How does the power of humor help your interpersonal relationship?

Humor is a kind of cultivation and art, which can be used to improve your sincere evaluation of yourself and enhance your relationship with others.

(1) Humor makes you more optimistic about life

Humor won't help you from short to tall, or from fat to thin, nor will it help you from failure to success. Even when you are in pain, it may not make you happy.

but it can really help you! If you face yourself easily with interesting thoughts, you will find that you are more likely to accept your own defects, failures and pains, and you can look at them with a new eye, and maybe you will feel better.

I have a classmate who is handsome and talented. An unfortunate car accident crippled his leg for life. We all felt sorry for him and avoided mentioning his leg. But after he left the hospital, he saw our pitying eyes, but he joked philosophically, "People say my legs are not good, but where is it?" Obviously, the road is rough. "

Isn't his heart painful? I'm sure it must be painful. It is through this humor that he bravely accepts himself.

Laugh at the pain with humor, and the pain will be alleviated; laugh at the failure with humor, and the failure will become insignificant; laugh at your own shortcomings with humor, and you will accept yourself more bravely.

An American female politician, whose opponent laughed at her obesity, volunteered in a campaign speech: "I once swam in the sea in a white swimsuit, and as a result, I attracted Soviet bombers and thought I had discovered American warships." As a result, in the laughter, voters did not mean that they were obese.

Pianist Boqi once gave a concert and found that less than 5% of the seats were filled. Of course he was disappointed. But he went to the footlights on the stage and said to the audience, "People in this city must be very rich. I see that each of you bought tickets for two or three seats. "

So this half-full hall was filled with laughter.

Someone once told me the story of a cross talk master Hou Baolin's criticism meeting during the Cultural Revolution.

When the host shouted, "Down with Hou Baolin!" Hou Baolin quickly lay down on the ground and said, "Hou Baolin was knocked down." When the host shouted, "Put a business hat on Hou Baolin!" Hou Baolin took out a self-made paper hat that was surprisingly high, put it on his head and said, "Hou Baolin has put on a tall hat." Make everyone laugh their heads off. Make the host in distress situation, originally a serious criticism meeting, turned out to be Hou Baolin's funny performance.

(2) Humor increases your attraction

I asked many young ladies for advice and asked them what kind of husband they liked. As a result, most young ladies put forward the same one: "Have a sense of humor."

in the west, a gentleman without a sense of humor is simply unattractive and stupid.

Humor will make you look optimistic and open-minded, and will enhance your appeal. When you are happy, your humor can make people share your happiness; When others are in pain, your humor can help them alleviate their pain. Everyone has the nature of pursuing happiness and wants to live a relaxed and enjoyable life, so humor will make you popular. At the same time, humor will make you look smart and witty. Where can a fool be humorous? Even other people's humor is beyond his comprehension. It often makes people laugh and cry.

People like humorous people, want to work with humorous people, are willing to do things for such people, and want to choose a person with a sense of humor as a lifelong companion.

one thing I admire most about the manager of our company is his sense of humor. Everyone wants to be with him. He always makes you relaxed and brings you joy and laughter, which is where his attraction and cohesion lie. I came to Shenzhen from Guangzhou with him by train that time. He was telling jokes all the way, one every few minutes, which attracted all the passengers in the carriage to come around, and people kept handing him cigarettes and drinks, and the whole carriage was full of laughter. He was like a prince in a carriage.

I still remember some jokes he told.

"A gentleman went to the toilet to urinate, and put his tape recorder on the ground behind him. When the thief saw it, he put the tape recorder on his head and pretended to urinate. When the gentleman finished urinating, he turned around and found that the tape recorder was missing, so he looked around. The thief said,' How can you be so careless? There are a lot of thieves now. You see I always put a tape recorder on my head when I pee.' Hearing this, the gentleman repeatedly said with regret,' That is, that is ...

"There was a football match in which a group of fans couldn't get tickets. I knew there were athletes living in the stadium, so I told the fans to put on their old sports clothes, and everyone lined up and ran to the stadium with my slogan "121, 121". At the gate of the stadium, I said to the old man who was guarding the door,' Six!' The old man said,' Well, six. Then count 1, 2 ... 6. After counting, the old man suddenly woke up. Six, six what?' But our people have already gone in. "

His jokes are one after another, almost without interruption. Everyone on the side laughed, and I was squeezed by people for nearly two hours, and I was completely tireless. This is the fastest time I have ever felt during my journey from Guangzhou to Shenzhen by train.

Everyone should have a sense of humor. Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal relationships and an indispensable force for all those who strive for progress. So, how can we develop a sense of humor?

Of course, humor is not purely technical. More importantly, it still depends on your quality. Humor is a reflection of your outlook on life. As long as you establish an optimistic attitude towards life, open-minded and open-minded, then you don't need to pursue it deliberately, and you will become a person with a sense of humor.

(3) Ways to cultivate a sense of humor

Humor can best reflect people's speaking level in essence. In order to train students' sense of humor, I asked each of them to tell a joke. As a result, before the joke was finished, he laughed to himself. But after the speech, no one laughed below. Because people still don't understand what's going on.

If you watch a horror movie and kill someone with one shot, you may not be nervous at all. However, excellent horror movies are often highlighted in dark alleys with tense music, and a pair of mysterious feet are moving little by little. Maybe the movie didn't kill people in the end, but it scared you to death because of the superb atmosphere rendering. The same is true of humor, which should be paved, the atmosphere rendered and the unexpected dramatic effect created.

So, should we list these humorous techniques one by one and memorize and learn them carefully? If you do this, it can be said that your sense of humor is stifled, stifled by those rules and regulations. Humor is the most important thing to improvise, depending on the object, the environment and the instant atmosphere. And the only way to master this skill is that practice makes perfect.

Usually, you should always read some short stories such as humor and jokes, recite some wonderful stories, and tell them in front of your friends when you have time. If you talk too much, you will improvise and play freely, and you will be able to master the humorous skills and use them creatively. The more you use humor, the stronger you become.

I have read such a little humorous story.

When foreign students learn Chinese, the most troublesome thing is the word "thing". The teacher said: "The word' thing' is similar to' thing' in English, but there are some differences.' thing' can be used to represent things, such as chalk is a thing and blackboard is a thing; It can also be used to represent people and describe them as naughty. It can be said,' You are a ghost' and describe people as bad. It can be said,' You are a bad thing.'

After listening to this, the students said to the teacher, "The table is a thing, and the bench is a thing; I am a thing and you are a thing. "

The teacher quickly corrected: "You can't say that people are things."

The student immediately corrected and said, "Teacher, you are nothing."

When the teacher heard this, he said, "This is even more wrong. This is a curse."

The students were confused and asked the teacher inexplicably: "It's wrong to say that you are something, and it's wrong to say that you are not something, so are you something after all?" What is it? "

There are many jokes like this. Writing them down, reciting them and telling them on appropriate occasions will enhance your sense of humor and make you more popular as a person.