Can you forgive my wife for cheating? How many men can forgive their wives for cheating?

Among the men who can come to me for help, there are still some who forgive their wives for cheating. Although not as many as female helpers.

"I can't accept each other's infidelity. It's a pity that any man can accept wearing a cuckold. "

"Look at the actual situation. If the other person is emotionally derailed, there is no real relationship. For the sake of family and children, life will continue. After all, children need the care of their mothers, and I also need my wife to help me with some trivial things in life. "

"She cheated, I can also, each play each, as long as it doesn't reflect the harmony of family life. After all, the cost of marriage is still quite high, and remarriage should be considered after divorce. There are many people who are married and living together now. "

In fact, it is obvious that most men still can't accept their partners cheating. From a psychological point of view, this is based on the persistence of self-esteem flowing in men's blood for thousands of years.

But it does not rule out that some men choose to forgive each other based on various practical considerations, namely Love Actually. We can analyze from the survey that some men forgive cheating partners for two reasons: emotional reasons and family reasons.

Love deeply, so I can't bear to let go, so I choose to forgive. Fallacy of sunk cost: The more a person pays, the less willing he is to give up, and the more he will cherish it. This theory is the same for both men and women.

The sunk cost also plays a huge role in the emotional investment of husband and wife: whoever pays more will cherish the family more, while those who pay less will give up more easily because of the lower sunk cost.

The deeper a man loves a woman, the more he gives, the harder it is to let go.

Especially when this woman pleads, apologizes and admits her mistake, men are actually very easy to be soft-hearted. There is a very reasonable saying that a woman's tears are the best weapon, and a man's deep affection is a woman's confidence.

"I don't know what I want to do. Watching her kneel there, regretting and crying, constantly punishing herself. Obviously, her heart can't help but soften. I love her and want to cure her for life. Everything goes with her, and I can't figure out why she betrayed me. "

"Sometimes I really spit myself out and feel weak, knowing that she always despises herself, but I always feel that she can always see my goodness after a long time, and she will be moved by me after a long time. Perhaps it is true that people who love more are doomed to be losers. "

"It is said that women are more affectionate, but I think it is more difficult for men to let go of their true feelings. I don't know how to give up. The people I care about carefully, the people I put in my heart, don't belong to me in the end. This is too fucking. "

Because of my deep love, I can't really turn a blind eye to each other's retention and entreaties.

When families become fetters, children linked by blood become ties, and iron men also have weaknesses. What man doesn't want to go home, his wife's gentle words, his child's lovely, childlike smile?

"What about divorced children. The child is still young, and marrying another one may not be able to treat the child wholeheartedly. Besides, children need to be taken care of. She usually takes care of children more. After the divorce, I have to work and support my family, and I don't have much time to take care of my children. "

"Even if separated from her, looking for another one may not be able to live with peace of mind. How can a family be so scattered? "

In marriage, both men and women will consider the value of both sides.

Once the cost of divorce is too high, men will judge the enforceability of divorce more rationally. Genes determine that most men are more rational than most women. Therefore, when looking at marriage, men will consider more realistic factors when making decisions.

In the face of partner's betrayal, there are only a few words of forgiveness, but there are countless family pains and tears.

I forgave her, but I have been suffering and struggling, and the man's self-esteem and pride have been frustrated. The breakdown of the trust relationship between the two sides has become a problem that cannot be ignored in this marriage.

How to maintain this marriage and continue the relationship between two people? Always struggling in pain and trouble is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes and past events. It's hard to pull out that thorn called betrayal, but no matter how painful it is, you have to heal the wound.

1. Rebuild self-confidence system and improve self-cognition.

Many men who have experienced partner betrayal will make wrong judgments about self-knowledge.

At the same time, because of emotional difficulties, men will not be confident enough. After all, in the eyes of most people, the proof of successful men is money, power and women's pursuit.

"I feel that my relatives and friends around me are laughing at me. I know I may be too sensitive and suspicious, but every time I hear someone mention a joke like Lao Wang next door, I feel very unhappy. "

"I never knew it would be so painful to wear a cuckold. She vowed never to do anything wrong to me and my family again. I want to forgive her and move on with my life. But as soon as I saw her show some impatience, I wondered if she wanted to leave me. "

"I know I shouldn't think so, but watching her watch TV on Tik Tok is happier than chatting with me, and I feel very bad. I don't know if this relationship is necessary to continue. Men sometimes seem to care, but the pain in their hearts is just unwilling to show it. "

It is not easy for a man to rebuild his self-confidence in the face of his inner self-distrust.

Here, men are advised to make solutions according to their actual situation.

Beautify your appearance through fitness, weight loss and shaping; Through the reconstruction of hobbies, realize self-worth and enjoy yourself; By expanding one's knowledge capacity and increasing one's knowledge ... these methods are fundamentally inseparable from one truth: highlighting the advantages and weakening the shortcomings, thus enhancing the internal and external image temperament of the whole person.

Men are visual animals, so are women. Men like women with connotation and temperament, and women certainly like excellent men. Men like the pleasure of conquest, while women enjoy it.

Kneeling will not have a good result, and mutual attraction is love.

Therefore, to rebuild the self-confidence system, we must first enlarge our own advantages.

2. Repair the broken trust barrier

The distrust caused by betrayal will be difficult to repair, but it is not helpless.

Freud put forward the sweet lemon theory, which means trying to convince yourself and others that what you do or have is the best choice. In fact, it is essentially a self-suggestion behavior.

"Whenever I was with her, I looked at her happily, as if I had forgotten my betrayal, and I was very resentful. At this time, I will hint to myself that she wants to live a good life with me and continue this marriage. Because she is very close and happy, she will laugh. "

"Looking at her carefully asked, my in the mind will inevitably feel uncomfortable. At this time, I will tell myself in the order of dreams that the other person is cautious because he knows the mistake and cares. "

Many people may think, how does this sound like self-deception? What if the other person repents for a while and then germinates again?

This kind of worry is not unreasonable, but since you have chosen to forgive, the other party has also given yourself the right to supervise, so if you have been trapped in the whirlpool of doubt, this life is too tired. The process of digging out the seeds of doubt is not simple, but effective communication between the two sides can solve the problem.

It is suggested that both husband and wife spend more warm and romantic time together.

A wife should be more patient to discover her husband's advantages, and a husband should give his wife more time to accompany him.

Two people will set aside a day or two every week to date together, do housework together, feel the little surprise of life together, and make each other's hearts closer.

In marriage, whether the man is cheating or the woman is cheating, both sides have their own reasons, but this is not an excuse for cheating.

To maintain a marriage better, communication, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance and passionate maintenance are all very important. Romance is a surprise of life, and there is warmth of love in plain.

I am Dai, and every relationship is hard-won. I hope that through some of my little suggestions, you will feel less pain.