I was fired by my boss for posting on WeChat Moments: How do people with low emotional intelligence end up in a dead end?

I remember seeing a piece of news at the end of last year. An employee posted it on WeChat Moments because he won a year-end bonus, but was fired by his boss the next day.

It turned out that this employee had been with the company for less than a year and performed well at work. The boss gave him a year-end bonus of 10,000 yuan. However, after returning home, he posted it on WeChat Moments.

When HR was dismissed, he said meaningfully: "None of our old employees have such a high year-end bonus. You have been in the company for less than a year, and your boss has given you such a high bonus. But yours Hair circle, have you considered the feelings of other colleagues? Have you considered the impact on the company? "

There are always people like this in life who lose their jobs just by walking. Not being able to make friends is actually caused by low emotional intelligence.

01: People with low emotional intelligence not only talk deeply but also enjoy doing it

I have a college classmate who has been in my friend list after graduation, but I blocked her directly some time ago. .

I remember that in 2016, I had something wrong with my body and got gastroenteritis. I posted a sentence in the circle of friends, which was probably: I can’t eat chili peppers anymore. I have to control my mouth. My stomach still can’t stand the torment. of.

When she saw it, she directly commented: Be careful of getting stomach cancer.

Other students saw this and sent me a private message: "So-and-so, why are you talking like this? You scolded her!"

I said forget it, how could I have the energy to argue with her? , I have diarrhea every day and am about to collapse, pretending not to see it.

Later, I saw her commenting to another classmate of ours, which was mostly embarrassing and unacceptable.

Just a few days ago, I bought some honey in my hometown. One day, I posted a circle with the general meaning: drink a cup of honey water every day to detoxify and nourish your skin.

As a result, she replied instantly: She will get diabetes!

I was a little speechless. At the same time, I received a call from my best friend: "Block so-and-so. This person not only has low emotional intelligence, but also has a bad heart."

That's it, I This classmate was completely blacklisted.

As the saying goes: A kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months.

Mei Lanfang once taught his family: We must pay attention to the "morality of speech". The mouth must accumulate virtue, and the mouth must make others; the mouth must make people, and your life will be safe. A person must develop two skills in his life: one is to speak to make people bond, and the other is to do things to move people. Good words help deeds, but bad words hurt people's hearts. Practicing oral ethics is to cultivate your own aura. Only when you are upright can you have good luck. Good oral ethics can lead to good luck, and good luck can lead to fewer detours and more achievements.

Life is short, why should we let these people affect our mood? Life needs nourishment, wouldn't it be better to eliminate hypocrisy and keep good people, and keep warm and beautiful people?

02 People with low EQ are eager to express themselves, especially in language.

A colleague of mine is called Mr. Weird by us. How weird is it? From his boss, to his colleagues, and even his customers, he would insult them at will until his job was ruined.

Once our company held a meeting, all employees attended, more than 80 people, and the boss told us about the company's adjustment and reorganization and subsequent development goals. This was originally a serious matter.

The boss talked about a case and said: "Our company is also in an embarrassing situation now. We need to save the country temporarily. I hope everyone will work harder and tide over the difficulties."

While everyone was listening quietly, this colleague suddenly stood up and said, "I think your thinking is wrong, and that's why you took us astray!"

When he said this In short, we were all stunned! All eyes were glanced at him. Our boss looked at him and said, "Then what do you think is correct?"

I saw that he was speechless again and couldn't speak. In fact, he wanted to impress his boss and think he was thoughtful. However, his eagerness to perform did not make him outstanding.

The boss said: "You think I have gone astray, then, from now on, you can leave with your backpack, I don't need you here!"

In this way, he was fired Got it!

No one felt sorry for him to leave, but everyone agreed that he should have left long ago.

Not only did he quarrel with his boss, but he also caused his colleague Sister Li to lose a large order.

Sister Li took a big order last year. At that time, he and Sister Li worked together to discuss customers. Originally, Sister Li had already communicated well with the customer and made an appointment to sign the contract.

He also followed Sister Li to the client's company to sign the contract. Unexpectedly, the client made an appointment at the time, but due to something unexpected, they were asked to wait in the reception room for an hour. He said apologetically: Sorry, I kept you waiting for so long.

Just when Sister Li said it was okay, he said confidently: What are you doing? Have we been waiting for an hour? We were promised ten o'clock, and now it's eleven o'clock.

Sister Li said that the boss’s face turned dark at that time. When we went to the conference room, he read the contract and said that he needed to think about it again.

In fact, it is a big customer, and there is no shortage of cooperative customers at all. Just like that, Sister Li's order was handed over to others.

Socrates said: "There is an ability in this world that can enable people to make achievements as quickly as possible and gain praise and appreciation from the world, and that is the joyful ability to speak." < /p>

Speaking well is a kind of ability, but also a kind of cultivation.

Tsai Kangyong said in his book "The Way of Speaking": Be a person who makes people warm when you talk and like people when you do things.

The workplace never believes in tears, and the workplace will never condone a person who is annoying everywhere and can't speak.

In this society, IQ may not be high, but emotional intelligence cannot be low. People with high emotional intelligence will be able to stand on their own feet and have both sides. On the contrary, they will not be treated well wherever they go.

03 People with low emotional intelligence expose others’ weaknesses in public

Xiaoxue is a girl from a poor family. When facing other colleagues, Xiaoxue can only lie about her family. , his father is a company employee. But Wenwen, a girl who grew up with Xiaoxue, understood that Xiaoxue's father was just an ordinary migrant worker. However, Wenwen did not break through the lie, but chose to shut up.

It may not be right for Xiaoxue to lie, but for her, she just wants to have more face in front of others. Everyone has their own vanity, and everyone has what they want to be. Sometimes it is the right thing to not expose others' pain points and give others some mercy.

You can discuss this issue with Xiaoxue in private, but you must not expose it in front of everyone and embarrass her.

Everyone has their own difficulties and blind spots that they are unwilling to face. If you can see through them without telling them, leaving the other person with dignity and guarding the other person's privacy, it is a kind of kindness.

0 4 People with low emotional intelligence do harm to others but not themselves.

People with low emotional intelligence are accustomed to portraying themselves as kings and think that their own opinions and actions are right. Even adding fuel and vinegar to show that you have unique insights.

Writer Li Xiaoyi shared a big loss that he suffered.

When she first started working, she was the boss’s secretary. Once, she went to dinner with two important guests, one of whom was an alumnus. During the meal, her schoolmate asked her how Mr. xxx was doing? In order to highlight her interesting personality, she replied: "He is a good teacher, but the class is too boring, and he also likes to choose the most beautiful girl in the class to study."

As a result, the schoolmate replied to her, "He is my dad", and the project partner later changed.

This incident touched her greatly. From then on, she learned a lesson and took responsibility for every word she said.

An ancient saying goes: You can eat indiscriminately, but you can't talk indiscriminately.

Once you talk nonsense, it will not only harm others but also be detrimental to yourself.

There is a golden rule and a platinum rule in interpersonal relationships. The "golden rule" means to treat others how you want others to treat you. The "Platinum Law" means that you should treat others how they want you to treat them.

In fact, to put it bluntly, life is an echo. As long as you treat others well, others will treat you well.

How to improve your emotional intelligence

2. Learn to speak well. A person who can talk often makes people feel comfortable and warm their hearts. On the contrary, it can hurt people's heart and embarrass them.

Audrey Hepburn once said: If you want beautiful lips, speak kind words; if you want lovely eyes, see the good in others; if you want a slim figure, eat your food Give to the hungry; if you want beautiful hair, let a child stroke your hair once a day; if you want graceful posture, remember that you are not the only pedestrian walking.

2. Learn to manage your emotions and be responsible for your emotions.

I really like what Mr. Kazuo Koike said: "People who can maintain a psychological balance are really outstanding. Even if they encounter annoying people or things, they can still find interesting things to adjust their inner balance." ;When you encounter something that makes you miserable, find something delicious to adjust your mood. In fact, you are the kind of person who is "responsible for your own emotions"

3. Learn to understand others and put yourself in their shoes. Think about others

When you encounter something, see through it without speaking out. If you think about it from others' point of view, you will understand the reasons why others do what they do.

4. Learn not to complain. Don’t blame

When problems arise, be good at finding problems within yourself and actively solve them, instead of just complaining or even blaming others and shirk responsibility.

In short, a person with high emotional intelligence, You are an excellent person who deserves the respect and trust of others.

The above is a reminder!

What do you think of it? What are you waiting for to prevent others from stepping down?