Why is Phoenix Man bad for his wife? Why doesn't Phoenix Man have true love?

Phoenix man is a taboo for many girls to choose a spouse. Although most people have worked hard and made a career, there are still many backward ideas in their hearts. Let's see why Phoenix Man is not good to his wife.

Why is Phoenix Man bad for his wife?

After marriage, it's not about you alone, it's about two families. But Phoenix still feels that everything is her own and won't give too much to others. They may be kind to their parents, but if they are your parents, they can't be treated equally. Their parents are right, a bit like Mabel. So after they get married, they won't listen to you, they will just do it. So a woman marries a Phoenix man, and Phoenix man can't find true love, which is very sad.

Why doesn't Phoenix Man have true love?

Because most Phoenix men are selfish and arrogant, they just want to repay their parents, but they ignore their wives. Phoenix man has no true love. Women usually don't like men who are too selfish, too proud and too irresponsible. But Phoenix men often have these characteristics. Perhaps at the beginning, these characteristics have not been shown one by one, but after getting along for a long time, they will be revealed one by one. Moreover, marriage is not a matter for two people, but involves two families. No one wants their children to be bullied after remarriage. We are both parents.

Why can't I marry Phoenix Man?

(1) Treat his wife as an object: "Phoenix Man" doesn't treat his wife as a relative.

"Phoenix Man" is very kind to his friends and works hard, but not good to his wife. If you want to ask me why, let's talk about the family concept of "Phoenix Man". "Phoenix Man" thinks he is a phoenix flying out of the henhouse. His wife is lucky to marry him, and the whole Phoenix family thinks so. The reason is also very simple, because there is only one excellent person in the whole family. All the motives of "Phoenix Man" are to repay the family background and give everything for the family background. But this filial piety is selfish and ugly, because he will ask his wife's family for money to subsidize his family of origin, but when her family is in trouble, he stays out of it.

(2) Foolish loyalty and filial piety: "Phoenix Man" has no normal view of right and wrong.

Phoenix man was born in a famous family, and he was a "child" who had not yet grown up. He can tolerate all the faults of his family background and put off the past with a sentence "My mother is not easy".

Therefore, the wife can't contradict the elders at home. Obviously, I used the unfriendly word "conflict". Many people say, how can the younger generation contradict their elders casually? But what if the elders are really unreasonable, irresponsible and mean? Although she is also a woman, the mother of Phoenix Man looks down on women. She will think that the daughter-in-law is not worthy of her son, so she can only serve this family and have a son to carry on the family line. Some people use "inheriting the throne" to describe the concept that the "Phoenix Man" family values sons over daughters.

(3) Be competitive and overexert: "Phoenix Man" always likes to take the lead.

"Phoenix Man" has actually made some achievements, which is far from financial freedom, not to mention being rich or expensive. However, "Phoenix Man" always "flushes his face and pretends to be fat". When he goes out to eat with friends, he pays the bill. There are always poor relatives who come to ask for help, but they are unable to do so. They have no money to ask their husband's family for it, and they never have the consciousness of paying back the money. At home, they are quite stingy with their wives.

"Phoenix Man" is still very self-abased, but he is very competitive and has a lot of face. The result is to be mean to yourself and even to your wife and daughter, and generous to your parents and friends.

What does Phoenix Man think in his heart?

1. Miss Wang, 40 years old.

I have six brothers and sisters. I am the youngest. None of my brothers and sisters went to school. They all farm at home. Maybe it's because I'm the youngest in my family. My parents, brothers and sisters love me very much and are reluctant to let me work in the fields. Although the family was not rich at that time, as long as there was anything delicious, they would press me to eat. I know that's their love for me.

Later, I went to high school in the county, and I could only go home once a month, but they always gave me money. It's not much, but it's their intention. I'm afraid I can't eat well at school. At that time, all my brothers and sisters were married. They encouraged me to study hard, as if pinning all my hopes on me.

I was admitted to the university, and my parents, brothers and sisters were very happy. At that time, my parents were old and there was no income at home. My four-year college tuition is basically collected by my brother and sister. After graduation, can I not feed them back? What happened to my sister's house? Can I not help her?

I also know that my wife has some views on this and thinks that my family is more important than her. I don't think there is comparability. One is affection, and the other is love.

2. Teacher Zhuang, 37 years old

I know there are a lot of criticisms about Phoenix Man in the society now, but I think Phoenix Man also has difficulties, such as my situation. My two brothers, my brother is at home, and my parents are in poor health, and they don't want to live with me, saying that they can't live in a building or a bright countryside, so their parents' pensions basically fall on their brothers.

Since I can't be filial to the elderly, I think I should give more money to prevent my brother and sister-in-law from suffering. So I give money to my family regularly every year. In the first few years of my marriage, I had a hard time. At that time, the salary was not high and there was a mortgage. Even so, I have never broken my family's money. Maybe it's because my wife thinks my family is more important to me than her.

But I also have difficulties. On the one hand, when my brother treats me well, I want to repay him. On the other hand, I must not let my sister-in-law have a problem, and I must use money to shut her up. If she thinks I don't take care of the elderly and criticize me, she will leave it alone. Won't the old man suffer? Therefore, every year when I go home for the New Year, I will bring gifts to my brother, sister-in-law, nephew and niece. Alas, Phoenix Man has his own difficulties.

3. Miss Wu, aged 43.

I was a college student in 1995, the first undergraduate in our village and the only one in my family. I became the pride of my family. People who have no experience in rural life may not understand that at that time, college students were omnipotent in the eyes of villagers and had already jumped out of the farm gate. At that time, it was called "eating Chinese food". Many people have the feeling that "only one person can go to heaven", and they feel that having a college student at home will make their waist hard immediately.

Because of such a big background, whenever there is something I can help at home, whether it is borrowing money or looking for a job, I can't shirk it. Even if you admit to spending money, you should do things well. Otherwise, not only will my family be sad, but people in the village will also laugh at me and say that I am a baiwenhang, and my family will eventually pay for him to go to college. If so, how can I go back to the village in the future?

Therefore, sometimes even if you wronged your wife, you dare not wronged your family. I don't know if it's stupid or not. If I had to do it again, I think I would do it again.