Lin and Lu Xiaoman: They are all rich and rich. What is the difference?

As the saying goes, "sons should be poor, daughters should be rich", and Lin and Lu Xiaoman are "rich" daughters.

Throughout his life, Lin met the "high standard" of raising a rich family.

Both Lin and Lu Xiaoman are good at piano, dance and ink painting; Both of them are born with beauty and elegant temperament.

The former designs the national emblem and the monument to the people's heroes; The latter smoked opium and had an abortion, which made her unable to get pregnant for life.

In this regard, we can't help but ask: How can we raise a good daughter? What's the difference between them?

The Significance and Purpose of Education

Lin's father is an honest official, and they are all studious people. Lin's father wants to turn Lin Pei into an artist or a scholar.

Lujia is also a big family, from Lujia, the founding hero of Dahan, to Lu You, a patriotic poet, all of whom are well-known figures.

Lujia is also wandering in the upper class. Lu Xiaoman's father Lu Ding is not only a bureaucrat, but also a financier. Lu Xiaoman of noble birth stood at the top of the pyramid.

Lu Mu also cultivated Lu Xiaoman in strict accordance with the standards of celebrities and celebrities.

At that time, celebrities were symbols of "glory" and "symbol" in a wealthy family, and even earned greater benefits for the family through their wandering in society.

When Lin/Kloc-0 was 6 years old, Lin's father took Lin to study in Europe, and Lin's father paid more attention to cultivating Lin's hobbies.

Lin's father said: First of all, I want her to observe things in different countries and increase her knowledge.

Second: I want her to feel my mind and ambition by my side.

Third: I want her to stay away from complicated family chores for a while, develop her own knowledge and ability, and improve society in the future.

Enrichment is only a condition, and the realm of parents and the meaning and purpose of education are still the most fundamental. As the saying goes, "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude", finding good interests and cultivating good interests is the purpose of enrichment.

Raising a daughter is to use wealth to create conditions for her to "study in thousands of books and travel in Wan Li" and let her see the outside world, not just be arty.

Cultivating her daughter's hobbies is not to earn money to support herself, but to enrich her spiritual food.

Enrichment is not gorgeous, but temperament.

Every girl has a princess dream, wearing beautiful clothes and the most elegant jewelry, which is understandable to every girl.

At that time, one of the two most famous celebrities in Shanghai was called "Southern Tang and Northern Land", which were Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying.

Tang Ying said: He has ten big suitcases inlaid with gold, and the cabinets are covered with expensive leather clothes; Favorite cheongsam, inlaid with rubies and gold thread; There are specially equipped tailors; However, if a French noble lady has everything, she should have the level of fashion avant-garde, which is unmatched by others.

Someone commented on Lin: she wore a fitted cheongsam, which was simple and generous, and the elegance and nobility of the East were all in it.

There is a saying in The Theory of Abundance: Parents want to give their daughter better material conditions. They don't have to package her with princess status, rich background, gorgeous costumes and aristocratic education. They just hope that one day when he walks alone in the bustling society, he won't be abducted by a man's candy.

This sentence shows the good intentions of parents to their children, but will giving her the best blindly make her live better in the future?

In other words, the material wealth and spiritual wealth of raising a daughter are different. Raising a daughter with material wealth will only attract bees and butterflies, and raising a daughter with spiritual wealth is the elite.

In front of "local tyrants" and "elites", elites are even more eye-catching.

Beauty ages easily, and looks deserve it. Only people will not give up.

having self-respect

Speaking of Lin and Lu Xiaoman, we can't avoid Xu Zhimo, a great talent.

Xu Zhimo and his father Lin are good friends. Xu Zhimo often goes to Lin Changmin. Later, he found that Lin was not only beautiful, but also brilliant.

Therefore, Xu Zhimo fell in love with Lin without hesitation.

Facing the pursuit of romantic poet Lin, I was very moved.

Xu Zhimo abandoned his wife and children in order to be with Lin.

Lin saw Xu Zhimo's deep affection and let her know that Xu Zhimo is an uncertain person who only pursues love.

At the same time, Lin doesn't want to be a third party who destroys other people's families.

There is a saying like this: "You can let someone who is interested in you fall in love, but you have to find someone who is determined to get married."

The same thing happened to Lu Xiaoman, but what he did was quite different from Lin.

When Xu Zhimo met Lu Xiaoman, she had married Wang Geng, but Xu Zhimo still fell in love with his good friend's wife.

Lu Xiaoman also fell in love with the romantic poet, and they divorced regardless of their family's opposition.

After marriage, the scene of talented people and beautiful women did not come to them as scheduled. Lu Xiaoman is the black sheep of his family. He likes to go shopping with his best friend, and enjoys listening to operas. Lu Xiaoman also likes to reward and be generous.

Later, Xu Zhimo died in an air crash.

Lu Xiaoman can hardly take care of herself.

To some people, I like Lu Xiaoman's daring to love and hate, but I love Lin's self-discipline more.

Lin refused Xu Zhimo and married Liang Sicheng. After their marriage, Lin and Liang Sicheng, who are used to luxury and extravagance, traveled to more than 200 counties all over the country, and wrote a brilliant stroke for the architecture of the motherland in order to find the way of ancient architecture.

Some people say; I envy Lu Xiaoman's personality, but I still like Lin's results.

Loving someone may be without hesitation, but the consideration of life is the only criterion to test whether love is appropriate.

Birds of a feather flock together? Circles are very important.

Speaking of Lin, we must talk about "Mrs. Living Room" and Lin's circle of friends.

Is a group of elites in the society at that time-political scientist, economist, physicist Zhou Peiyuan, writer Hu Shi, writer Shen Congwen, philosopher Jin,,,

These people are doing pioneering and groundbreaking work in their different academic fields.

It can really be said: "There is a university in laughter, and there is no Ding Bai in communication."

Lu Xiaoman also has a "wife's living room". They are all celebrities, ladies, rich second generation and constantly chauffeured. ...

Compliment each other, flatter each other, and live a drunken life.

Smoking and playing mahjong together are debauchery.

As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups, and what kind of people will eventually get together.

Confucianism emphasizes that "the three must learn from each other's strengths, choose the good and follow it, and change the bad and follow it." A person's life circle determines that person's character.

The rich girl is not looking for a good school for him, but creating a really nutritious circle for her. A truly nutritious circle is not for being rich, but for being with thoughtful people and making progress together.

What is Fuyang?

Enrichment is to cultivate her hobbies, not "local tyrants" wrapped in gorgeous clothes.

Having money to support her is to teach her how to respect and love herself, and not others can cheat her away in a few words.

Having money to support her means knowing how to be grateful, knowing that her parents raised her through hard work is not a joke in others' mouths.

It is understandable that every girl has another princess dream.

But if you regard these as profligate capital, it is a "local tyrant" rather than a celebrity.