The secret of marital harmony

Married life is a process of mutual accommodation, acceptance and adjustment between husband and wife, which can be described as "second love" after marriage. So, how to keep the married couple's life harmonious, romantic and happy? The following is the secret of husband and wife harmony that I brought to you. Welcome to read the reference!

First of all, don't forget to say I love you.

Some people think that married couples don't need to say "I love you" and "you are so beautiful", but in fact, learning to use sweet words can increase the interest of husband and wife's life and is one of the emotional ties of loving couples. In China, the feelings between husband and wife are not as exposed as in the west, but subtle. But hinting is by no means the same as closing the window of feelings. Everyone knows that skipping meals can lead to hunger, but many people don't know that lack of emotional communication can also lead to "emotional hunger". Hugs and kisses make people feel satisfied, and words full of feelings and love also make people feel satisfied. Medical psychology has proved that a person who is not satisfied emotionally for a long time will not only feel depressed, but also lead to a series of psychological obstacles and diseases. Therefore, it is very important for couples to make good use of "emotional language".

One party cooked a good meal, and the other party sincerely said, "You have worked hard. The food you cooked is really delicious. Thank you! " When one party put on his new clothes, the other immediately praised him: "You are so beautiful today." When you are on a business trip, you might as well write a few letters to express your unspeakable love. An emotional sentence not only makes people feel comfortable, refreshing, sweet and excited, but also easily arouses emotional waves and avoids unnecessary contradictions between husband and wife. So, no matter how many husbands and wives you have, don't forget to say "I love you" when your lover is in a bad mood!

Second, understand and cross the "language ice age"

During the period of premarital love, men and women couples have endless sweet words, and sometimes they have to find something to say even if they have nothing to say. After marriage, especially for the man, the color of "Gao Cangjian" is obviously strong. A doctor of psychology in the United States pointed out: "In the first year after marriage, the love words and flattery between husband and wife will drop by 30% compared with when they are in love." Ice age? The arrival of the woman is even heavier than that of the man. "If the woman can't correctly understand her husband's changes, she will often break the silence by' finding a quarrel'. At this time, if the husband can't understand correctly, he may fight back, so the quarrel will happen immediately. At this time, one of the methods of artistic treatment is that the husband or wife should calm down, listen to each other's opinions, help them vent and channel, and break the embarrassment of life with humor from time to time.

Third, relive the romance before marriage

Married women often complain to their husbands that they concentrate on playing mahjong, playing cards and watching TV pictures, rarely go to parks, cinemas and cafes like before marriage, and sometimes even forget some important festivals and even their wives' birthdays. This is a gross negligence.

After marriage, the husband should squeeze out some time to accompany, take care of and comfort his wife. Sundays and holidays are the time for wives to rest. The young couple can have a "nibble" meal in the restaurant, play in the park or watch a movie, which can enhance the affection between husband and wife and create new opportunities. Especially on his wife's birthday, the husband should lose no time to give his wife a gift, express his love and relive the sweet dream of love.

Fourth, get out of the inseparable misunderstanding.

Married men and women are separated from their parents, colleagues and partners who used to live together. They all live in newly decorated houses and live in a "two-person world" for a long time. However, with the passage of time, the differences in living habits and hobbies between husband and wife, and the contradictions in temper and personality began to appear, which need to be adjusted and adapted.

You should know that the quality of life of a husband and wife after marriage is a soul mate, not inseparable. Keeping a certain distance is an important guarantee for mutual attraction and admiration between husband and wife. As the saying goes, a long separation between husband and wife is better than a new marriage. This is the truth.

According to the survey, in a family with contradictions, both husband and wife have stable jobs and rarely travel, which is also very telling. When they were in love before marriage, their time together was limited, so their intimate relationship was abnormal. Proper separation after marriage is an appropriate adjustment. Especially when there are contradictions and differences between husband and wife, it is advisable to separate for a few days temporarily so that time and distance can deepen each other's feelings.

Ms. Roland, a female writer in Taiwan Province Province, said: "Only part of the happiness after marriage is based on the choice before marriage, and most of it depends on the adaptation after marriage and how you cultivate yourself in the future." It is true that watering the sweet flower of love requires the efforts of both husband and wife. Love is always a two-beat ensemble.

Skills of getting along with husband and wife:

She picked the rotten fruit and I picked the good one first.

I bought grapes, washed them and served them on the table. I choose big, round and full, not only by myself, but also by others. Anyway, why not "enjoy it first" after picking and eating? Wouldn't it be nice for those "old, weak and sick" to finally clean up the battlefield together? My wife is the opposite. She only eats the small, scarred and rotten ones, and leaves the good and big ones to others. In winter, I go to the vegetable cellar to get potatoes, and always take them from the big one first; My wife always picks rotten potatoes first. I laughed at her exaggeratedly and said that after eating this batch of rotten potatoes, the next batch of good potatoes was rotten, and I didn't eat good potatoes all winter!

The secret of harmonious coexistence: In my opinion, my wife is not worth the loss, but she is really considerate of others and always leaves good things to others, especially me.

I advocate eating casually on New Year's Day. She is like a "kannika nimtragol"

The children are all back, around a big round table, with more than ten mouths, all of which are their own. I advocate that anyone who likes to eat anything should stretch his chopsticks, swallow them in one gulp, and stand up if he can't reach them. What he wants is this lively atmosphere. And my wife, always like the "little wife" in the old society, doesn't move chopsticks very much. Either this dish or that meal was served. Her hands are already shaking, but when she is busy, her hands will shake even more. I see it in my eyes and it hurts in my heart, but she seems to have a spiritual satisfaction.

The secret of harmonious coexistence: everyone has his own fun. Why not watch the children eat? In fact, I feel the same as her, but in different ways.

I want to live a normal life, but she enjoys it.

I have a strong sense of time and regularity. Eating, taking medicine, reading, walking and sleeping are a little bit, which is not easy to change. If others disturb my life order or waste my time, I will be full of unhappiness. It is no exaggeration for children to say that I am "militarized" and "more tired than going to work after retirement". My wife's heart is like a pool of still water, quiet and unhurried. Rice has bugs. She can stand there all morning. When she has nothing to do, she can lie down and sleep for hours. I think it's past 7 o'clock since I came back from the morning market, and I'm in a hurry to prepare breakfast, but my wife seems to be fine, picking up the new newspaper sent in the morning and looking with relish. As soon as I shouted, she was full of reason: "I don't go to work, what's the hurry!" "

The secret of harmonious coexistence: if everyone is like me, our home will be like a military camp; If everyone is like her, our family will be disorganized. Fortunately, we can adjust each other's pace of life.

My daughter was worried when I let her go.

As the saying goes, "Thirty years ago, the son respected the father, and thirty years later, the father respected the son." In a sense, I agree with this proposition because it conforms to the dialectics of life. My view is: neither "let children and grandchildren be cows and horses" nor "make cows and horses for children and grandchildren". When children grow up, they can help them with their ideas when they encounter any major or difficult things. They can only be directors and coaches, and they will never intervene. On the other hand, my wife has to worry about everything. She seems to be the manager of several small families. She has the key to each house. No matter what we buy, no matter whether people need it or not, we must bring a copy. When the children come, you can see her running around the room without sitting or standing. When the child is gone, send it to the door. Needless to say, when they go downstairs, they have to lie by the window and look around until they can't see the shadow. Sometimes the children are in tears and dare not look back.

The secret of harmonious coexistence: some people master macro decisions, but they also need someone to take care of small things. This is the way we have cooperated for many years.

I'm not far from my neighbor. She is too enthusiastic.

We live in the "cadre building" and treat our neighbors well. I advocate reciprocity. Whoever has a serious illness or minor disaster, weddings and funerals, of course, must go to the front and be generous. As for the usual interpersonal communication, it is neither supercilious nor intimate. But my wife is enthusiastic, always helps when she is busy, and never guards against others. In the end, she is often taken in by those who are good at ordering people around her. For example, every time a neighbor gets up late, when his wife takes milk from home, she will take it with her and deliver it to someone else's door. Over time, she became a voluntary milkman. She is also a volunteer newspaper messenger.

The secret of harmonious coexistence: my wife's absolute kindness has been my heartfelt admiration for many years, but I just don't say it.

I am eager to try fashion, but she doesn't like it.

I am old and often crazy about teenagers. I am interested in new things. "New" food should be bought and tasted, and "new" clothes should also be tried. I'm in favor of being old and strong. My wife is used to step by step, afraid of a new word, popular new songs and new fashion trends, and doesn't like it.

The secret of harmonious coexistence: in fact, my wife is not an absolutely old-fashioned person. My "changing with each passing day" is satisfying her unknown desire for novelty, and her simplicity and certainty have added a lot of sense of stability to our lives.

The secret of happiness

There are so many differences between two people, which is good and which is bad? Or who is superior and who is inferior? I'm afraid it's hard to draw a conclusion.

I think at home, especially between husband and wife, there is often no reason to talk about it. The first thing is the word "love". Love is the password of love between husband and wife; Love is the glue of family stability. As long as "love" is combined, other differences can be resolved through consultation and disappear. I have carefully considered that the so-called contradiction between husband and wife is nothing more than the following situations: a small matter is indispensable and there is no need to call it true; The same direction, different tastes, can let nature take its course and do not interfere with each other; Each has its own advantages and disadvantages, and the solution is those that can stand out.

It is only natural that men and women have different yin and yang and husband and wife have different personalities. Differences attract each other, and differences follow. Differences, contradictions, coordination and unity are the process of love content renewal and emotional development in the "two-person world". Over time, it becomes that you have me and I have you, and their advantages complement each other and hit it off, but they feel that fate is interdependent and indispensable.

We regard reputation as our life, and believe that people without reputation can't hand it over, and units without reputation won't last long. We are the hometown of Confucius and Mencius, a country of etiquette, and have a long tradition of "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and trust". We are all highly educated, have certain moral cultivation and have our own principles in doing things. More importantly, we belong to a professional writing company? Shandong Guanghua writing office, our behavior is a collective behavior, subject to national laws. If we break the contract or violate the law, you can solve it through legal channels.

In addition, we follow a principle in our work: if we can't do business, we must do it. Judging from the customers we have served, what we have done is still in place. So far, there hasn't been a case where customers are dissatisfied with our service or even complain.

How to debug the relationship between husband and wife;

The magical use of e-mail

E-mail has a very human name, Yi Meier. Yi Meier has another function in our family ── the buffer zone between us.

My wife and I fall into the category of quarreling. Once, we quarreled about a trivial matter, and we were all very angry. No one refuses to lose first in person. Occasionally, I will address each other in the simplest language at work. First, it is inconvenient for colleagues to talk more. Second, neither side knows where to start. I had a brainwave, typed a letter on the computer and sent it to my wife unnoticed. Not long after, I received my first "sister" from my wife. When I opened the email, I saw that my letter was changed one place in the east and one place in the west, and I added a lot of "comments". My interest came, and I added a new "viewpoint" to the "comment" and sent it back. A few people came back and forth, and two people wrote what they wanted to say incisively and vividly. Yi Meier sent it to the end, and it felt like playing an RPG game. After a "comment", I was angry, too. The biggest advantage of doing this is that you can be calm and not hurt your face. You can also "listen" to the other side calmly and leave the gas to the machine.

Few couples who live under the same roof every day go to the post office to send letters to each other. An email not only replaces the old love letter, but also has a modern flavor. However, please be sure to keep your email password, otherwise it will become a popular love letter.

Never say divorce on Monday.

We have been married for many years, have no children, and live a free and easy life. We each set up our own companies, occasionally doing business and settling accounts with our brothers. I am extremely tired when I come home from work every day, and I am too lazy to say more about some contradictions. Generally speaking, he watches TV, I settle accounts and go his own way.

Weekends are usually times of crisis. On weekdays, we are always used to being yelled at in the office, and we are very rushed to talk and do things at home. On Saturday morning, he always complained that I was not wise enough when he saw that the house was full of sanitary corners. After several quarrels, the war escalated immediately. Finally, someone will say, let's go.

You can't go through the divorce procedure on Saturday and Sunday. On Monday, they were busy with work and their divorce fell through. If I file for divorce on Monday, I will stand on my own side.

Never mention divorce on Monday. This is our secret.

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