Lin Huiyin: Love is a desperate impulse, marriage is a carefully considered choice

At the age of 16, Lin Huiyin and her father went to Europe, thousands of miles away from home. When she saw the new world for the first time, she felt the difference in the world. The cultural beauty of the foreign country made her open the window of her soul and accept the beauty of the world wholeheartedly. .

Because of his father's relationship, people came and went at home every day. Lin Huiyin also met many literati and elegant people. They often sat together and talked about the past and present, and made many close friends. However, most of the time, Lin Huiyin was still lonely. of.

Her father often performed in various places, leaving Lin Huiyin alone at home. During the rainy days, her loneliness and loss made her extremely sensitive. Later, she often recalled the scene at that time:

So that person appeared. On a cloudy day in 1920, a student named Chen Tongbo took Xu Zhimo to Lin Huiyin's house as a guest. Lin Changmin met Xu Zhimo for the first time. The two met each other late, and later became close friends. Lin Changmin Appreciating Xu Zhimo's talent, Xu Zhimo admired Lin Changmin's prestige, and the two soon became familiar with each other.

On the same day, Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin met for the first time. When he first met Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo fell in love with her lovely pear dimple. In his eyes, Lin Huiyin was a star in the sky, just like She wrote:

That day I saw you for the first time, you shined like a star, I was just a point in the crowd...

From then on, Lin Huiyin became He met the woman in Xu Zhimo's poem, and he visited Lin Huiyin's home more and more often, not for his year-end friendship with Lin Changmin, of course, but to project himself as a cloud in the heart of Lin Huiyin's waves.

Due to the arrival of Xu Zhimo, Lin Huiyin’s world is no longer cloudy and rainy. Xu Zhimo is talented and passionate, and Lin Huiyin has also read many books. The two often talk about poetry, art and life together. They are in London. On our land, in the beautiful Cambridge, we have left many wonderful memories.

As the relationship deepened, Xu Zhimo became obsessed with Lin Huiyin. Her beauty, her temperament, her conversation, her cultivation, her knowledge, and everything about her made Xu Zhimo Zhimo was fascinated. He wanted to love this beautiful girl with everything he had, so he asked for a divorce from his wife Zhang Youyi, who was still pregnant with his child. The ruthlessness and determination in his letter to Zhang Youyi could not be seen at all. He is a man with a touch of emotion.

Faced with the passionate love of this older married man, Lin Huiyin was at a loss. This fiery love made him very happy and excited, but more importantly, he was afraid, thinking of his mother. After living a lonely life for ten years, even if I could become Xu Zhimo's legitimate wife, how could I be that evil person and base my happiness on the pain of another woman!

Lin Huiyin After all, she was rational. She knew that her father had placed high hopes on her. If she was entangled in the love between her children, she would have failed her father's training and teachings. Therefore, she solemnly treasured this feeling and kept it in her heart forever. A corner.

It happened that Lin Changmin's lecture deadline was also up, and Lin Huiyin followed her father back to China. She did not tell Xu Zhimo, and Xu Zhimo did not get the divorce agreement before Huiyin left, just like Xu Zhimo's. In a poem: "You and I meet on the sea of ????dark night, you have yours and I have mine, direction." Lin Huiyin chose his own direction.

When Lin Huiyin was 14 years old, she became a slim and crystal-like beauty. Her father began to consider her lifelong affairs, hoping to help her find a husband who was excellent in all aspects. He first It reminded me of Liang Qichao's eldest son, Liang Sicheng. The two families were family friends, celebrities with prominent reputations and clean family traditions. It would be great if they could get married.

In 1918, Lin Changmin deliberately returned from Japan and arranged for Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin to meet, hoping that they could freely cultivate their feelings and that their marriage would come naturally.

The two met under the arrangement of their fathers. They also understood what the meeting meant. The meeting between the two made Liang Sicheng unforgettable forever:

The door opened. , a girl as clear as a spring and as pretty as a flower walked into the room lightly. She had two pigtails, her eyes were clear and lively, and her facial features were exquisite and beautifully carved, just like a little fairy from the sky.

In this way, Lin Huiyin walked into Liang Sicheng's heart. He fell in love with Lin Huiyin at first sight. Their first meeting was a beautiful dream, and this dream stayed in Liang Sicheng's heart forever.

Xu Zhimo is a good lover and a good poet, but he may not be an ideal husband. In contrast, Liang Sicheng is the most ideal husband candidate.

As Liang Qichao’s eldest son, Liang Sicheng was given high hopes by his father. He had been academically successful since childhood and was versatile. He was the best in every aspect. Liang Qichao loved him so much, and his marriage must also be the best. Excellent.

So Liang Qichao looked at his daughter-in-law everywhere. When he saw Lin Huiyin, Lin Huiyin was undoubtedly the best candidate for his daughter-in-law. For Liang Sicheng, the moment he saw Lin Huiyin, he had already decided that she would be her daughter-in-law. If she is married, there will be no objections. Everything is decided by her father.

Lin Huiyin was also influenced by her mother and hoped to meet a husband who would love her wholeheartedly. After returning to China, she got to know Liang Sicheng more deeply. She was also a very suitable person, and the love and affirmation of her from such a good elder as Liang Qichao made her even more certain about this marriage.

The two young men were still young at that time. Liang Qichao and Lin Changmin both hoped that they would continue to focus on their studies, so after Liang Sicheng graduated from Tsinghua University, they sent Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng to the United States. Further study.

Because Lin Huiyin had been affected by the environment in Europe before, he wanted to study architecture. When he heard Huiyin said that he wanted to study architecture, Liang Sicheng was shocked. She could not combine this fairy-like beautiful woman with architecture. Get in touch.

After listening to Lin Huiyin talk endlessly about her understanding of architecture, Liang Sicheng was amazed by Lin Huiyin’s insights and her lofty ambitions under her beautiful appearance, and became more emotionally determined. Lin Huiyin must be cherished in this life. He originally planned to inherit his father's business and decided to study architecture with Lin Huiyin. The two went to the United States to study architecture together, and their common pursuits further deepened their relationship.

In the United States, their studies were very stressful, and Liang Sicheng himself was a bit old-fashioned. Lin Huiyin was influenced by the poet Xu Zhimo, and he had many romantic desires in his heart, but Liang Sicheng could not give them to him. She, coupled with the opposition of Liang Sicheng's mother and the entanglement of Xu Zhimo, the relationship between the two also experienced many ups and downs.

Just when the relationship between the two was almost in sync and they planned to fly together, Lin Huiyin's father Lin Changmin passed away, which was a big blow to Lin Huiyin. During these painful days, Liang Sicheng stayed with her, and Liang Qichao He also wrote to Lin Huiyin many times, asking her to complete her studies. He already regarded her as his daughter. He didn't have to worry about tuition fees or family matters. He was there for everything.

Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng overcame countless difficulties to complete their studies and achieved good results. Although Lin Huiyin had romantic feelings, she was sober at heart. She knew what a good destination was and chose someone. Marriage is about choosing a family, and Liang Sicheng's family is the best, so under Liang Qichao's careful arrangements, the two completed their wedding.

When they got married, Liang Sicheng asked Lin Huiyin: "There is a sentence that I will only ask once and will never ask again in the future. Why me?"

Lin Huiyin replied: "The answer is very "I have to spend my whole life answering you, are you ready?"

"The poetic Qianxun Waterfall, the April day in the world forever" is Jin Yuelin's evaluation of Lin Huiyin. Jin Yuelin is Lin Huiyin's neighbor. He is Liang Congjie’s father Jin and another important person in Lin Huiyin’s life.

In 1931, under the recommendation of Xu Zhimo, Jin Yuelin met the goddess Xu Zhimo had always been fascinated by. Unfortunately, after meeting Lin Huiyin, Jin Yuelin also fell hopelessly in love with Lin Huiyin. Looking at The man in his wife's living room who was free and easy, talked loudly, had poetry in his eyes, and dreams in his heart, could never see another woman again.

At that time, Lin Huiyin was a mother and had a very good relationship with Liang Sicheng. Jin Yuelin knew that he could not get involved in other people's families. Moreover, he and Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin were both friends. No matter what, this feeling could only be hidden in his heart. .

From then on, he became Lin Huiyin's neighbor. He appeared in her wife's living room every day, watching his beloved woman talk about poetry and ancient and modern things in front of him. He was extremely satisfied. He could see her every day. That's enough.

What kind of person is Jin Yuelin? In terms of career, he is the first person in Chinese philosophy and serves as the director of the Department of Philosophy at Tsinghua University; in appearance, he is a tall man of 1.8 meters, handsome and very gentlemanly; in life, he is very childish. People who love cockfighting and playing crickets are humorous and like to make jokes.

How could he lack women when he was so good? However, there were only a few women in his life, and they were all passing by. He never let them stay, and his heart was full of Lin Huiyin. How could others still care about her? There will be a place for it.

Jin Yuelin admired Lin Huiyin's character and talent very much, and Lin Huiyin also admired and loved him very much. It is human nature for them to have a spiritual connection and appreciate each other, and to fall in love with each other over time, but there is more between them. It starts with emotion and ends with etiquette.

Lin Huiyin once said to Liang Sicheng about his feelings for Jin Yuelin: "I am very distressed because I fell in love with two people at the same time and I don't know what to do."

Liang Sicheng also thought To fulfill them, he said to Lin Huiyin: "You are free. If you choose Lao Jin, I wish you happiness forever.

Lin Huiyin is always sober. She knows Liang Sicheng's love for her. She knew very well that she was the mother of her children. She remembered her father-in-law's kindness to her. How could she choose to let down so many people? She restrained her emotions and was willing to treat Jin Yuelin as a brother and a friend. In other ways To love for a lifetime.

Jin Yuelin also respected Lin Huiyin’s choices and decisions, and silently protected her in his own way. After Lin Huiyin’s death, a friend sent a photo of Lin Huiyin to Jin Yuelin, holding the photo in his hands. A child, she watched it over and over again, and couldn't bear to let it go.

In all three relationships, Lin Huiyin gave her true love. However, whether it was her first love or the mutual sympathy after middle age, she still couldn't bear to let it go. She always remains calm and always knows how to choose between feelings and reality.

She did not choose her favorite Xu Zhimo. She was afraid that Xu Zhimo's big family would not be able to give her a safe harbor. She didn't choose Jin Yuelin, who could talk about poetry and life with her. She knew that between passion and family affection, family affection was more important.

She knew her situation well and loved sincerely, so she chose. Shi was also resolute and courageous, resolutely choosing Liang Sicheng who was most suitable for him.