Don't joke! The scale of chatting and joking with children

Do things in moderation, sometimes joking too much will not only fail to entertain others and please yourself, but may also lead to a big mistake.

I have always thought that language is a mysterious communication tool, especially joking. Speaking in public, or chatting with strangers, if you can break the ice with jokes, you can instantly change the original serious and embarrassing atmosphere and bring people closer at once.

But to be moderate, sometimes jokes are too much, which not only can't entertain others, but also may lead to a big mistake. For example, the following news.

Just for fun, I don't know how serious it is.

According to news reports, a train had an accident in Yunlin, and the Taiwan Railway sent a sea surveillance hadron to rescue it. Unexpectedly, the female conductor in charge of receiving passengers not only deliberately did not broadcast to remind passengers, but also posted her pranks and feelings online afterwards. There is even an expression in the picture that the tongue is worse than ya, and he claims to be a cruel conductor, mocking the passengers who got on the wrong bus. The spectators were furious and complained to the Taiwan Railway, the Inspectorate and the Presidential Palace. The top management of the Taiwan Railway immediately conducted a thorough investigation, which was finally found to be a fact and severely punished for demotion. When the conductor was interviewed afterwards, he said regretfully, "I just thought it was fun and didn't know the seriousness." 」

I can't help but shake my head when I watch it. Another "just for fun" kid. No, I took a closer look and found that the conductor was over 30 years old. At the age of 30, I should be called an adult. He didn't do his duty as a conductor, but he gave a bad demonstration to the children. In fact, this is not a sporadic case news. From the photos taken by medical staff and corpses, the dance of lifting coffins, to the movies of students who fell on campus a while ago, these people all have the idea of "just playing, I don't know the seriousness", but as onlookers, we always endure a cold sweat and want to shout loudly: "It's not funny at all! 」

How to balance fun and not fun, and how to create a cognitive gap? I want to give two examples of children. Let's think about it together.

It's not funny!

In Shuang Bao's brother's class, a child threw a parabolic object from upstairs and dropped an iron pencil case. The first-grade child was smashed into the wall and cried on the spot. The little girl screamed at the sight of blood, but the naughty boy clapped his hands upstairs and everyone stared at him, but he enjoyed it. The teacher asked the naughty boy, and he said he only thought he was joking. According to this answer, he didn't realize the seriousness of the problem. Instead, he saw the first-grade children crying and the people around him screaming, which was "very funny". 」

But in others' eyes, it is campus bullying, which is not fun at all. In the end, his parents not only paid for the medical expenses, but also changed to a new school at the suggestion of the school because they could not stand the pressure of public opinion on campus. As a result, they just changed to another battlefield and continued to punish their classmates in the new school.

Brother Shuang Bao, although he is not as evil as that classmate, he did something that made my father and I have a headache. Brother Shuang Bao has been particularly interested in "jokes" and "tricks" since he entered the second grade of primary school. Besides watching whole-person programs and movies, we will also practice. If you just tell some harmless jokes, such as telling jokes on breakfast drinks, parents can still accept it.

The problem is that he occasionally accidentally goes out of bounds. For example, once my family went to see the movie Dying to Survive, in which the supporting actor died, and there was a cry of falling from the cinema. As a result, the Shuang Bao brothers burst out laughing, and several spectators in the front row turned around and gave him a hard stare.

As parents, we also realized that there was something wrong with his emotional expression, so we took this opportunity to go home and educate him.

Don't joke about some jokes.

It is one of human nature to like watching others make a fool of themselves. Many variety shows, movies, and online short films have grasped this social nature and made full use of tricks to earn enough traffic, which is deeply loved and sought after by children. My child asked me, "Why can't TV programs and movies do things in the real world?" ? This shows that children's imitation ability is very strong, especially teenagers. They are eager to get the attention of their peers and hope to be treated by adults, so they will unconsciously imitate the whole movie clip in TV or movies in exchange for attention.

When children just want to get attention, they will not be aware of the dangers and problems, regardless of the safety and mood of others, and only see the pitiful appearance of their classmates, which makes them feel funny and clap their hands, but it causes public anger and even rejection. If children are allowed to develop without proper education and control, they will get a lot of school bullying.

Parents should tell their children not to make the following seven kinds of jokes.

1. appears

In life, many children really like to make fun of their looks, such as giraffes, whose tall and small breasts are called airports. If the joker doesn't care, it is a joke. If you care, it will really become language bullying.

2. Idol

Idol advocates often abuse from a distance on the internet, and finally they get out of hand and turn into cyber bullying. This situation also happens on campus. In Shuang Bao's class, there was an incident in which a child laughed at another idol because she was mentally retarded, which led to physical conflict between them.

3. Parents and family

Parents and family are everyone's initial starting point. When parents and family members are laughed at, they are as painful as being laughed at. Many people should think the same as me: "it doesn't matter how you scold me, just don't scold my parents." Many social news, even murder and wounding incidents, stem from the victim's ridicule of the parents of the perpetrators.

4. Personal bottom line

A person's bottom line often involves his pain and shortcomings, which is what everyone is most concerned about. Making fun of other people's bottom line is often stepping on their self-esteem.

5. Dreams and beliefs

I once took a vegetarian child with me. The whole family are devout Buddhists. The children in the class always laugh at his preference for food over meat. My partner and I took the opportunity to educate and tell the children in our class that there are different beliefs in the world and we should learn to respect everyone's differences.

6. yellow hole

Pornographic jokes are one of the most dangerous jokes. If it is not handled properly, it will even be considered as verbal sexual harassment.

7. Name

Because there is the word "Ying" in the name, I have been called firefly or * * * since I was a child. Fireflies are acceptable, but * * * is a little unbearable and very troublesome. It can be seen that joking with names is also one of the taboos.

A joke, played properly, is called humor, but not handled properly, it becomes bullying.

I often tell children, joking, hiding half the truth, don't be careless! If you don't have the confidence to master each other's personality, bottom line and mood, don't make the above seven jokes. Just make a joke about the same sentence, because different personalities, different occasions and different moods will have thousands of different results. A joke, played properly, is called humor, but not handled properly, it becomes bullying.

As the saying goes, "the speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart." Language is a double-edged sword. A joke without taboos may bring you joy, but it may also hurt the listener inadvertently. Don't step on other people's misfortunes and sprinkle salt on the wound. It's funny. Boy, seriously, it's not funny!

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