Why are women who are too independent often unhappy after marriage?

I once heard a joke. A man said to his friend:? My wife is very capable, not only doing housework, but also contracting for dredging sewers, changing light bulbs and changing pure water. I'm a good cook at home and outside. ?

after listening to his description quietly, my friend said lightly:? Do you know what kind of woman has such great ability in our place? The answer is only two words: widow. ?

being virtuous and capable is a woman's virtue, but if you go too far, you will make yourself a widow. Although men are around, it's like there are no men.

Xiaojie has been an independent girl since she was a child. She doesn't like to rely on others or bother others.

So when falling in love, as long as it is something that she can handle, she will never ask her boyfriend for help. During the love period, her boyfriend wanted to send her to work every day and wanted her to sleep for a while, but she didn't agree.

It's raining. She would rather go to the supermarket to buy an umbrella in the rain than her boyfriend come to pick her up.

After marriage, she kept the image of a gentle and kind wife and mother as always, and contracted all the housework.

sometimes, when her husband sees that she is tired and wants to come and help, she politely refuses. There is no milk at home, so if I want to drink it myself, I will go downstairs to buy it alone, unwilling to ask my husband for help.

Even if her husband is resting at home, she would rather call a taxi than ask him to drive.

Slowly, her husband took her diligence and ability for granted, so when he came back from work every day, he would lie on the sofa and play with his mobile phone when he was idle. Only when it's time for dinner will you get up and go to the table.

once a female colleague called her husband and asked him to help buy some local products, and the man agreed without hesitation. Xiaojie was very upset when she heard this.

So she sarcastically said to her husband: You are so helpful. You can get everything done with a phone call from an outsider. I didn't see you buy me a cup of milk tea and do housework once. Be the shopkeeper of cutting at home all day. ?

my husband retorted angrily:? I take the initiative to help you, and you always say no, I can handle it by myself. What do you want me to do? ?

Although independence is a good quality for women, as a wife, she should show her weak side in front of her lover. Don't take on everything alone, let your husband participate, and he can feel the sense of existence and pride as a man.

Too much kindness and virtue will only cultivate lazy people without empathy, and will only make them take it for granted to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

In a long-term relationship, both parties give and gain, and the giving and gain are dynamically balanced. A man who loves you, when he pays for you, please don't refuse, because this is his true will.

doing things for the person you love, his heart is extremely happy and happy.

But love is mutual. He expresses his love for you and hopes to get positive feedback from you. So he loves you and does things for you. This is the first step, and then you need to respond positively to each other.

Some strong and independent girls choose to refuse each other's efforts. Men don't even have a chance to pay, let alone return.

you think it's not bothering the other person, but he thinks you don't need him. Once this model is solidified, he will think that you can fix everything, so he won't spend time and energy to understand your needs and meet your needs.