There is no real empathy in the world. Don't complain to others. Can you tell me something?

There is no real empathy, so try not to complain to others. Mr. Lu Xun said that human emotions are not connected, but I just think they are noisy. What should we do?

First, be an audience. In other people's stories, we are always just spectators, and so are we. Your pain may be just a joke in the eyes of others. If people don't stick to themselves, they will never feel the biting pain. There is no real empathy in the world, only self-knowledge. Everyone experiences the joys and sorrows, and everyone faces the painful struggle. Only by being in it can we appreciate all kinds of tastes.

Second, keep calm in the face of the suffering of others. When you can't empathize, please don't put on a "I'm harder than you" posture when others are sad. We can't balance our inner pain with the pain of others. If you can't even offer sincere comfort, then you can walk away quietly, just like the wind takes away catkins, and you also take away your cheap so-called "empathy". Slowly, learn not to care about meaningless things and learn to reconcile with yourself. We don't have to care about a noisy cicada, because its life is over when the autumn wind blows. Become a strong inner self, until others tell your suffering as a story, it has become a joke in your mouth. When you don't need others to empathize with you, you don't have to bear the irony from those people.

Third, learn to repair yourself. Your pain is often only negative for others, and it will also bring a burden to others. The sign of a person's maturity is that he has the ability to repair himself, instead of pinning all his hopes on others. There are good times and bad times in life, smooth sailing or bumpy. Everyone should learn to bear it alone and live a good life. Life is so long, how can anyone be his whole life, and who can be the object we will always talk to and the ointment for healing scars? We will always be alone with ourselves, not relatives, not lovers. On this train of our own life, there are too many people going up and down, and only we are full-time tourists.