Why do some people think asking for leave from their leader is a shameful act?

I think everyone has a stigma about taking leave because modern society emphasizes competition and efficiency, and regards work as a reflection of personal value, causing individuals to worry that taking time off will affect their image and career development.

"Shame on asking for leave": People are reluctant to ask for leave from their superiors or colleagues because they are worried about being judged as lazy or irresponsible. According to my observation, the reasons for "leave shame" are as follows:

1. Too strong sense of responsibility for work: Some people will pay too much attention to work. In their hearts, once they ask for leave, it means they are not working at work. failed. This kind of mentality will make people worry about being scolded by their bosses or colleagues, and being considered not responsible enough, because in our culture not loving work is something that will be scolded, and you will immediately be labeled as "unmotivated and lazy" Label.

2. Trouble with colleagues: Some people feel that if they ask for leave from their colleagues, it means that their colleagues need to take over their work, and they are afraid of trouble others.

3. Worry about being reprimanded repeatedly: Being rejected by the boss and asking for leave more frequently will make people feel very annoyed, which means they are embarrassed and not focused on work.

4. Lack of trust in their superiors: If a person does not have trust in their superiors, they will not ask for leave from their superiors because they are worried about receiving negative feedback, being deliberately ignored, etc. You have anticipated this feedback and are resisting it from the bottom of your heart.

5. Some people may think that asking for leave is a sign of weakness and cowardice. If you are unwilling to take the initiative to ask for leave, it means that you are a hard-working person, so that you can gain a sense of accomplishment and success. The right to speak upward.

Of course, after saying so much, how can we put it into practice? You can also use magic to defeat magic, for example: "Boss, I feel good today, and I want to take another day off to feel comfortable."

On the one hand, it is because of the influence of the native environment.

Nowadays, primary school students don’t even dare to raise their hands to use the toilet, because they are afraid that the teacher will talk about them, and they are even more afraid that they will be rejected by the teacher in public, and other children will laugh at them.

So, people subconsciously feel that going to the bathroom and asking for leave are inappropriate, and they always feel that it is undesirable to be independent.

On the other hand, it is due to the influence of PUA in the workplace.

The boss’s words, “If you don’t do it, someone else will do it,” actually makes many workers feel anxious about this. They are afraid that their work will be delayed because of their leave, and they are even more afraid of losing the favor of their leaders because of their leave. They are even afraid of being marginalized and their positions replaced because of their leave.

So, anxiety is given by the workplace ecology, and it is also caused by oneself from the inside out.

In fact, this kind of workplace culture has been subtly influencing workers, and the purpose is to make employees do humble things.

Those so-called high EQs teach you how to cater to your boss, teach you how to toast, teach you how to talk to your boss, and teach you how to leave with dignity after resigning...

Now If you look closely, they all affect the minds of employees. No one will ever teach you to do things openly and openly.

Because the reality of the workplace is here, I have to grovel.

For employees, asking for leave is a legitimate right, and they must first learn to eliminate such psychological anxiety.

You must know that the company is not indispensable to you, and asking for leave is deducting your own money