After the age of 40, smart women won't send any friends.

The network is like a huge fishing net underwater, which binds each of us firmly together.

Before closing the net, we all seemed to swim freely in the water, but in fact, this huge net has painted our life within its framework.

Bill Gates said that "the Internet is changing people's way of life". Whether it is career, study, depression or life, we can't do without the help of the Internet.

But at the same time, the internet is spying on us. The performance in online life is a reflection of our real life, especially the circle of friends that people frequently use every day, and it is also a direct exposure point of personal life and emotions.

Many people like to share their lives in a circle of friends. Whether they are happy or sad, they hope someone can feel the same way with them.

However, is it really worth promoting to give everything to friends?

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Girls in their twenties like to take selfies in the sun. Xiu Xiu can't put it down, and then some antique or cocoa-style copywriting is worthy of the agility and nature of this era, which makes others feel pleasing to the eye;

A 30-year-old woman is mature from the beginning, like a flower that can still bloom in the wind and rain. Sharing some feelings in a circle of friends can also show a little charm;

A woman in her forties has passed the best years of her life, so the words "youthful and immature" and "capable spirit" are a bit inappropriate. How should women maintain their image in the circle of friends at this time?

Smart women don't send these things to their friends.

Show off what you have.

Yi Shu wrote a classic sentence in "Round Dance": "A lady with real temperament never shows off everything. She doesn't tell people what books she has read, where she has been, how many clothes she has and what jewelry she has bought, because she has no sense of inferiority. "

People who really have a good life and rich hearts do not need to show their material and spiritual wealth through excessive boasting.

A woman over 40 years old may already have some capital to show off and want to satisfy her vanity through her circle of friends.

However, what you need to know is that at the same time, you have gained one point of vanity and three points of contempt.

It is said that copper coins have a foul smell. If you exaggerate your material properties, you will even attract some buzzing deceptive flies.

What's more, the vanity you get is just an illusion you impose on yourself. People who look at your circle of friends behind the screen may never agree.

The true temperament is reflected in the gestures when getting along with others. Everything you say and do hides the road you have traveled and the books you have read.

Dong Qing is 46 years old, and her smile can make people feel very comfortable. This is her unique charm. She is full of poetry and self-satisfaction.

But after careful understanding, we will find that many people appreciate her, not to say how much money she earned after reading those books, but the charm accumulated between her gestures.

After 40 years old, if you have a stable mind, don't show off what you have, it will make people laugh and attract people with ulterior motives.

domestic conflict

After the age of 40, a large number of women may have shifted their focus to the family. Conflicts with their rebellious children, sometimes annoying husbands at home, or stubborn parents-in-law are always inevitable.

The anger caused by these contradictions needs to be vented, but making friends is not the right choice.

First of all, for the contradiction itself, this can only add fuel to the fire, and it will be refreshing for a while. However, under the brewing of this negative emotion, the contradiction has escalated, which will lead to more serious anger.

Secondly, for family conflicts, if they are not serious enough to require external intervention, posting family conflicts in the circle of friends will give people a bad impression, such as "Your life is simply terrible" and "How can your family be that kind of person?" These will also damage your interpersonal relationship.

Smart women, when family conflicts occur, will not complain in the circle of friends first, but try to solve the conflicts and spend more time communicating with people around them, so as to effectively solve the problems.

In fact, complaining about family conflicts in the circle of friends is not helpful to solve the problem except attracting sympathy and watching jokes.

Vent too much negative emotions.

Nine times out of ten things in life are unpleasant.

It is normal to encounter setbacks and troubles, but women over 40 often complain about this and that in the circle of friends, which often makes people feel that you are like a dissatisfied wife.

You know, people who emit negative energy will undoubtedly not be liked or even avoided.

Moreover, these bad emotions are recorded in words, just like remembering the negative emotions together.

When I was a child, a fable told us that bad things should be written in sand and good things should be carved in stones, because negative emotions can be dispersed with the wind, and happy things in life will be remembered for a long time.

Therefore, after the age of 40, smart women will not regard their circle of friends as a trash can for negative emotions.

What's more, the circle of friends is a public platform. When you put a trash can in your circle of friends, others will definitely stay away from here. This is the city in your heart and the ruins in others' eyes.

In fact, you have negative emotions in your heart. You can choose to chat with friends or go out for a walk. What's the use of complaining in a circle of friends?

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The network is a huge network, which connects all people closely, and words and deeds will be interrelated. Managing a circle of friends is just like managing a life.

After forty, a smart woman will not turn this small world into a starting point for others to stay away from themselves.

In fact, it's not that women can't make friends. It's understandable to share some small fortunes and some life experiences in the circle of friends. After all, people want to express themselves.

However, if you regard your circle of friends as a place to show off and a place for you to vent your bad emotions and negative energy, it is all wet.

You never know what kind of mentality people in your circle of friends are holding. You think you can get sympathy and help for your misfortune, but in fact the other person is just praising you with a joking attitude.

After forty, don't be so naive. Instead of spending time painstakingly managing that useless circle of friends, spend more time with your family or date a real friend.

As it turns out, those high-level people have long been far away from friends. They never judge their lives under the eyes of the public, nor will they find a sense of identity in their circle of friends.

For them, whether life is good or bad and whether work is smooth is entirely their own business, which has nothing to do with others and there is no need to make friends.

Therefore, it is meaningless for a woman to stop giving things to her friends after 40 years old.