My wife is kind to me, but after reading her WeChat chat history, I don’t know whether I should divorce her?

Netizen’s self-report:

“I am a civil servant born in 1992, and my wife was born in 1989. She works as a cashier in a supermarket. I met my wife when I was a freshman in high school. She worked in the cafeteria of our school. At that time, we were known as siblings, and later we became lovers.

Now we have been married for three years, have a one-year-old child, and finally bought a house. The difficult time has passed, and life seems to be getting better, but I didn't expect that she would cheat on her.

To be honest, if this thing hadn't happened, my wife was really a good woman, and there would have been nothing when we got married. I had no car, no house, no betrothal gifts. My family used to be very poor, and my father passed away when I was very young. My mother raised me by herself and my wife worked day and night to support my tuition and living expenses during my four years of college. , she wore street clothes but bought me brand-name clothes. She said that she was almost fine with what she wore, but I had to dress decently and not make my classmates laugh. To be honest, I was really grateful to my wife, and I felt in my heart at that time. I secretly vowed that I would study hard and find a good job after graduation so that she could live a good life.

I found out that my wife was cheating on me a month ago. She put her cell phone in the bathroom when she was taking a shower that night. After putting it on the bed, the adulterer sent her a message on WeChat: Are you here, baby? I felt something was wrong. I picked up my wife’s phone and found that they contacted me frequently and the chat history was a bit ambiguous. After interrogating her, she found many loopholes and finally admitted that she had cheated on her. The man was a middle-aged man in his forties from the supermarket. She knelt on the ground and hugged my legs, begging me to forgive her.

She said: If you dare to leave me, I will die in front of you. I am afraid that she will do something stupid, so I am very persuasive and dare not say anything to irritate her. I have been very conflicted recently. What should I do? ”

My suggestion: It is indeed wrong for your wife to cheat on you, but she has always taken care of you and protected you as a little brother. But she is a woman, and it has not been easy for her to live for so many years. She would feel tired. That man was much older than her, so he probably knew how to care for women and would take care of her feelings.

Husbands and wives should understand each other's psychological needs in time and make each other feel valued. Otherwise, the woman will feel left out for a long time.

Perhaps the identity gap and daily communication between you are not on the same level. She may seek a spiritual connection with her colleagues before committing an affair. You should have a good talk, she should care about you, but your focus is not on her, let others take advantage of it.

The final choice depends on your ability to accept it, but in any case, in order to minimize the damage, there are only two options: either completely forgive her mistakes, work hard to repair the rift, and live the rest of your life well; Or give up completely and leave. Here, the most critical thing is your attitude. No matter what your final choice is, it must be thorough.