Is the bride price the touchstone or stumbling block of love?

Moderate bride price is the touchstone of love, while excessive bride price will become a stumbling block to love.

Since we are a big country in etiquette and law, we have been very particular about rules in marriage since ancient times. Generally, we will use three media and six employment to show our solemnity. The parents of the man will prepare the bride price, and then invite the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house. If the woman's family wants to do this marriage, then the woman's parents will prepare a dowry for their daughter and bring it to the man's family on the wedding day.

The meaning of the bride price itself is good, to show that the man attaches importance to the woman, but it has gone bad now. Many people only see the bride price, but not the dowry. The reason is ridiculous. They feel that they have worked hard to raise their daughter and go to the man's house if they can make money. If they return the betrothal gift, it is not a slap in the face, but a loss of wife and soldiers, so this distorted psychology leads them to ask for a sky-high bride price.

This phenomenon is particularly common in rural areas. The bride has hundreds of thousands of gifts and dozens of tables, and they will compare with each other. It would be ridiculous if one's daughter doesn't have as much bride price as others' daughters and thinks that one's daughter is not as valuable as others' daughters. Now love and marriage are clearly marked, and the highest bidder wins. My cousin talked about a boy with an average family in college. Their relationship has always been stable. After graduation, the two of them planned to get married, but the aunt asked for hundreds of thousands of bride price. The man's family can't take out so much, so he asked if he could take less. My aunt refused to let them break up, but my cousin didn't want to. My aunt has been making trouble. Finally, my cousin broke up with that boy, and according to my aunt's wishes, I married someone who could pay hundreds of thousands of bride price, but I seldom did.

I have always believed that a good marriage state is that the bride price is paid by the man's family, the dowry is paid by the woman's family, and the two families help a small family together. Moderate bride price and dowry are to make the newly formed small family live better, rather than let the bride price become a stumbling block and finally defeat Yuanyang. Therefore, refuse the high-priced bride price and don't let it become a stumbling block to love. Be moderate and do what you can.