What should I do if my future mother-in-law thinks one thing on the outside but another behind the scenes?

First of all, be tactful and let your husband discover that his parents’ normal life is different from yours. Get rid of your husband's foolish trust in his parents, don't favor his parents, and don't rush to tell him if his parents have been wronged, because he is a parent who has been with him for a long time, and it is impossible for him to believe you right away. He will probably quarrel in return for not trusting him, so be sure to outsmart him at this time.

The kindness to his parents mentioned here must be shown in front of him. Although respecting filial piety is a traditional virtue in China, and each of us needs to do it, we must make it clear in front of him that we cannot buy and send things to his parents in private, and put these things on the bright side. You can also ask your husband to give them the things you bought for his parents and tell them that you bought them. In this way, your kindness to your parents-in-law will already occupy the dominant trust in front of your husband. If your parents-in-law complain to your husband about your bad behavior, your husband will no longer believe them. And she always praises her mother-in-law and father-in-law. No one likes flattery. As long as she captures family harmony, she is not afraid of anything. Don't say what she wants to say at any time. She shows her face when she is unhappy. Your parents will tolerate you, but other people's parents won't.

Be respectful and filial to your parents-in-law. If your parents-in-law like to put on this kind of two-faced attitude and complain to outsiders about your bad behavior, then you have to make them look good and give them a high hat. Then you have to tell outsiders how good your mother-in-law is to you, how she makes breakfast every day, or how she feels sorry for you and doesn't want you to hold the child, etc. Then people in the circle of friends of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will tell them every time how good you say to them, because today’s parents-in-law are more beautiful, and then those who accept your construction for them say that they have to express themselves in front of their friends every day , I won’t complain to my friends anymore. Because if you complain in front of outsiders, outsiders will laugh at you behind your back.

If you set up such a good mother-in-law, others will envy you behind your back, so that your parents-in-law will not slowly complain to outsiders. You can also ask your mother-in-law to invite her seventh and eighth aunts to play at home at any time, and then show special obedience to your mother-in-law, express your concern for her, and let her have special face in front of outsiders. In daily life, as long as you are good to them, your heart will slowly grow, and you will not be a two-faced person. So getting along with your parents-in-law requires a lot of wisdom. You shouldn't pay attention to them. It is necessary to respect and be filial to your parents-in-law, but you cannot be blindly filial. Otherwise, you will be tired if your efforts are not favored by them, and others will think you are weak, bully you all the time, and even seriously affect the harmony of the family.