What should a 34-year-old unmarried childless young woman do if she is unemployed for more than one year?

A 34-year-old unmarried and childless young woman has been unemployed for more than a year, and she can't find a suitable job in her hometown and town. Negative emotions such as anxiety, helplessness, inferiority, lifting her head and guilt bother me and make me miserable! Lying flat I don't know when it started, and the word "lying flat" has become a hot online word that young people especially like to say. In fact, I really want to live a life I like, but I really don't have that qualification. Because I am unmarried and childless, I have no money, no house and no savings, and I am 34 years old and facing the crisis of 35 years old, but I am still unemployed, let alone a stable job.

At this moment, I am anxious, helpless and depressed, and I have completely lost confidence in myself. To be honest, I don't want to go out. Now I am most afraid of being asked: didn't you go to work this year? Young people who don't go to work now seem to be "different". Even the elderly in their sixties and seventies are struggling for their lives, while people my age are willing to lie flat at home. Of course not, but the experience of looking for a job in the last year seems to tell me that you have been mercilessly abandoned by society. This is a cruel fact that has to be admitted. Many people will say, as my uncle said, my age is a good time to find a job, and I have a degree, so I am a second-year student. I can only say with a wry smile that he is really "hungry". As a member of the system, he naturally doesn't know the cruelty of society. I'm 34 years old, especially unmarried and childless women. How embarrassing! My ability is really average.

Now I have become a "joke" in the eyes of relatives and friends. It's really funny to see who went to school and couldn't even find a job. And I am a sensitive and fragile person. Hearing this, I really want to find a crack in the ground. Proud face to tell the truth, scholars have a kind of "pride" more or less. They love face and don't want to be cashiers, waiters or salespeople, let alone take-away food or go to factories. I would rather lie flat than let go of the so-called "face", but how much is the face worth? It can be said that it is worthless. Only when a person really puts down his so-called face and is down to earth can he work better and be down to earth. The so-called university may give us more choices in society, not the kind of university that can only go up the stairs.

If so, once the ability and ideal don't match, it's easy to be high or low, just like I am now, in an embarrassing situation. Actually, I'm really ashamed. I feel very sorry for my parents. They worked hard to provide me with an education, but in the end I accomplished nothing. I'm just a loser. Small county, 34 years old, unmarried and childless, civil servant, without rich experience, excellent technology and clear career planning, all these factors further aggravated my difficult situation. I really don't know what else to do. Married girls, especially those who have just graduated, should really work hard, have a stable job and find a good marriage, because then the object you are looking for will not be too bad. Work, love, marriage and having children are actually a normal order. Don't waste too much energy on work when it is still unstable, because people's energy is limited after all.

You know, what is the most important thing at every stage of life? Have a clear understanding and plan for yourself. People with clear minds will naturally live well, don't you think? Are you all right now? It's not as bad as me anyway, is it? Life is not easy, do it and cherish it, * * *!