There is a girl who really wants to see my jokes, and she has been in a mess recently.

Be yourself and treat what is happening around you calmly, just like training yourself. After you figure it out, you won't have any worries. Taking a step back means that your ideological understanding is ideological, you will be suddenly enlightened and broaden your horizons, and all your troubles will become the driving force for progress, so that you can work and live happily.