There is a kind of "kindness" called moral kidnapping.

Wen/Wei Chen

Guess what kind of person is a kind person?

I think in most people's minds, kindness and gentleness are integrated, and many people define kindness as "getting along makes people feel comfortable."

This is really a subjective answer. People who feel comfortable with each other are not necessarily kind, but are probably liars. Gentle people are not necessarily kind, and kind people are not necessarily soft-spoken.

Mencius gongsun choushang said: "kindness is the same as others, giving up oneself to follow others, and taking others as good." In life, everyone has their own difficulties. It is not easy to get along with others. Only by putting yourself in the other's shoes can we get along for a long time.

We have an old saying: "It is convenient for others and convenient for ourselves." Sometimes, if you don't embarrass others, you are letting yourself go. Life is so strange. Although we can't directly see the kindness to others and when we can fulfill ourselves, we can always clearly see the malice to others and how to block our own way.

A few days ago, something happened in our community. Due to the inaction of the property, the environment of the community was dirty and messy. I saw photos taken by two owners on the first floor among the owners. There was a thick layer of garbage under the window, including half-corroded leaves, plastic bags and beverage bottles, which looked like a small garbage dump.

although I live in it, I am deeply sympathetic to the garbage environment faced by the residents on the first floor. Everyone discussed how to argue with the property theory in the group. Since she collected the property fee, she should be responsible for the environment of the community, not to mention being particularly neat and clean, at least not dirty enough to give birth to mosquitoes.

As a result, when everyone was discussing whether to pay the property fee, a "good man" appeared. His original words were as follows: "From the past to the present, we have lived in peace with the property for more than ten years. Everyone is knowledgeable and educated. Don't make trouble with a person living at the bottom of society. If we don't pay the property fee, she will have no financial resources. I suggest that families with children wait for their children to organize after school or on weekends. Parents take their children for a general cleaning, which not only exercises their children's hard work, but also harmonizes this big family. "

I have to say that there are really a few people with brain circuit problems in life. They are irritating and don't know it. When others defend their legitimate rights and interests, they blame the rules with morality.

This reminds me of a joke that someone catches a mouse and kills it, because it is one of the four pests, but someone whispers, "A mouse is also a life, let it go, let it go." Do you think this kind of person is kind or wrong?

It is said that many people may still be awake when releasing rats. It is worth mentioning that "releasing rats" is popular in recent years. There was a news that many people bought turtles, bullfrogs, eel, loach and other small animals from the market and took them to Xuanwu Lake for release.

They think they are doing good deeds, but they don't know that the farmed animals bought in the market can't adapt to the natural environment of Xuanwu Lake. This kind of release leads to a large number of fish deaths, which has caused great pollution to the water quality of Xuanwu Lake.

It's not the only thing like this. On New Year's Day, many people released turtles and snakes on the beach in Haikou, and when they threw them into the sea, they thought they had done a great kindness. When they saw the turtle struggling to climb back, they felt with tears in their eyes, saying, "The turtle is spiritual and unwilling to go, so thank you later." Waving his hand and self-directing, he said, "Go, you are free, go back."

If those freshwater turtles and snakes can talk, they will definitely curse: "Freedom, you big uncle, I was born in fresh water, so you have to throw me into the sea, climb back and finally land, and then you throw me back into the sea."

don't think that there is no threshold for kindness. To be a kind person, the first thing to ensure is that you are not stupid. Unfortunately, many people can't do it, so they carry out moral kidnapping everywhere with a elm knot in one's head. I don't know how much trouble it has caused the society, but they are also complacent about their boundless merits.

Self-satisfied kindness is undoubtedly evil. Some people stand on the moral high ground and accuse others without knowing anything, but they don't know that they are the depression.

There is a proverb: "There is never a lack of kindness in this world, what is lacking is reason and restraint." There is nothing wrong with kindness, but those who can't carry it clearly.

When kindness becomes a kind of moral kidnapping, it becomes a show.

The most common thing in life is blind kindness. After two people quarrel, there will always be a peacemaker who will come out to make amends: "Oh, it's such a trivial matter, don't worry about it." Then, the one who suffered a loss was adamant, and the one who took advantage was silent. Finally, he pointed his finger at the victim, saying that he was difficult, unforgiving, unkind and so on. As everyone knows, some people's so-called kindness is to embarrass others and fulfill their self-righteous perfection.

Hayek said, "When goodness loses its principles, it may be worse than evil." Blind kindness is really terrible. Immoral kidnapping and not embarrassing others are the real kindness.

Kindness is not easy. It requires wisdom, foresight and sobriety.

Wei Chen said: May your life be better after meeting my words.