200 yuan has a meal, and the blind date Phoenix Man asks for AA system. Can you accept it?

There is a saying that "I can't bear the child, but I can't catch the wolf." Savor it carefully. It's scary. It is too expensive to give up even one child for a wolf.

But in fact, this proverb is a myth because of the pronunciation of words. The original saying should be "You can't hide a wolf without shoes". Interesting, right?

In fact, whether you want to give up your children or shoes, you are saying that people need to pay a certain price in order to achieve a certain goal.

If you don't want to invest, you'll never get much.

The same is true of feelings. Those who only know how to take and don't know how to pay, or those who haggle over gains and losses, will never have a good ending. In fact, this is also a matter of one's vision and pattern.

I remember two years ago, a male returnees and a female white-collar blind date. Out of respect for women, returnees let girls choose restaurants at will, and the food is also ordered by girls. There is no need to save him money.

The woman ordered ten shrimp sashimi at 298 yuan each, and also ordered high-grade ingredients such as mussels and bird's nest, totaling 4,879 yuan. As a result, the returnees looked at the food ordered by the girls, chatted for a few words, got up and left before the meal was finished, and blacked out the girls. As a last resort, female white-collar workers pay for their own meals.

Afterwards, the returnees gave the girls 2000 yuan. But the girl refused, and the returnees had to bear all the expenses. After being rejected by the returnees, the girls found references again. Because the introducer introduced her to "overseas returnees", I wanted to sell the packaged food to the introducer to recover my losses.

The upbringing and nature of female white-collar workers are exposed, and the narrowness of vision and pattern can generally be seen.

Blind date is a test and understanding of two people's first acquaintance. Everyone is struggling for their own character and self-cultivation, and it is not bad to test each other appropriately. Those who are selfish and stingy when they meet for the first time and always guard against others taking advantage of themselves will always leave the impression that they don't want to see each other for the second time when they meet for the first time. How can they make the relationship go further?

This is not just a mistake made by ordinary people. I remember when watching Ode to Joy, Singularity saw Andy for the first time, and Singularity was full of alert for Andy.

It stands to reason that Singularity is an executive and a successful person. In order to test Andy, on the first date, he came by subway, fearing that this was his protection for himself and also a test for Andy. Even after he fell in love with Andy deeply, his selfishness became a fatal wound in his love.

The behavior of female white-collar workers and singularity is actually the embodiment of poor people's thinking in marriage and love.

People with poor thinking have one of the biggest characteristics: they want to be rewarded immediately, and they will never do anything that can't be rewarded immediately. When there is an opportunity, the thinking poor first consider its risk, not its income, which is what the folks often say: "If you don't see a rabbit, you won't scatter an eagle."

But the emotional thing is not fast. In ordinary life, dating, eating and watching movies always costs money. People with poor thinking are always picking up ropes in communication, for fear that their own cheap will be taken up by others.

Wang Bin (pseudonym) remembered the blind date that ended six months ago, and he felt remorse. He is stingy and regrets the possible marriage.

Now that I think about it, that girl is really atmospheric and sincere, but she is herself, gloomy in spirit and horribly narrow in vision.

One weekend, Wang Bin met his female classmate in Book City. Standing with that female classmate is a young girl who looks very capable and attractive.

Every weekend, Wang Bin likes to go to the Book City to see what good books are on sale. For Wang Bin, there are only books with discounts, but there is no knowledge of discounts. Although e-books are very popular now, Wang Bin still likes to collect and browse classic paper books.

It happens that his female classmates are also good at this, and sometimes they can meet him in the book city on weekends. This time, Wang Bin invited two beautiful women to drink coffee, and they chatted for a long time.

This girl is a colleague of a female classmate, three or four years younger than Wang Bin, but she doesn't have the alienation of the three-year-old generation gap as everyone said, and the chat is very speculative.

Wang Bin didn't expect that this coffee date made him become attached to that charming girl.

A week later, the female classmate called Wang Bin and asked him to date his colleague Jojo (a pseudonym).

Wang Bin agreed. He really has a crush on girls. It's just that female students don't know Jojo well. They just said that Jojo was not from here. She is a simple girl at work. She works hard and likes reading. Other female students really don't know much about it.

When dating, they still chose to go to the cafe near the book city. Before going, Wang Bin was fine. Cafe consumption is not high. For Wang Bin, one or two hundred dollars is not a thorn in the flesh.

Through his own efforts, Wang Bin can be regarded as a senior middle manager in the company, and his salary is relatively high. But because of the influence of the growing family, Wang Bin has always been more economical. After careful calculation, he will save money, and he should not spend any money.

Only coffee and light meals were paid in advance, and Wang Bin didn't refuse at that time. In his opinion, someone pays the bill and he is happy to save money.

Later, I watched it several times and the payment frequency was basically the same. There is no question of who spends more and who spends less.

During the chat, Wang Bin knew that Jojo was a very diligent girl. According to Jojo himself, when I finish my work during the day, I will do my own thing at night. The salary is not high, make some extra money to supplement it. I hope my life will be better in the future and I will work harder when I am young.

Wang Bin appreciates this kind of girl. She is independent, capable and enterprising. If she really gets married in the future, she will not bear the family burden alone.

The two have been dating for more than a month, and their feelings have not advanced by leaps and bounds. Mr. Wang feels that Jojo seems to be worried about him, and he can't tell if he didn't perform well enough. He wants to ask in person and doesn't want to spend too much time on this. Just do it, if not, he will find someone suitable for him.

Jojo agreed to meet and said that she would book a hotel and wait for him.

When Wang Bin arrived at the appointed hotel, he was stunned. This is a famous private restaurant in this city. It is said that the food is delicious and of course expensive. Some dishes are said to be hundreds.

Entering the box, Mr. Wang saw that Jojo had arrived and all the dishes had been ordered. A table full of people, Mr. Wang found it difficult to breathe, but he restrained himself, smiled at Jojo and sat down.

Wang Bin was on pins and needles because he was thinking about his wallet. Later, I really couldn't stand it. He left the box and asked the waiter about the cost of the meal. On hearing that this meal will cost about 4,500 yuan, Wang Bin felt like a knife.

He re-entered the box and looked at Jojo with a sweet smile. However, he was sweating and hesitant. He still spoke: "Let's AA this meal!"

After listening to his words, Jojo laughed even harder. She said, "Yes. I just want to taste whether the food here is as delicious as the legend. Since you are willing to share half the cost for me, why not? "

Jojo continued: "Don't you want to ask me why our relationship is stagnant? I think I may be different from you. As for me, as long as I am optimistic, I will devote myself to it if I examine it clearly; But you are different, you will be very cautious, you pay attention to reciprocity, you can't devote yourself to one thing without paying, you are still haggling over every ounce. Actually, I wanted to invite you to dinner today, but you offered AA, which made me more sure of this. I know, your income is high, and my income is not comparable to yours, but my sideline business is much higher than my main business. What I need is someone who can go crazy with me for my dreams. That's very kind of you, but I don't need it. "

Hearing this, Mr. Wang looked sorry. He knows that he missed a good girl because of his own problems.

In marriage and love, risks and opportunities actually coexist. You may meet people like the female white-collar workers mentioned above, or you may meet people who work silently like Jojo, which tests men's vision and pattern. He needs both an eye for opportunities and the courage to resist risks.

If a person is poor, if he is poor to the bone, he will rest on his laurels and will not go forward because he cares about gains and losses. He will only be satisfied with abacus and frugality, and his vision and pattern will naturally be narrow. He won't hide an interesting soul in his body. If you live with such a person, he will fall into many trivial calculations every day, which will make his marriage more complicated.

Therefore, both men and women should be very cautious when looking for their other half. Don't be attracted by each other's glamorous appearance, but pay more attention to the rich and poor in each other's spiritual world. If the other person has a bad mind, even if you like or love him deeply, try to stay away from him. Women, in particular, can marry men with material poverty, but they must not marry men with mental poverty.