In a remarried family, would you choose to divorce for the sake of your children?

I will choose not to divorce for the sake of my children, because children are very important to me.

No child is willing to let his parents divorce.

When I was very young, my dad always played mahjong all night long. My mother was afraid of the dark and didn't feel like looking for him on the street. She was also afraid that he would lose too much money, so she woke me up and went to find my father with her. To this day, whenever I think about a night like that, I feel desperate. At that time, I thought that when I get married in the future, I will never find someone like my dad.

But even if I think so, I still don’t want my parents to divorce. It's very selfish, but children really just hope that they can be a child with parents. My brother and I are particularly afraid of the thought of our parents getting divorced and us becoming unwanted children.

In order to prevent our parents from quarreling and getting divorced, we both behaved very well. To this day, whenever my parents quarrel, my brother and I will be conditioned to be afraid. At that time, we had no idea what our mother endured.

Now that I am a mother, I think about how great my mother was at that time. I'm not afraid of your jokes, but I still don't dare to think about what would have happened if my parents got divorced. What happened to my brother and me. Will we have stepfather and stepmother? Will we never see each other again after we are separated?

As long as the child is not doing well, it is really difficult for a mother to be happy.

She told my mother more than once that she regretted the divorce. Her divorce at that time was due to issues between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. She said, why was she so stupid to get divorced in the first place? Can't she argue with her mother-in-law? Can't you argue with a man? Even if there are quarrels, even if the house is a little chaotic, at least the children have their father's love. At least the children will not grow up in the cold eyes of others. At least the child will not know from an early age that she is not her father's biological child, and that she is a child without a father.

She told my mother that her daughter seldom smiled. A child who has been particularly insecure since childhood. She doesn't have the innocence of an average child. The background of her childhood was that she was not treated well by her stepfather.

Every time my mother hears this, she feels that she was right not to get divorced. Because, although she and my father often quarrel. But fortunately, my brother and I still had a happy childhood. A family of four will travel. My dad would take us to school, buy us delicious food, and carry us on his shoulders to watch circus performances.

My mother said that because we were happy, she was also happy, so she never regretted her original choice.

Now that you already have children, it means that your emotional foundation was still very good. If the conflicts can be resolved reasonably and both parents love their children, then I suggest you relax your thoughts about divorce and think about it again. Giving a child a sound and harmonious family is very beneficial to his growth.

In this world, generally speaking, marriage is still the best! Because, native marriage is a seamless whole that combines the emotions of husband, wife, and children; what is yours is mine, and what is mine is yours; the children are biological, your children are also my children, and so are my children. Your child is a family that is emotionally integrated and does not differentiate between each other.

But remarried families are different. Between them, what is yours is yours, what is mine is mine, your children are your children, and my children are my children. There are gaps in the relationship, and it is difficult to integrate the emotions. It is impossible for a family to form a seamless and perfect whole that is emotionally integrated! But it can only be a family, together, half-hearted, divided, each with his own agenda! In the end, quarrel for the children, quarrel for their own interests, quarrel over trivial matters, quarrel! In such a family, you can only be miserable, depressed and depressed! What about happiness!