Should children take control of their mother’s cheating?

As a child, you must take care of your mother’s cheating!

To tell a true story, my aunt cheated on a man the year before last. The man was about the same age as my uncle. My aunt is a housewife in her forties and does not work. Now that her children have grown up, she sometimes plays mahjong during the day and goes out to square dance when she has nothing to do. This is why her current life is relatively leisurely.

My uncle is a senior maintenance engineer in a factory. His salary is 10,000 yuan a month and he has two days off a month. He basically spends his time in the factory. My aunt is more indulgent and has no one to care about her. She can do whatever she wants. Because she has too much time, she gives other boys the chance to get close to her.

One night I said I wanted to go out to play mahjong, but I didn’t expect to go to a hotel with that man to book a room. My brother was going shopping when he happened to come back and tell my uncle what happened. (My brother admires my uncle very much. I think his father is the best and knows everything.) After a period of observation, he was indeed cheating. My uncle had a big fight with my aunt. During that time, their family was noisy every day. My aunt wrote a letter of guarantee and my uncle returned her mobile phone. I dropped several. That incident had a great impact on my uncle, and now he is gradually becoming more strict with the family. I recently heard that they are doing well and that my aunt is taking care of the family.

The summary of a woman cheating is that she is too free and has too much time, leaving too much time for her to have fun and not do her job properly. You still have to say something about a mother cheating on her children, but you have to make sure there is evidence. In order to complete the family and work hard for the father outside, it is reasonable and reasonable to tell him that he is the most miserable and tired person in the family and cannot be allowed to suffer the disadvantages of being dumb. No matter who cheats, he will have to pay a price. Only when he pays the price will he cherish it. Living too comfortably may not be a good thing.

Feifei’s parents-in-law have a particularly bad relationship.

When my father-in-law was young, he was a village cadre and had a good future. He had an affair with two or three women in the village. My husband caught me at the scene, and I was involved in a lawsuit. I was jailed for three years.

Four children, the eldest is ten years old and the youngest is only 7 months old. For four children, Feifei’s mother-in-law suffered a lot! Three years later, Feifei's father-in-law came back, but he still couldn't change his behavior. From then on, the marriage between Feifei's father-in-law and mother-in-law was a couple in name only. Her mother-in-law went out to work to make money, and her children were taken care of by her mother-in-law. Her father-in-law only cared about herself. In those days, divorce was basically not allowed. Divorce was a very shameful thing.

When Feifei and her husband met, they discovered that the relationship between her father-in-law and mother-in-law was abnormal, and everyone knew it. After Feifei and her husband got married, her mother-in-law told Feifei bluntly that she had a lover and her father-in-law also had a lover, and she told Feifei even about her intimate behavior. In fact, the mother-in-law's idea was to hope that Feifei would understand how difficult it was for her back then!

Her mother-in-law is a particularly unreasonable person. She feels that because her father-in-law was sorry for her when he was young, she should have cheated on her now. She does not allow her father-in-law to cheat, and often requires her children to take care of her father-in-law. In fact, she wanted her children to teach her father-in-law a lesson and give her a good beating. In fact, she just wanted her children to teach her father-in-law a lesson. In fact, she just wanted her children to treat her father-in-law well and she was jealous.

Feifei was very angry. After all, cheating was an immoral thing. She made it clear to her mother-in-law: Our children cannot resolve the matter between you and your father-in-law at all. You and your father-in-law should not talk to anyone in front of me again. Regarding your cheating, I hope you two will be more scrutinized. You are shameless, and I still want to be.

Later, Feifei’s mother-in-law’s lover became paralyzed and there was no contact with her anymore. Feifei's father-in-law was arrested for a month because he was gambling with his lover. The affair was also revealed and there was no contact with him anymore.

Now that Feifei's parents-in-law are getting older after all, they are slowly coming to terms with each other and beginning to accept each other slowly, but Feifei's face has long been lost to her parents-in-law.

Hey, when I saw this question, I really sighed and felt infinitely sad.

Family shame should not be publicized, but I still want to share this with everyone so that everyone can learn from it and refer to it.

My parents are farmers and have no jobs. I have a sister and a brother. After I work, I am responsible for my parents’ expenses and all their major and minor affairs. I feel that sometimes I can make the final decision on my parents’ affairs. . My father had a bad temper and always got into fights when he was young. When he was young, he and my mother fought for a lifetime, and my mother was angry with him. One day I took my two children back to my mother's house to stay overnight, and I found my father talking on the phone with another woman.

I also have a bad temper and got into a fight with my dad. From then on, he and I formed a rift. He went to my house and my workplace to make trouble and wanted to beat me! I don’t even dare to go home or go to work! This torture has made this home no longer feel like a home. Later, my uncle and aunt came forward, and the matter ended like that.

He now lives with that woman at my mother's house, and my mother went to my brother's house. It's been a year.

Perhaps, if I had turned a blind eye and closed one eye, these things would not have happened.

Maybe, if I didn’t make it clear at the beginning, I can still have a father now.

Maybe, I should have changed the way I dealt with the problem, so it wouldn't be like this!

It’s a pity that my father is not that sensible and listens to others’ advice!

And I thought that he would listen to my advice, because they all know my filial piety and gratitude for all the sacrifices I have made for my parents over the years!

What a pity! Things are not going the way we want!

Therefore, I want to say that if you encounter such a situation, think twice before you act! We have to think about every outcome and whether it is a result we can afford!

I hope my answer can help you! Thanks!

Thank you for the invitation!

Regarding the question of whether children should take care of their parents’ cheating, I know that children should definitely take care of it. But I don’t know how to manage it specifically, because I have never encountered it myself. But I can give two examples around me, and everyone can discuss them together.

One is a relative of my husband, and the woman cheated on him. The child was still relatively young when the woman cheated on her. Considering that the child was relatively young and the divorce would have a greater impact on the child, the man kept persuading the woman to turn back. As a result, the woman became more serious and cheated on her.

In our case, men belong to relatively well-off families, and men can make more money. There was a prairie above their heads, and it was not like the man could not afford a wife, so the two finally divorced.

After the two divorced, the woman had nothing. It turned out that the woman’s cheating partner was also a married man. I had given this woman some money before, but later the cheating partner's wife and children wanted to leave. I lost a marriage because of the cheating, and I ended up with nothing.

This woman had a relatively young child when she cheated on her. We don’t know whether her children tried to persuade her.

The other one is a relative of my natal family, and the man cheated on me. The children were also younger when the affair occurred. The main content of their lives in those years was: cheating - catching an adulterer - quarreling - cheating again - catching an adulterer again - quarreling again, and so on.

Finally one day, the youngest son of the family couldn't stand this kind of life anymore and said to their parents: If the two of them continue like this, he will not get married because it will be too embarrassing.

The two finally stopped arguing, but the woman was soon diagnosed with a serious disease. After the woman got sick, the man took good care of her, but after more than ten years, she still left. When the woman left, the man cried very sadly, thinking of all the good things his wife had done, but it was already too late.

Whether it is from an emotional or rational point of view, if a parent cheats, the children should definitely take care of it to prevent the parents from falling deeper and causing greater damage to the family.

But as for how to manage it specifically, I think the first thing is not to quarrel with your parents. No matter how wrong your parents are, they are still your parents.

Secondly, you can do the work of the cheating party in private.

If that is not possible, the children can find a third party to do the third party's work. I think it is better for the children (of course the older children) or the cheating spouse to find a third party to work together than for the cheating spouse to find a third party on their own.

The above are my personal suggestions. You can discuss this matter together and see if there are any other better methods.

As an adult child, I still have to take care of my mother’s cheating. If I don’t, it may cause her to slip into a deeper abyss. If you warn her early, you may be able to pull her out of the quagmire she is stuck in. This question is a bit difficult to answer because Lao Gan has no experience in this area and can only learn profound lessons from the people around him.

There is a primary school near our village with only about 200 teachers and students. The school superintendent is an old man who is nearly 60 years old. This superintendent is lustful, daring and will retire soon, and He was obsessed with lust and did not consider the consequences. He fell in love with a young female substitute teacher and pursued her closely. He used his power and used both hard and soft tactics to finally catch her. Among them, the teachers of the school also saw it and were anxious in their hearts. They wanted to persuade but dared not, for fear that their supervisor would settle the score later and retaliate. So I came up with a clever plan and notified the supervisor’s family to persuade him. My family tried to persuade me, but with little success. The result was that my supervisor made her pregnant, and her superiors dealt with it, and both of them were fired and never hired. It is harmful to others, and it is harmful to others. The young substitute teacher has lost his position forever, and the elderly supervisor, who is only one year away from retirement, has also lost his retirement benefits. He has no security in his later years, has no livelihood in his later years, and has been scolded as a bad example for decades. If my children had intervened effectively at that time and allowed me to step back from the brink and turn around, I would not have made such a low-level mistake.

In another case, my husband works outside all year round and only comes back once a year during the Spring Festival, each time for half a month. Because he was eager to make money, he cared about his wife and didn't take enough care of him. His wife couldn't withstand the sugar-coated bullets from bad men, so she fell in front of them. Everyone knows about this scandal. It’s just that good things don’t go out, and bad things spread thousands of miles, reaching the ears of her children. The two children were very sad. With tears in their eyes, they persuaded their mother not to do this. If my father knew about it, he would definitely beat you to death. They also said that as long as their mother changes her ways and does not do it again, she will not tell her father about it. .

The result was that the children intervened effectively and persuaded the mother to put the family first and not to break up this happy home with her own hands, so she cut off her lover and adulterer and returned to the family, thus avoiding the breakdown of the family. The gossip always reached the husband's ears, so he took his wife out to work together, taking the right step to prevent the family from breaking up.

Lao Gan believes that when a mother or father cheats, it is very necessary for the children to intervene, and it must be effective and powerful, and the effects will be different.

Answer: It depends on the situation, not necessarily! .

Next to my village, there is a beautiful woman. She is middle-aged. Her husband has died and she has children of medium and old age. She has not remarried and she has raised them by hard work in farming. She has a brother-in-law who teaches in a middle school. His wife is dead and he has children. He has a lot of free time. Because they are relatives, he often helps her with the housework. As time goes by, they fall in love. The two often sleep together and go out in pairs. Both children agree. , no one said it, and the neighbors all said it was so good and a perfect match!

When a woman cheats, it depends on the situation. For a woman who has lost her husband, she suffers psychological pain and endless loneliness. She wants to remarry but is reluctant to leave her children. Everyone yearns for happiness, but an invisible shackle makes her in a dilemma. If The cheating man must be the one she has been looking for for a long time and has thought about over and over again. Why do children need to interfere? Let them be happy! If you are well-educated and sensible, encourage them to get married in an honest and fair manner, and they will have a happy marriage for a hundred years! This is also a kind of filial piety!

For those married women who cheat, there must be a reason and you can advise them!

Personal opinion, please refer to it!

Try not to cheat as much as possible