If you calculate too much, you will eventually be calculated.

The things you calculate will ultimately be inseparable from cause and effect. If you sacrifice yourself for the sake of the end, you will be the one regretting it in the end. Therefore, many people say, "If I had known this, why would I do it in the first place?" This is largely due to cleverness but miscalculation. Moreover, under normal circumstances, many people plot against the people around them. The result of this is that the path they take becomes narrower and narrower. If they are retaliated against again, they will fall into an even more unbearable situation.

If you want something, you have to do it

Most of the disappointment comes from wanting something but not getting it. People who think about prey every day but do not hunt will always be disappointed.

Jack Welch once said: If you have a dream or decide to do something, take action immediately. If you just don't do it, you won't gain anything, and you'll only end up disappointed.

From this sentence, we can understand why people feel disappointed? Mostly because you thought about it, but did not achieve the expected results. This contrast between reality and dreams naturally causes you to be disappointed. emotions. When you are disappointed, have you ever thought about this question: Why are you disappointed?

Maybe this question is a bit stupid. People are disappointed because their wishes and original intentions are not satisfied. Why are you not satisfied? I think this question is worthy of serious consideration by all disappointed people - just wanting to get it, but not being able to do it, is the root of disappointment.

A hundred heartbeats are not as good as one action. A hundred heartbeats without action will be a hundred disappointments. Disappointment exists in many people. This emotion may be stronger when they see successful people, because the ideas of these successful people may also be what they have thought of before. But those people are successful but they are still unknown. This huge difference will make people even more disappointed.

If you just want something but do not take actual actions, you will definitely not get the ideal satisfaction, and disappointment will naturally arise. When you understand the reason for disappointment, you can overcome this situation, that is, take positive action, not only to get it, but also to get it.

The famous Italian navigator Columbus finally discovered the New World after going through many difficulties and dangers. At a celebration banquet held in Spain, a nobleman said proudly: "Columbus was nothing more than taking a ship and going west, and then going west again, and then he encountered a continent in the ocean. I believe that any of us As long as you keep going west on a ship, you will find this insignificant land. Therefore, discovering the New World is nothing special. It is just a trivial matter that anyone can do, and it is not worthy of such publicity." The captain next to him sighed. Said: "I feel really ashamed and disappointed when I talk about this matter. In fact, I have had this idea for a long time and planned to sail westward. I will definitely discover something new. But I never had the chance to do it. It's a pity. What a disappointment!"

Columbus listened to their conversation and said gracefully: "You are right, there are many things in this world that can be done easily. . But the key is whether you thought about it and then did it. The key to why I am honored to have the king hold such a celebration banquet for me is this." Then he turned to the colleague who missed the opportunity: " Don't be immersed in disappointment anymore, I hope this experience can also bring you enlightenment, and I hope you can succeed next time. "

From this story, we can see that it is just. Thinking but not doing is the real source of disappointment. Many wonderful ideas, if they only stay in the mind without being implemented into actions, will not only be meaningless, but will also produce negative emotions of disappointment after others succeed, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of life.

Everyone may have had the experience of disappointment. You can calm down and carefully analyze the reasons for your disappointment. How many times have you been disappointed because you had a good idea but was defeated by others first? Caused by it? How many times have you been disappointed because you had the first idea, but it ended in failure because you didn't stick to the action? Disappointment has no positive meaning.

We must overcome the frustration and negativity caused by disappointment and learn from this disappointment so as to avoid disappointment due to the same reasons next time.

If you are indecisive, you will miss everything

A salesperson from La Salle University in the United States went to visit a real estate agent in a small town in the west and wanted to teach "Promotion and Business" Management" course was introduced to this real estate businessman. When the salesman arrived at the real estate agent's office, he found him typing a letter on an ancient typewriter. The salesman introduced himself and then introduced the course he was selling.

The real estate businessman obviously listened with interest. However, after listening, he was reluctant to make a decision.

The salesman had no choice but to go straight to the point: "You want to take this course, don't you?" The real estate businessman replied in a listless voice: "Yeah, I don't know if I want to. Participate." He was telling the truth because there were millions of indecisive people like him at the time who had difficulty making quick decisions.

The salesman stood up and was about to leave, but what he said next surprised the real estate businessman.

"I decided to tell you something you don't like to hear, but it might be helpful to you. First take a look at the office where you work. The floor is horribly dirty and the walls are covered in dust. You The typewriter you are using now looks like the one Mr. Noah used on the Ark during the Flood. Your clothes are dirty and torn, your face is not clean shaven, and your eyes tell me that you have been defeated. .

"Now, I tell you why you failed. That's because you are indecisive and don't have the ability to make a decision. Throughout your life, you have developed a habit of avoiding responsibilities and failing to make decisions. If you miss today, even if you want to do something, you won't be able to do it...

"My criticism may hurt you, but I hope it can touch you." You. Now I tell you as a man to a man, I think you are wise and I am sure you are capable. You have unfortunately developed a habit that is setting you back, but you can stand up again. Give me a hand, as long as you're willing to forgive what I just said. You don't belong in this town. This place is not suitable for real estate business. Find yourself a new suit of clothes and go there even if you want to borrow money. Buy it and follow me to St. Louis. I will introduce you to a real estate businessman who can give you an opportunity to make a lot of money and at the same time teach you the dos and don'ts of this industry that you can use when investing in the future. Will you come with me?"

Three years later, this real estate businessman who had lost his weakness of indecisiveness opened a large company with 60 salesmen and became one of the most successful real estate businessmen in St. Louis.

If you are not satisfied, you will not be happy

We often read some ridiculous farces in newspapers and periodicals, such as the following one: A company claims that everyone who purchases from their company will be satisfied. Spend 100 yuan and get a 100 yuan reward in 2 months. For example, the company prices clothes that cost 200 yuan at 1,000 yuan. Although the price is a bit high, 1,000 yuan will be returned to you after two months, and you will get a piece of clothing for free... Many people heard about this good thing and came to visit one after another, and the company's business was booming for a while. At first, everyone got some benefits, but half a year later, the company owner took the money and fled, and the money was gone forever.

Anyone with any savvy will see through this kind of thing. It is just a clumsy trick of a liar. But sadly, there are some people who just believe it. In the end, of course, he fell into a scam and ended up with the miserable result of losing money and regretting it. The reason why some people are deceived is because of the word "greed". "Greed" makes them "bewildered" and turn a blind eye to the traps set by scammers. As a result, they lose money and lose face. This lesson must be learned. If you are greedy, the snake will swallow the elephant.

In the commercial society, people have basic material needs, as well as the need for money. As the saying goes: "Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money." "But people can't indulge their own desires, and they can't "swallow the elephant when the human heart is insufficient."

When people are greedy, they will not only "conquer their wisdom and turn it into a coma", but they will also "switch their strength into softness", causing them to lose their backbone and become weak and lowly. Greed will also cause you to "turn kindness into hatred" towards your relatives and friends, ignoring family and friendship, and become vicious and mean. For example, brothers fight over family property and fight to the death: friends who once started a business together start an endless lawsuit in order to fight for equity... - A person who was originally pure has become a filthy character. so. "Greed" is the "first despicable and shameful" thing. Just like flies chasing odor and dung beetles chasing dung, people with greed will get mixed up with ugliness.

According to research, scientists have discovered through experiments that pigs have extremely poor memory. Some pigs were beaten several times in two days and still didn't forget to eat. Gluttony and lack of memory are the reasons why pigs only remember to eat but not to beat. We often see in newspapers that people use tricks such as "picking up wallets" and "turning over playing cards" to defraud people out of money. I thought that through the media, many people would be warned, but in fact such things happen frequently and repeatedly. What makes people laugh or cry is that those who are deceived often have heard of this kind of deceptive trick, but they still can't help themselves when it happens to them. Investigating its root cause, it is nothing more than the word "greed" that makes it "congested and confused".

The ancients regarded non-greed as a treasure, so they could transcend one life and leave a good reputation. There is a story: A man got a piece of jade and presented it to Confucius. Confucius did not accept it. The person who offered the jade said that the jade craftsman had seen it and said it was a treasure, so I dared to offer it to you. Confucius said, I regard non-greed as a treasure, you regard jade as a treasure. If you give it to me, both of us will lose our own treasures. How about you and I keep our own treasures? There are many people in history who, like Confucius, "took non-greed as their treasure". During the Song Dynasty, there was a famous upright official named Kou Zhun, who once recommended a man named Zhang Yu to be an official. Once, Kou Zhun passed by Jiangling County where Zhang Yu was the county magistrate. Zhang Yu entertained him diligently and expressed his gratitude to his mentor. Late at night, Zhang Yu came to see Kou Zhun. Seeing that there was no one in the room, he quickly took out ten kilograms of gold from his arms, saying that it was to repay Kou Zhun for his cultivation. Kou Zhun quickly declined and said, "I recommended you before because of your talent and learning. But what you did today is totally inappropriate." Zhang Yu said, "It's Heitian anyway, and no one knows about it, so just accept it." "Okay." Kou Zhun said seriously: "Heaven knows, earth knows, you know, I know, how can you say no one knows?" Zhang Yu had no choice but to put away the gold, apologize and leave.

"Greedy" and "not greedy" are not a person's judgment of right or wrong on an issue, but are inseparably related to a person's self-cultivation. Most people value profit, but people with integrity and noble character value their reputation. "Advance without losing integrity, retreat without losing integrity" is a famous saying in "Spring and Autumn". A gentleman loves money and should get it wisely. In addition, people should have higher pursuits in life than seeking wealth. One of the world's richest men once said that you can't wear two shirts at the same time in one day. Excessive material enjoyment is meaningless. We should pursue the perfection of personality rather than greed, because greed only brings about selfishness, bitterness, stinginess, fraud, perfidy and other bad qualities.

Some people want to get more things because of greed, but the result is like a blind bear tearing off corns, losing everything they have now.

Everyone knows how to weigh the pros and cons, choose the greater of the two benefits, and choose the lesser of the two evils. The reason is very simple and needs no further explanation. The question is, are your weighing criteria correct? Is the "big profit" you are getting really big? If you only use "more money and less money" as the only criterion, you may overlook more important things. Important stuff.

A professional manager was hired for a new position. Although the position was very high, it was an industry he didn't know much about. The monthly salary offered by the other party was tens of thousands, but he took the initiative to reduce it to nine thousand. Some people said he was stupid, and he replied: "If I get a monthly salary of tens of thousands, I will have impressive results. If I don't do well, I will leave even if the superiors don't tell me. I will automatically reduce the price. That's right." It is to reflect my humility and politeness to the superiors. If I don’t do well, the situation is not that serious. If I do well, my monthly salary will certainly return to that level. So in the long run, it is worthwhile for me to take an automatic salary reduction.”

Another person got a work bonus, and a colleague wanted to buy a gift. Of course, it was inconvenient to refuse such a thing, so he asked the other person to choose, but the other person chose a very expensive gift, which made him almost unable to pay the bill.

This incident made him feel resentful towards his colleague, and he secretly vowed to never get along with him again!

Judging from these two stories, the key is that "If you don't take it, you won't get it." , "Greed" is "greed"! As everyone knows, there is a person behind the benefits you want. Your "greed" not only harms his interests, but also makes him resent your "greed". If you only want "five cents", he will have a better impression and evaluation of you, and therefore continue the relationship with you. What about being "greedy"? This kind of opportunity may only come once! And once you give people this impression, although it will not affect your career, it will be detrimental to your image. When people walk in society, words are indeed very important.

In fact, the so-called "fool" is just a strategy of "taking the long term to catch the big fish", which is many times smarter than those who are short-sighted. It is regrettable that modern society is full of the following phenomena: Use up your interpersonal relationships at once, and make enough money at once by doing business! You think you are smart by doing this, but in fact you are killing the goose that lays the egg, and you are cutting off your own path!

When looking at problems in a big way, you must take a long-term view and broaden your horizons. Don't fight for the petty gains in front of you. In the end, you will only "pick sesame seeds and lose the watermelon."

Those who are clever and take advantage often suffer big losses.

There is a joke:

The conductor checks the ticket. It was discovered that a Scottish adult had used a child ticket, but the Scotsman refused to pay the remaining fare, so the ticket inspector picked up the passenger's suitcase and threw it out of the car.

The train was crossing the bridge. "You're crazy!" the Scotsman yelled, "You couldn't pass my ticket and drowned my brother again!"

Although it is a joke, the truth is not valid. Laugh. Playing tricks and taking advantage is often a trap for success and will only make you lose your personality.

Some stores stipulate that if you buy a certain item, you will pay the original price, and if you buy a second item, you will pay the same price. Discount price. Some people buy one item first and then the second item, issue a receipt for each item, and then return one item at the original price, thereby achieving the purpose of buying one item and enjoying the discount price.

Do these people think that they are smarter than others? People who have no basic principles for life, only consider immediate interests, and self-righteously think that others are stupider than them, will not succeed.

It is better to be down-to-earth and never be clever, otherwise you will just shoot yourself in the foot.

People who like to be clever and take advantage always want to take advantage of others. Cheap, take advantage of partners, take advantage of rules... As a result, they make their space for activities narrower and narrower. This is exactly what these so-called "smarts are like". "People" often lose their long-term interests for the sake of immediate petty gains. They are out-and-out fools.

Do you think the child in "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" is smart? Being smart is the way to do things. In the end, you are the one who is fooling around.

If you make a mistake, admit it honestly and find a way to solve it. Don't try to cover it up with being smart; treat others with integrity when doing things. Losing principles due to greed for small gains, and using too much scheming can easily lead to failure, self-defeat, or self-contradiction. Being smart is not a good thing.

There is such a thing in the West. There is a saying: The intelligence of the French is hidden, and the intelligence of the Spanish is exposed. The former is really smart, and the latter is fake. Mr. Bacon believes that regardless of whether the two people are really like this, these two situations are worth it. Thoughtful. He pointed out: "There are many people in life who have a smart appearance but no real smartness - 'little smart, big confused'. It is simply ridiculous to watch with a cold eye how such people use all their tricks and do stupid things one after another... All such people exaggerate in everything and are of no use. Because there is no bigger mistake than this kind of false cleverness. "

Gold always shines. If you are truly smart, don't always "show off" casually in front of others. That will not only make your smartness cheap, but sometimes also give you the benefit of the doubt. You cause unnecessary trouble.

Success requires wisdom, not self-righteous cleverness. Little cleverness is vulnerable to time. Only great wisdom can achieve a bright life.

Smart people don’t play tricks, and people who play tricks often suffer big losses