How to deal with people who cheat on you (what if you meet a villain who speaks ill of you behind your back)

There are many kinds of villains, and our ideas and methods to deal with different villains are very different! There is no need to "treat each other equally" just because the other person is a "villain". Otherwise, it is not only ineffective, but also a waste of time and energy.

Old ghost combs according to the types of villains and various possible situations, and talks about personal views in different categories:

First, we will let go of the "villain" who has no strength and influence-this is an irritating and pitiful villain in the enterprise. No ability, leaders don't like it, and the masses are not good. Working ability is average, performance is average, even poor. Such people are often depressed.

These little people like to speak ill of others, create some rumors and vent their anger in private.

To tell the truth, this kind of person is easy for us to evaluate, and has become addicted to it, and no one takes it seriously.

This kind of "little man" is actually quite pitiful. Let people complain and speak ill in private and find the meaning of life!

Why are you talking to him? You pay attention to him and make other colleagues laugh! Think you're making a mountain out of a molehill.

Second, lead the villains around you, lead the villains that you like and trust-this must be guarded and shielded! What we need to pay most attention to is the villain around the leader, because they often stun the leader, which will affect the evaluation, attention or gains and losses of various personal interests to a certain extent.

Such a small person must be taken seriously! Otherwise, you will suffer every day.

Big principle: hiding is not the way! A villain is a guy who likes nothing to do! I just like trying to rob him of honor, money and status that doesn't belong to him. If you don't mess with him, he will mess with you! So don't hide! The more capable and powerful you are, the easier it is to annoy them.

Don't expect to convince such a nobody by reasoning! -If they are reasonable, they are not villains!

According to this principle:

Actively strengthen the relationship with leaders-don't be emotionally "hard" because leaders like villains, and disdain to communicate, exchange, interact and engage in relationships with leaders. Otherwise, you can only suffer!

If the leader doesn't know you, he doesn't know your psychological state at all, he doesn't know your working state, his position in your psychology and so on. Then you are in big trouble!

So, don't lose your temper! Strengthening communication, exchange and interaction with leaders is a "job" that must be paid attention to.

Improve the details of your work and make your work more professional, professional and rigorous. Let others find no fault.

Omissions in work are the easiest to be handled by others, and they are also the handle that makes people speechless!

Please don't come to bring disgrace to oneself with such reasons and statements as "someone made this mistake ..."! It's no use! Who let you meet the villain? !

Therefore, strict study of oneself is what people in the workplace should try their best to do.

When interacting with colleagues in the workplace, we should pay attention to the world, rules and hidden rules of the workplace ecosystem, so that you can reduce loopholes and handles!

People in the workplace, don't take others as the standard! But to "what is best for us" as the standard!

Flies don't bite seamless eggs-this sentence is not nice, but a villain is a fly!

Try to have as many powerful and influential friends as possible in the workplace.

Love me, love my dog, everyone knows that the heavier the friends around you, the more people will respect you. If the circle of friends around you is full of powerful, influential and weighty people, these people can not only help you, but also help you form an influence!

Intelligently deal with the harassment and injury of small people.

This old ghost has written a detailed question and answer, so I won't say much here.

Third, among colleagues around us, some so-called "villains" just spread opinions and opinions that will not affect individuals, and do not care about honor or disgrace in a gentleman's way, and they are really fierce. Some of the little people we see, some of their negative comments and opinions on us secretly, have no influence on us. We didn't expect people to speak well of us at all!

For example, some people are closely related to their leaders because of our daily life. We began to say that we like to curry favor with and flatter the leaders, and our glasses only stare at the leaders. .......

What do you care about him? He can say whatever he likes! Anyway, he stays away from the leader all day, and the leader doesn't like him, doesn't value him, and even often adds a burden to him.

This kind of people often fall into the whirlpool of complaints, grievances and depression, and a group of people who like to complain and speak ill happen to hold a group. Respect others! Ignore him! How to do the work, what to say, the rest, hehe. ....

Fourth, some "little people" are because our ability, strength and so on have really affected the promotion, promotion and so on of some people. There are some people in the workplace who work hard, but they are threatened because of your existence. They are not bad people themselves, but the reality. They can get some benefits without you. It may be a promotion, it may be income, it may be honor.

What is even more speechless is that he lost the chance of promotion because we got the promotion.

This kind of person is just a casual emotional reaction under extreme psychological imbalance. It is very likely that there have been rumors and bad words about you at some stage.

This kind of person is often not a bad person or a villain in essence. Just because of our existence, their efforts and abilities are "compared"!

Therefore, this kind of "villain", we should find a way to have one-on-one private communication-this is an ideal method.

Don't be annoyed because he speaks ill of us and frames us, but he doesn't want to approach them on his own initiative.

Remember: our behavior is not just for the parties! It's for other colleagues and even leaders! This process is a good opportunity to show your atmosphere, confidence and tolerance!

It is also a way to turn disadvantages into maximum advantages! We can let bygones be bygones and actively communicate with others-others will have a better impression of you.

The above lists several situations, and also puts forward some personal views for your reference. But please note: there is no absolute thing in the world, and the old ghost only expounds part of the handling ideas of each case! It doesn't make everyone copy it mechanically, and it doesn't mean that the old ghost thinks this is the only way! Limited to space, the old ghost just uses this article to provide some reference!

It's unrealistic to break it down in detail and write out all the possibilities, opinions and suggestions of the old ghost!

Author | The old ghost returns and shares the actual combat content, sales, eloquence and contacts in the workplace every day.