The old lady's troubles

? The old lady came to my house twice in an afternoon just to pour out her troubles.

? The old lady is not an outsider. She is Miss Lao Lu's aunt and lives near my home. Because I had a few words with my daughter-in-law, I came to our house for help and comfort.

? Kiss or not, family! This is a real and legitimate unmarried nephew. By rights, it should be responsive. I'm really worried that Miss Lao Lu's bodhisattva heart will not persuade her wayward aunt. However, to be honest, I really don't like being involved in other people's grievances at all. So, when menstruation first came, I tried to keep silent. I cut radishes, cook lunch and wash dishes, but I just don't interrupt. I know that the old man's temper is very irritable, and a few words can't untie her heart. Besides, in my eyes, she is making a mountain out of a molehill. Didn't the daughter-in-law say a few words to her loudly? As for it? She has worked hard for her family for a year. Who hasn't got up early to go to work and earn money to support their families? I muttered something in my heart and said nothing. Aunt and nephew chatted for a long time, and finally insisted on their own views: I can't swallow this tone. She mumbled and walked away, while my son and I watched silently and smiled helplessly at each other. We don't understand why we are so busy that we don't have time to play during the New Year.

My aunt left for a while and then came back. Mr. Lao Lu was not at home this time, so I had to bite the bullet and go into battle alone.

"I have to go, don't live here. I can't serve them every day. " As soon as menstruation sat down, she told her "plan" directly.

? "I know, it's hard for you to serve your grandson this semester. But aren't you greedy for the sake of your son? " I know that old people love their children very much.

"yes! If I didn't want my son to relax, I would have left long ago and wouldn't have worked for them? " The old man said with a frown.

? "Have you ever thought about it? It's the Spring Festival. If you move out because of these words, will your son and daughter-in-law quarrel? Your daughter went back to her parents' house. Will you promise your son and daughter-in-law? What will the neighbors say? " I asked so many questions in one breath, I hope her old man can understand.

? "They quarreled? They are bound to fight. When my little girl comes back, it's strange not to hit them! As for what others say, whatever! " It turns out that the old man knows how things will develop.

"You have the heart to make your son and daughter-in-law angry? He is usually very quiet. What should I do if I can't coax my daughter-in-law? Do you have the heart to worry your daughters? It's disturbing that people can finally have a few days off after the Chinese New Year. You know, the old man at the door will laugh at your son and daughter-in-law for driving you away, and the young man will definitely laugh at you for being too busy. " I analyzed the seriousness of small things for her.

The old man has always been resolute, and she continues to stick to her opinion.

? "Let me give you an example!" I told her the story of an old man I knew:

The old man was very capable when he was young, and he was reluctant to "give up" when he married his wife. She has the final say in everything at home, and she cares more about her daughter-in-law than her own children. She doesn't know how a wife from another family can live according to her wishes! As a result, the eldest daughter-in-law who finally got married ran away from home for several months in a rage. After you come back, rent a house outside and don't go home for several years. After the second daughter-in-law entered the door, she first spoiled in all aspects, and soon "relapsed" and began to be picky in all aspects. People are also "powerful people", so they "go against each other" every day, quarrel and scold, and finally sweep their daughter-in-law out of the house. Later, I began to worry that my son would be single all his life, so I asked my grandfather to support my grandmother's relatives and friends every day, hoping that someone would introduce me to my son. "There are many good things to grind." Her son finally found a "four-married" daughter-in-law, and his family took good care of him and regarded him as the apple of his eye. However, the good times did not last long, and the old man "showed his true colors" and his family continued to "fly in flames." Either there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or there is discord between son and daughter-in-law. Later, the "silly" daughter-in-law summed up the root of the matter, "ordered" her mother-in-law not to go to their home and decided to "die of old age." Now people don't want her to help, no matter how busy they are, and their three grandchildren won't let her take them. She sometimes calls them piteously and ignores the children. She also worked hard to farm the land and secretly gave it to her daughter-in-law, but she still went her own way and was ungrateful. Now, she often cries, and her son and daughter-in-law have no sympathy for her. No one around felt sorry for her, and everyone thought she deserved it. ...

? I analyzed the reason why the old man "failed" to my aunt. Isn't it because he is too "self-righteous"? I want to know how to give in in time, and I can't be the "core" of my family all my life. She couldn't bear to give up and didn't understand. As a result, there was a lot of trouble at home. Others live in peace because they know how to cherish and get along with each other. The family is together, and the relationship is harmonious. It seems that the old man and the children are very good. ...

? I told my aunt so much in one breath. To my surprise, she didn't refuse my "indoctrination". She told me that I would listen to you and never move again. I thought that the head teacher's "training problem" was rampant and the old people would "do the opposite"!

? This conversation lasted for more than two hours, and the final result was that the old man finally "enlightened". When she left, it dawned on me.

? Dude, don't be angry. Like my aunt, she seems angry with her daughter-in-law. In fact, she has been entangled for a long time, and she can't pass herself!

? Take a step back and let the three points calm down. Generosity can tolerate the world, and informal mood is good. Giving others steps is actually giving yourself steps. Why are you entangled in the problem for a long time? The more I feel powerful, the more I refuse to give in, and the more I will suffer in the end.

? If you don't have a hard time with others, you just don't have a hard time with yourself. I hope my stubborn aunt can understand this truth all her life.