A good couple is not a lifetime without quarreling, but a lifetime after quarreling!

The so-called marriage, sometimes I love him very much, and sometimes I want to shoot him.

As a result, he met his favorite food on the way to buy a gun, but he forgot to buy a gun when he bought the food. Go home for a few days and think about it. You still have to buy a gun ...

How can two people go from love to marriage, from flowers and moonshine to daily necessities, without stumbling and making noise?

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Sometimes, the quarrel between husband and wife can make the marriage life more steaming.

My parents have been married for more than 3 years, and they have always been a model couple praised by their neighbors.

But even if the two people are now over 1 years old, the quarrel is still a bloody affair.

When they quarrel, they don't care about vows of eternal love. For ever, their usual soft words almost turn into growls.

Like all couples, the reason for parents' quarrel is nothing more than trivial matters. The quarrel has risen to a historical height and turned over old scores.

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But the secret of keeping parents sweet for many years lies in their attitude after quarreling.

Generally speaking, after a quarrel, dad always has the cheek to please his mother:

"Honey, I'll cook today, ok?"

"I have finished all the cleaning. Do you have any instructions from my superiors?"

Tell a few jokes occasionally, and make my cold-faced mother laugh.

then, they made up again.

After seeing the old clown quarreling, I began to get used to it, because in the end, it always turned into a living large-scale show of love.

once, I chatted with my mother: "mom, you and dad can't help quarreling every time. Anyway, they will make up in the end. Why bother?"

Mom said earnestly,

"You are still too young. At ordinary times, we will have contradictions when we get along with ordinary friends, not to mention couples who eat a pot of rice and sleep in the same bed? Feelings depend on getting along, marriage depends on running-in, and both of them are as silent as a gourd. That's terrible! "

Looking back, isn't the "quarrel" my mother said just the essential temperature in marriage?

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When the temperature between husband and wife is gone, wouldn't it be the most familiar stranger ...

A few days ago, I talked to my friend Xiaoyan about the topic of husband and wife quarreling, and she began to complain to me. Her husband never quarreled with her.

I'm a little puzzled. I never quarrel, which means my husband let you. Isn't that nice?

after careful questioning, it turns out that Xiaoyan's problem is not that she doesn't quarrel, but her husband's attitude when she quarrels.

Every time there is a conflict between husband and wife, as soon as Xiaoyan says a few words, her husband begins to keep silent, and then it is a long cold war.

In fact, Xiaoyan expected the two of them to have a few carefree quarrels, and it was more comfortable to put their attitude on the table. As a result, her husband's indifference actually escalated the contradiction.

Slowly, Xiaoyan and her husband have less and less communication. Now, even if they are sitting together, they are playing with their own mobile phones, and there is no communication.

In fact, this is also the situation that many people face in marriage.

In the face of quarrels, most people prefer to avoid conflicts and say nothing in order to avoid the escalation of contradictions, which often turns into a cold war in the end.

But in fact, the couple have lost communication, and their dissatisfaction and emotions are all buried in their hearts. Their resentment towards each other is like a snowball, which may trigger an avalanche one day.

Marry because of love, and get married just to be together for life.

if two people draw a clear line and don't want to talk to each other, the relationship will die in a waste.

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American marriage expert Wenger? Julie once wrote in the Law of Happy Marriage:

? "In this world, even the happiest marriage will have 2 thoughts of divorce and 5 thoughts of strangling each other."

In fact, this sentence is still short of the most crucial second sentence. The secret of a happy marriage lies in the 21st reconciliation and the 51st forgiveness.

The marriage between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang has always been a close love that we admire.

But such a pair of immortal couples will quarrel and bicker like ordinary people. For them, quarreling is like a seasoning of plain life, which brings two hearts closer together.

Of course, at the end of the quarrel, it was Qian Zhongshu who let Yang Jiang go. When Yang Jiang lost his temper, he would ask Qian Zhongshu, "Why do you let me go every time you quarrel?"

Qian Zhongshu replied, "Because you are mine, even if I win, what can I do?"? In the world of two people, there must always be a joke, a smile, a noise and a coax. "

some people say that marriage has three years of pain and seven years of itching.

in the third year, there is less novelty and less topic.

in the seventh year, the passion gradually faded and the contradictions accumulated.

The purpose of quarreling is to resolve the garbage mood. After quarreling, we can live a good life and get through the hurdle, and then we will have ten-year appointments one after another.

The so-called good marriage is not a lifetime without quarreling, but a lifetime after quarreling.

Only by finding a balance in quarreling and learning to quarrel in moderation can we form the most stable alliance between husband and wife.

I wish every couple can grow into each other's most comfortable appearance, and work out a tacit understanding that they can hold hands and watch the dusk, and they can also laugh and ask if porridge is warm.