After getting married, I found that my husband disliked himself more and more. How can I change the status quo?

After getting married, I found that my husband disliked himself more and more. How can I change the status quo? Divorce him. Almost everyone has expectations for the other half, hoping that the other half can meet some of their own needs. For example, I hope that the other party will attach importance to the family, hope that the other party can live a better life, and hope that the other party will care more about themselves. This is the most common expectation for the other half. When the other party can't meet our expectations, it is easy for us to feel disappointed and angry with the other party, and then complain and quarrel, causing more contradictions. For example, his wife came home late after working overtime. She saw her husband playing as soon as she entered the door.

She talked to her husband, who totally ignored her. At this time, the wife got angry anonymously and began to accuse her husband: "She wants to play all day. Since she loves to play so much, she should play games all her life and not go home. " The wife certainly wants her husband to care more about her. She gets angry when her husband doesn't do what she expects. In intimate relationships, many of us will be angry because of various things, but it is actually because my husband doesn't care about me. To change this situation, you must first understand that you can get expectations from the other party, and the other party has the right not to meet your expectations. However, there is one thing you need to know, just because the other person can't meet your expectations doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

So what you need to do is to get rid of the trouble of "must satisfy my thoughts". Actually, it's because you don't respect your feelings and always want to share them with others. When you don't want to, you should speak out bravely. When you respect and care about your feelings, others will care about your feelings. You should know that TA has the right to ask you to do something. Similarly, you have the right to do nothing.

You have to distinguish between your business, your TA business, your business, and know your business. You don't have to do it alone. When you start to establish a sense of boundaries, learn to satisfy your desires, express your needs bravely, and accept rejection, you will not have so much anger and dissatisfaction when facing your partner. The most important thing is to realize that you are facing your job, but you have the right to choose what to do.