"Two children" is not necessarily happiness, but also a disaster. what do you think?

Many times, everyone wants to live a happier life. Although everyone has a different understanding of the word "happiness", I believe that in the hearts of most of us, "having both children" is undoubtedly the best interpretation of this sentence.

Because "raising children to prevent old age" is an old saying, even if "raising children to prevent old age" is not reliable, at least having a son will not make others laugh; And the phrase "the daughter is the mother's intimate little cotton-padded jacket" is also deeply rooted in the hearts of the people; From this point of view, it seems that "having both children" is destined to be happy?

But as we all know, nothing is absolute, and so is "both children". Sometimes, in some cases, "two children" may not be happiness, but may also be disaster.

65-year-old uncle Jin

I have retired for five years. I have a son and a daughter. To outsiders, I am a typical "child who has both", so I should be full of happiness. But my inner pain is only clear to me, and it is difficult for outsiders to understand.

When my son got married, I got a bride price of 6.5438+0.5 million. I think this is all I should do. As a result, when my daughter got married, she let me get a dowry of 6.5438+0.5 million. Although I am short of money, I dare not say much. Even if I borrow money, I will do it.

I was scared at that time, and my daughter called me "son preference". In case my son leaves me in his later years, I have at least one daughter, but later things developed far beyond my expectation.

The son gave birth to a little grandson and asked his wife to help with the children. My wife just brought up her little grandson and didn't have time to catch her breath. The daughter gave birth to a little granddaughter, and the daughter spoke. My wife has no choice but to take care of her daughter.

After a few years, my wife's waist was not good, and now it is getting worse. I have to do all the housework at home and wait on my wife by the way. I wanted to spend my old age after retirement, but now I have become a "free nanny".

I have a monthly pension of 5000 yuan, and I want to save some money to find a better nursing home with my wife in my later years. But with this money, either my son borrowed money to buy a car or my daughter borrowed money to buy a house. I have retired for several years, and now my bank card only has a balance of 6.5438+0.0000 yuan.

At the beginning, I thought I was "both children and children" and I should live a enviable life in my later years. Who knows that now my wife has collapsed and her pension is gone. If I had known this, I would have given birth to one. Obviously, I'm looking for myself to suffer.

Aunt Liu, 65 years old

I am 65 years old. I am from the countryside. I have two daughters and a son. Now my children are married and have children. It stands to reason that I should be able to enjoy my children's family happiness now, but in the eyes of children, I have obviously become an "enemy."

And all this is due to interests. In the early years, I had a good relationship with my children and my children were very close. Everyone gets along well. After all, we are all family.

However, because we need to occupy a few acres of land in my home to build the expressway, the competition for various interests has gradually emerged. I intend to get more than 2 million compensation. The son said that in rural areas, the daughter is the married daughter who poured water, and this compensation should belong to herself.

My two daughters think this is an old custom and should be abolished. And they have done their duty to support me for so many years, so naturally they should share the compensation equally. At that time, I also felt that what my daughter said was very reasonable and that children should be treated equally.

But I dare not express my position casually, because I know that as long as I express my position, I will definitely offend the other party, so I said that this is my compensation and I will not give it to anyone. As a result, as soon as I said this, I immediately became a "target." None of my three children understand my difficulties, but they all say I am selfish.

Many people think that having more children is a good thing, but in my opinion, I don't think so. It is because I have many children that I am in a dilemma when I really encounter something. The point is that it's really hard for my children not to understand me.

Aunt Lu, 65 years old

I have a son and a daughter. My son graduated from college and works in a big company. He married a beautiful daughter-in-law, and he settled in other places. Although the youngest daughter didn't go to college, she found a husband who did business, and her life was ok. But now, instead of enjoying their blessings, I just want to cry.

When my son married his daughter-in-law, I gave her the only jade bracelet my grandmother left me. My daughter was very unhappy when she saw it. Although I said that when my daughter got married, I also gave her a jade finger wrench, but my daughter said that it was obviously not as valuable as that jade bracelet and insisted that I return it.

Although I explained it again and again, my daughter just wouldn't listen and it didn't count. A few times, my little grandson couldn't write his homework, so I asked her mother. When my daughter can't do it, she blames me, saying that I "prefer boys to girls" and only let her brother go to college, but I didn't. I'm speechless.

The key son is ungrateful. Sometimes I bring some native products from my hometown to visit, but my son says the quality is so poor. Is it because my brother-in-law is rich, and all the good things are used to please my sister? I don't want to explain why I was stared at by my daughter-in-law just after I finished. Explanation is just a cover-up. I understand this sentence.

Now I feel really tired of living. I think I have a clear conscience about my two children, and I have never been partial to this or that. It's just that the result is their ruthless injury. Maybe "all children are happy" is just a beautiful "lie", at least I didn't feel it.

Small and micro conclusion

In fact, "having both children" was originally synonymous with happiness, but for a long time, with the formation of our children's cognitive errors and other reasons, more and more elderly people are now dissatisfied and resistant to "having both children", and they simply can't feel the real reason for happiness.

Although these three old people are just talking about their own experiences, in my opinion, these phenomena are definitely not a case at present, but a very common phenomenon, which should arouse all of us' attention and vigilance.

Therefore, no matter when children treat their parents, they should try to be grateful, filial, sensible, respectful, tolerant and understanding. Only in this way can children really feel happy, otherwise, parents will never feel or understand the phrase "children and children are happy".