The status of men and women is reversed, and the man bluntly said to the blind date, "You don't even have a house, I won't marry." what do you think?

What is the proportion of material conditions in your marriage and love?

Some people say that getting married is becoming more and more realistic now. Many people talk about marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is all aspects of material conditions, not the person who lives with him.

Although I hate to admit it, this situation is indeed common and not uncommon. This phenomenon of materializing marriage and love is very common, which is a blasphemy against feelings.

But people can always find reasons to convince themselves to cover up the shame brought by their greed. For example, many people will say that people's life pressure is too great now, so people will pay more attention to material conditions.

It is understandable to live a good life, but self-reliance is the right way.

In the past, some girls pursued the concept that "marriage is a woman's second reincarnation", so when it comes to marriage, houses, cars and tickets have become obstacles that men can't bypass.

Thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi, many marriageable or older boys also offered this trick.

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Liu Zijun is 26 years old and has a bachelor's degree. After graduating from college, he returned to his hometown to work.

In his hometown, a fourth-tier city with a serious brain drain, Liu Zijun, who graduated from undergraduate course, felt superior.

At the age of 26, he has reached the age of talking about marriage, and almost all children of the same age in the local area can go to the streets to play soy sauce, which is not to worry their parents.

The arrogant Liu Zijun doesn't want to muddle along like most people, and many blind dates end in failure.

Parents and relatives are worried that he will be single for life if he goes on like this. After all, he has all his own conditions, and it is good that someone is willing to marry, but he doesn't seem to understand this reality.

Liu Zijun works in a small company with a monthly income of only over 4,000. Although I live in a fourth-tier city, I also spend more than half of my salary on rent and daily consumption.

In the eyes of parents, it is enough to support themselves with their son's current income, let alone support their families after marriage.

It is precisely because of this that his parents and relatives are particularly worried about his lifelong events, but he is not worried about his own conditions, but is very demanding of his other half.

Liu Zijun's parents have been farming all their lives. When they walk out of the mountains, they have only one strength to sell and earn hard money. They have worked hard all their lives and have never started a business in the city.

The son finally succeeded in school, and his parents pinned all their hopes on Liu Zijun.

But Liu Zijun has his own considerations.

He felt that although he was homeless and unemployed, he was also handsome after graduating from college. If he simply finds a daughter-in-law, it is not difficult in the local area, but he wants to find a daughter-in-law who can make him struggle less for 20 years.

At worst, I have to be a woman with a house, which also saves me the hard work of making money to buy a house in the future.

Simply put, he can get married, but the woman must have a house, because he has no room.

I have to admit that children are not fish, and you never know the happiness of fish.

Some people's brain circuits are very strange, even if you have the same growth and life experience as him, you may not understand them.

Just like Liu Zijun, many people don't understand the logic of his marriage preconditions.

In the eyes of ordinary people, it is precisely because the family is small and there is no job that they have no choice when talking about marriage, but he seems to regard this as an advantage.

Two days ago, under the arrangement of his parents and relatives, he went on a blind date again.

The other is a girl about his age, tall and slightly mediocre. The girl's income is similar to that of Liu Zijun, about 3000 yuan. In the eyes of parents, the girl's looks and temperament are good, comparable to Liu Zijun.

I don't think so. After asking about the girl's family background, Liu Zijun belittled the girl, saying that she was looking for a woman with a house and would not consider a girl without a house and a poor family.

This will make girls angry. She bluntly said to Liu Zijun: "You don't look at your own conditions. You have no house or car, and your monthly income is only over 4,000. Will a woman with a house and background have a crush on you? You are a joke, wonderful work! "

03

The importance of marriage to everyone is self-evident, but in the past, we were more concerned about emotions to see if the other person liked us. But now marriage and love are mixed with so many messy things that the fallacy that "marriage is a second reincarnation" is rampant.

After all, in reality, some people do compare marriage to a woman's second reincarnation, and many men also regard marriage as a turning point in life.

In some places, some parents thought that "it is better to study well than to marry well", so that a few years later, a large number of surreal girls who worship money appeared in society, and now boys are beginning to join the crowd.

There is a saying that birds of a feather flock together. Excellent people are always surrounded by excellent people, and vice versa.

If you want to climb high and marry into a rich family, you need to have the conditions to climb high, both women and men.

Moreover, since ancient times, there has been a saying that "women marry high and men marry low". It is not unusual for a woman to get married high, but it is not difficult for a man to climb high.

What conditions do you have and what kind of life do you choose?

Everyone should also do what they can when talking about marriage. Whether men or women want to have a perfect marriage, they must improve themselves first. Only when you are excellent can you have greater choices.

If you are qualified, you can naturally choose the other half that matches you. If you are not qualified, either don't be too picky or settle down to improve yourself.