My boyfriend once criticized his ex for being "hypocritical and worshiping money", but when his ex got back, he slapped himself in the face. What do you think?

01

How many people’s love is one thing in front of the person but another behind the scenes?

When two people are together, no one is afraid of hardship and no one is afraid of giving. The premise is that all the efforts you make will be seen by the other person and they will be grateful.

If you encounter a "white-eyed wolf" in your relationship, he will really hurt you without hesitation.

For some people, you may not be able to see through each other at all when you have been together for a long time.

You think that he should have the same mentality as you and long for the same future. As everyone knows, everything is just what you think.

The saddest thing in love is mistaking the wrong person.

You will be full of grievances even with the feelings you have given.

Of course, such a breakup will naturally not lead to easy reunion. In love, there is never repaying kindness with kindness.

Don’t encourage others to do good unless they have suffered.

You don’t need to be empathetic, but you just need not to be too holy.

A girl told me that she had been crying for two whole days. During these two days, she could be said to have not thought about food and drink, and she had lost her fighting spirit.

This failed relationship made her begin to doubt herself:

Does a girl like me really not deserve someone’s true love?

She believes that she is a good girl. Although she is not a particularly outstanding type, she works hard, is loyal to love, and treats others reasonably. According to her conscience, she thinks she is kind at heart.

But just like this, she encountered a major "Waterloo" in her first love.

She was let down, and let down miserably.

She was not defensive at all when she was in love. Just like all girls in first love, she had expectations and fantasies, and her love for him was also pure.

But her solitary bravery turned out to be a complete joke in her own eyes.

Because the person she liked was lying to her from beginning to end.

02

How can a person’s performance in love be considered reliable?

I think there are many standards for this measurement, all of which need to be down to the details, and you also need to feel it with your heart. Don't be in love. Once you fall in love, you can't wait to tell everything, and you can't wait to dig out your heart.

Love that is too full and without thinking will probably not have a good result in the end.

However, one thing is most basic: a lover with good character will never speak ill of the previous relationship in front of the next one.

Both of them are already in the past tense. It is irrational to take out those dusty past events and rearrange them again.

Moreover, it is easy to leave scars in the current heart, whether it is good or bad.

The boy she liked violated this taboo.

And because she was obsessed with love, she didn't realize anything was wrong.

Before getting together with her, the boy had been in a relationship for nearly four years. In the end, the girl broke up with her because she asked him for 8,000 yuan, but he didn't give it.

He told her that during the four years they were together, he never saved any money he earned and spent almost all of it on her.

He also expressed regret, saying that when he was young at the time, he thought that liking meant meeting the other person's requirements and obeying the other person unconditionally, and that was how he ended up in this situation.

After saying this, she felt a little sympathetic to him.

Then he said that he was really lucky to meet her later, and then he realized that there is such a beautiful girl in the world, independent, confident, and does not care about poverty and loves wealth. He said that he was able to meet her, which is a blessing in life. The greatest luck.

When they first got together, she insisted on the principle of "you pay this time, I'll pay next time" when they went out to eat, and he was deeply moved by this.

However, she did not do it to impress him on purpose, but because this was her consistent principle:

She did not like to take advantage of others.

His predecessor has always been criticized as "hypocritical and money-worshiping", and he has expressed his regret several times for not getting to know her earlier.

03

Sometimes, she feels aggrieved.

Because from what he said, she felt that when he was with his ex, he was much more attentive and submissive than he was to her. It could be said that he relied on the other person unconditionally.

He himself laughed at it, saying that at that time he was simply a "licking dog" as often said on the Internet.

However, she can usually resolve this kind of grievance herself.

First, she herself asked to know about his love history. She was just curious, what kind of girl did he like in the past?

Secondly, if they were together, he would still be very nice to her, considerate of everything, and considerate of all aspects. He was a very warm man.

She later realized that the things he did were probably just conditioned reflexes from what she had taught him in the previous relationship.

When she realized this, she realized that she had been ignoring the importance of his ex.

She thought that his evaluation of her was all negative, so how could he still miss her in his heart?

He also said that she is the only person he loves now.

The two of them have been together for more than half a year. Although there have been noisy moments, there is also a lot of sweetness for her who is in love for the first time.

He has become a very important person in her life, so important that she is thinking about when to take him back to see her parents.

However, he was caught off guard and broke up.

Because his ex got back more than a year after they broke up. When he saw that he was in love, he cried and made a fuss. He had to call him multiple times every day.

There is a saying: If the ex cries, the current one will lose.

When she found out about this, she did not think that he would go back. Instead, she told him: You should handle the matter first and then give me the result.

Unexpectedly, his way of dealing with it was to break up with her.

The ex who he once described as "hypocritical and money-worshiping" was so unworthy that he mocked him as a "dog-licking" ex, but he slapped him in the face and went back.

After the breakup, he even deleted her quickly. She thought: It must be the sign from that girl.

She did not expect that the strong relationship she was proud of had a gap from the beginning, which could set off a violent storm at any time.

She overestimated him and her feelings.

04

She said that it seemed she could no longer believe in love.

Many people doubt love itself after falling out of love. In fact, love is right, and so are you. What's wrong is that you didn't choose the right person.

Being with different people will really have different results.

The right and excellent people can make you better and better, while the wrong people will pull you back and harm yourself.

Thinking about it from another angle, sometimes mistakes can lay the foundation for future correctness. After you experience it once, you will learn to distinguish it in the future.

And if the other party is the wrong person, you should be lucky to stop the loss in time. Otherwise, the longer the time goes, the easier it will be to be dragged into a place of no return.

You are very good, and naturally you deserve someone better.

As for the above, time will give you the final answer.