Excerpted from Daquan.com

If there is anything you can't think of, you can retreat and advance, you can bend and stretch.

The 27th comfort trouble is that you can’t live with yourself

The more troubles a person has, the more troubles he will have; the happier a person is, the more joy he will have. If you only worry about troubles, then troubles still exist objectively and show no signs of decreasing. On the contrary, because of the chain reaction of troubles, your mood will become heavier and more distressed. If you continue to turn suffering into happiness and change the mentality of "doing one thing and complaining about another", you can gain your own happiness.

Time is wasted in troubles, face life with a smile.

No. 28: Comfort your own pain and heal it yourself

Don’t expect others to heal your pain. Only you can convince yourself, and only you can figure it out. , can the heart disease be completely cured. Frustrations, mistakes, misfortunes, hardships... are the only way to have a deeper understanding of life and to gain a deeper understanding of the connotation of life. Only those who conquer themselves have the power to conquer everything.

Healing the pain of the soul once is equivalent to sublimating the soul once. The winner is stronger.

The 29th consolation is that you must not despair

The sky is unpredictable, and people are prone to misfortunes and blessings. It is a miracle that you do not get sick in your life, and ordinary illnesses are extremely normal. I occasionally fell ill, and when I met a quack doctor, I suspected it was a terminal illness, and I was in agony. The disease did not take away my life, but the threats made me half dead. We must be optimistic and cautious about diseases, and we must not let the wind be the rain.

How can people not get sick if they eat whole grains? Don't scare yourself, don't sit across from each other.

The 30th consolation: There are always regrets in life

Shi Zhenlin, a native of the Qing Dynasty, said in "Xiqing Sanji": "There are regrets in life: being young, having no good friends, being strong. Good deeds have no reputation. "Poverty is a pity for two reasons: spitting on one's face is a matter of rank, and a pity on one's knees is a matter of honor." "It is a pity for a rich person to be stingy in the face of great righteousness, and greed is the cause of heavy responsibility." There are three things that a wise person has a pity for: making arrogant remarks is called being weak, flaunting one's rewards is called being arrogant, being angry and arousing is called being impetuous. It’s a shame.” Excerpted from the 31st consolation of Daquan.com: “Let go” and you will be in a good mood

If the load on the mind is too heavy, there will be too many worries. Love what you see, want what you see, can you not be worried? Clean your mind in time and don't let the dust in your mind accumulate too thick. You must know that life is short and not everything can be achieved. Unfortunately: not everyone understands.

You must give up the things that worry you and travel light.

No. 32: Comfort more and act rationally and less emotionally.

You can’t do things based on your own emotions, and you can’t just do things based on your own feelings. Acting on emotion will lead to trouble. Sometimes my perception is wrong, things are not as simple as imagined, and appearances are always easy to confuse people. If you do things rationally, you won't have to worry about it over and over again. If you do things rationally, you won't make big mistakes. If you do things rationally, you won't regret it. Remember: Don’t be too impulsive in everything!

Don’t just follow your feelings, think more to avoid regrets.

No. 33 Comfort Silence can save a lot of troubles

The more you talk incessantly, the more your stupidity will be exposed. The more you listen attentively, the happier your wisdom will grow. Listening is a good way to learn from others' strengths and make up for one's own shortcomings; listening is a bridge to communicate with each other and respect each other; listening is a magic weapon to abandon mistakes and stay away from regrets.

Don't think that being good at speaking and arguing is your own ability. You may hurt other people's self-esteem if you are not careful, or you may unintentionally sow the seeds of misfortune. Excerpted from Daquan.com

Learning to listen is the greatest wisdom, don’t talk all the time.

The 34th consolation: Only trustworthy people can associate with you with confidence

You cannot deal with rogues, otherwise, there will be no peace every day. Don't deal with people who are duplicitous, otherwise, you must always beware of the danger of being betrayed. Don't deal with people who have no credit, otherwise you will be troubled at any time. Don't deal with a mean and vicious person, otherwise he may take your life. Don't deal with people who have a bad reputation, otherwise your reputation will be tarnished from time to time.

Not everyone can be friends, so be careful when making friends.

The 35th consolation is that people who don’t like to learn are stupid.

Smart people are always humble and eager to learn, and are not ashamed to ask questions. The more the better; stupid people are always proud to show the world, use their mouths instead of their hearts, and always teach others. . Smart people grow up in learning, enjoy life in wisdom, and learn in life; stupid people weaken in ignorance, worry about life in clumsiness, and never take the initiative to learn lessons. Excerpted from Daquan.com

Smart people are easy to learn, and the more they listen, the more they learn.

The 36th consolation: think less about people and more about things

How tiring it is to think about people all day long! How good it is to spend some time thinking about more problems! Nature has There are so many questions that we need to explore, and decades of life are so short. Successful people always focus on their careers and let the sparks of wisdom shine in their work; failed people always spend time on boring "personnel affairs" and are always stuck in the quagmire of "enmity and resentment". Don't waste your time on personnel disputes. It's a waste of time and energy without any output.

When it comes to personnel disputes, you should reduce major issues to minor ones and focus on the right path.

The 37th consolation: Honesty is the basis and trust is the most important

Honesty is the foundation of life and the foundation of success. Some people say that a gentleman should cultivate his heart more than sincerity. Some people say that being clever and hypocritical is not as good as being sincere. Some people also say that those who move others with sincerity will also establish themselves with sincerity. Honesty is the crystallization of self-confidence, generosity and strength. People who are selfless at heart are naturally open and aboveboard. Honesty is the minimum standard of personality. Honest people can be trusted and entrusted with important responsibilities. Deception is the biggest enemy of honesty. Be wary of all kinds of hypocritical "honesty".

Hypocrisy will not last long, it is better to be honest.

The 38th comfort is to be lenient with others and be strict with oneself

The charm of personality mostly comes from being strict with oneself. People with self-discipline can win a good social reputation. Successful people are always tolerant of others and strict with themselves; failed people are always strict with others and tolerant of themselves. Indulging oneself and demanding others often leads to resentment from others and makes one become a loner. If you ask others to do it, you must do it yourself first. Only by closing the door and thinking about your own mistakes can you continue to make progress. Being more tolerant of others will surely lead to sincerity and friendship.

Having strict requirements on yourself and relaxing yourself will harm yourself.

No. 39: Ten rules of comfort and interpersonal communication

Don’t always come uninvited and endlessly; don’t always interrupt at any time; don’t always add to others’ Trouble; never mention money matters unless you are in a hurry; don't make any demands on others; don't look at each other with a critical eye; be good at tolerating others and don't ask for too much; a little distance, distance creates beauty;

Don't rely on others casually.

Be understanding and tolerant of others. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

The 40th consolation is to learn to get along with others as equals

Neither look down upon anyone, nor respect anyone without reason. Because you despise the other person, the other person will be devalued as worthless in your eyes, and you will offend or insult others. Because you respect the other person, you will forget the other person's flaws and develop over-reliance on the other person, and your own wisdom will be lost. Excerpted from Daquan.com

It is foolish to irrationally look down on and look down upon others. Live in harmony and equality.

No. 41: Don’t lose your composure when you are proud and don’t lose your composure when frustrated

You must be extra cautious when you are in good times, otherwise you will easily become extremely happy and sad.

It is easy to get carried away when you are proud in life. Once you get carried away, you will not know your last name, so evil thoughts and deeds will take advantage of this gap. You must be extra patient when facing adversity, otherwise you may die early. When you are frustrated in life, you tend to lose your composure. Once you lose your composure, you don’t know your future, so negativity and despair will take advantage of this gap.

Look at the ups and downs of life with a smile and guard your heart.

No. 42: Remember the kindness of comforting others

Short-sighted people are always "ungrateful", asking for help everywhere in times of crisis, and never showing up after the work is done. When you ask for help, you make a promise, but when you succeed, you do whatever you want. This kind of person is the most despised. Being "ungrateful" makes friends sad, and being "ungrateful" is a sign of eagerness for quick success. "Ungrateful" only benefits temporarily, but it will always break people's trust.

Don’t burn bridges across rivers. Crossing rivers and burning bridges will cut off your own retreat.

The 43rd consolation: Don’t overtalk

You must leave room for words and don’t “die” your words. If you say absolutely everything, there will be no room for maneuver. Once you fall into the "impasse" of language, you can imagine how passive and awkward you will feel. The art of speaking is to make people have room for advancement and retreat. Don't overdo it when you are angry. Angry words are actually nonsense. After you calm down, you will have a lot of regrets.

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The 44th consolation is to be good at eliminating misunderstandings

Gullibility is a misunderstanding media, suspicion is the soil for misunderstanding. There are always knots in your heart. When will you feel relaxed and happy? Once a misunderstanding is formed, it must be analyzed correctly and avoid narrow prejudice and subjective judgment. Seek understanding with candor and communicate with each other in a friendly manner. The best thing is face-to-face communication.

Don’t let misunderstandings get deeper and deeper, be good at resolving them.

The 45th comfort is not to ignore others

Loneliness is often the product of neglect. If you ignore others, you will be easily ignored by others. Don't be arrogant, arrogant, and do whatever you want, which will definitely make people disgusted. People with an arrogant personality are also easily abandoned by others. Don't deliberately avoid others, and don't deliberately approach others. Let everything take its course.

Pay attention to others, appreciate others and don’t be too aloof.

No. 46: Comfort and respect others

Respecting others is equal to respecting yourself. Everyone has something to respect. If you are good at discovering the strengths of others, you will respect others. To learn to respect others, you must first learn to change roles. Respecting others is also a lubricant in interpersonal relationships. Not respecting others is tantamount to isolating yourself. To respect others, you must be sincere. Respect others, reflected in words and actions, the latter is more important than the former; mutual respect makes life full of laughter.

Respect wins a good reputation, respect is gold

The 47th consolation is taken when it is necessary to take it and when it is necessary to give it up

Everything you want is often given. Can't get it. Human life is limited, energy is limited, people have different environments and abilities, all of which determine the criteria for choice. When you should take it, do it without hesitation and move forward bravely; when you should give it up, there will be no hidden pain and no regrets. Any behavior that worries about gains and losses can only increase the psychological burden and invisibly increase stumbling blocks.

If you learn to give up, you will have better possessions and travel lightly.

No. 48 Comfort and always have compassion

It is human nature to desire sympathy, especially for the weak. Being willing to sympathize is a virtue, especially for the strong. Sympathize with a person who is in trouble, extend a warm hand of friendship and give him selfless help, and pay attention to the skills and methods of sympathy so as not to damage the dignity of the other person, so as to help him get out of the embarrassment and get back on his feet.

Kind people always have compassion and do good and get good.

The 49th Consolation: Always reflect on yourself

No one is a saint, and no one can have faults. You should reflect on yourself three times a day. Thinking about your own mistakes often will help you make great progress. Frequent introspection and being good at summarizing are conducive to utilizing strengths and making up for weaknesses. Reflection is beneficial to self-discipline, and reflection promotes maturity. Reflection and self-blame are two different things. Reflection is not to blame oneself, but to correct one's mistakes.

Reflect on yourself more, belittle others less, reflect more, blame yourself less.

The 50th consolation: don’t make too many requests

If you ask for one request, you will do your best; if you ask for two requests, you will reluctantly agree; if you ask for three requests, you will feel unhappy; if you ask for four requests, you will feel unhappy. If you ask for five requests, you will get angry; if you ask for five requests, you will get bad words; if you ask for six requests, you will be hurt physically and mentally. Making too many demands will only make you annoying. Make fewer unreasonable demands. Please ask yourself: If you ask a lot from others, what have you done for them?

More demands make people upset, so why not replace demands with suggestions

The 51st comfort can change your life The only one with color is yourself

The color of life will be different if your mood is different. No matter what life situation you are in, if you are optimistic and cheerful, proactive, sincerely blessing, and study hard, then your life will become colorful and gorgeous. If you are pessimistic and depressed, negative and backward, hypocritical and idle, then your life will become dark and miserable. Mood is a variable, luck changes with your heart, and the palette of happiness in life is in your own hands.

If your heart is as gray as ashes, how can you have the mood to live? If your mentality is good, your life will be good.

The 52nd Comfort Distance is also a kind of beauty

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. The soul needs a certain distance, and people need to have a sense of proportion in their interactions. If the collision is too violent, cracks may easily occur; if the feelings are too strong, the mind may become hot. You may lose friends in the short distance, but there is a hazy feeling in the distance. The beauty of distance will not burn each other's hearts, but the beauty of distance can increase the friendship between the two parties. The beauty of distance is a long-lasting beauty.

Keep an appropriate distance, as being too close may lead to alienation.

The 53rd comfort is to be at peace with the situation

Sing what you want on any mountain, do what you want to do in any place, live your life in any environment, everything must go with the flow. Individuals are always small, and adapting to the environment is the most important. Take things as they come, and your mind will be at peace. I rarely feel disappointed or complain. Facing reality and constantly working hard is the highest state.

Complaining will only lead to pain, survival of the fittest.

The 54th consolation is to be good at saying "no"

There are too many things in life that you have to say "no" to. Being good at saying "no" is also a philosophy of life. Not being able to say "no" will bring burdens to life, and in serious cases, it will bring disaster in life. Saying "no" in advance is just a temporary discomfort. When necessary, you should say "no" confidently. There are ways and techniques to say "no". Rejecting categorically and rejecting tactfully have different effects. The word "no" in life makes people travel lightly. Saying "no" is sometimes a sign of sincerity.

If you make too many promises, your life will be disturbed, and you will not do things that are impossible to achieve.

The 55th Consolation: Giving in blindly is not advisable

To give in blindly means losing principle; to give in blindly means having no personality; to give in blindly means that you are weak and can be bullied; to give in blindly means that you are weak and can be bullied; It means facing the danger of advancing step by step; blindly giving in means that you will reach a dead end. Sometimes it is better to stand up and resist vigorously. Pushing to the limit is a tactic often used by fools, and repeated concessions will only encourage their arrogance. Take action when it's time to take action, and it's a last resort to be more powerful!

Those who push the envelope should be attacked head-on. Giving in is not necessarily a good thing.

The 56th "Three Sentences" that must be remembered for comfort

"Who is the wisest in the world? He is the one who treats everyone as his teacher. Who is the richest in the world? The one who treats himself The person who is satisfied with what he has. Who is the most powerful in the world? He is the person who is good at controlling himself. "If you learn from others, be content with what you have, and control your desires, you will benefit from them throughout your life." Do you have to remind yourself every day to do it?

Learn the wisdom of life. Stupidity comes from not learning.

No. 57 Comfort: Regret is also a kind of beauty

It is normal to have regrets. A life without regrets is a confused life. Without regrets, there is no joy in life; without regrets, there is no happiness in life. The greater a person's desire, the more regrets he has; the smaller a person's desires, the fewer regrets. Having regrets shows that you have pursued and worked hard. Regrets must also be treated objectively. Regrets due to excessive greed are pathetic, and regrets all day long for little things are undesirable.

Laugh at the regrets in life. It is extremely normal to have regrets in life.

The 58th consolation is that I am afraid that I don’t have any skills

“Being a monk for a day and hitting the clock for a day” will only harm yourself in the end. It is impossible not to make progress and feel good about yourself. People without professional skills will run into obstacles everywhere. People without professional skills will be destitute sooner or later. People without superb professional skills cannot achieve great success. The core of the market economy is the mechanism of competition. Your strength depends on your superb skills. Only by constantly updating knowledge and improving skills can you become a strong person in life.

Have superb professional skills as much as possible, and people without skills will panic.

The 59th Consolation: Suffering a loss may not be a blessing

Suffering a loss often happens, but you must firmly believe that life is always relatively fair. If you are shrewd in everything, always ready to scheme against others, and always love to take advantage of others, in fact you will be the one who suffers the most. Why calculate the profit and loss every second? Give more and take less. Taking a loss can bring you a good reputation, but taking advantage will ruin your reputation.

People who love to take advantage everywhere end up suffering losses and ruining their reputations.

No. 60: Comforting those who are incompetent and slandering those who are capable

If you don’t have any talent, others will look down upon you at all; but once you have some talent and make a difference, others will It will also slander and slander. If I understood this principle of life, would I still be struggling with troubles? So I would work hard with all my heart, and while making progress and achieving results, I would no longer suffer from the slander of others. Inaction becomes action, and action becomes more effective and strives wholeheartedly.

Can you check your own regrets? Regrets are always inevitable. Chapter 61: Don’t belittle people’s self-discipline.

If you want to be happy, you must be tolerant. If you want to seek troubles, , as long as it hurts others. The troubles in life are mostly caused by forgiving yourself but not others. If you blindly belittle others, you will see thorns everywhere; if you blindly harm others, you will see clouds and rain all the time. I often blame myself. Where are the days of Shun and Yao? Progress and success in life stem from deep introspection; regression and failure in life stem from malicious derogation. "Being good at self-examination and short of blaming others" is the secret of life.

If you hurt others with hurtful stings, you will also hurt yourself. Look at the world with kind eyes.