What would you do if your boyfriend was angry with you and broke up with you?

Hello, Brother Wolf, we have broken up now. My appeal is this relationship, whether this person is worth it, whether it will be bad to continue, and whether the boys do this just to break up! Is there no future?

My predecessor and I are both older, single and unmarried, and we met through dating websites in mid-April last year.

He came to join me. At first, the income conditions written in his data were quite good. In fact, I was skeptical at the time. I don't hate his eyes. I thought I could continue to understand. I also said in my inner monologue that I am weak in earning money and not good at socializing. ...

After adding WeChat, he showed me his store-opening qualification and driver's license. I also looked it up online. It's true. I also frankly video online and can respond in time. We feel good and sincere.

On May 20th, he also sent me a red envelope from 520 yuan, and I invited him back for dinner. Since then, he has successfully transferred to the offline.

I appreciate that he bought a house and a car at the end of 19 by starting his own business. Although he is very picky, if he is selected, he can live a well-off life and be stable, so I want to marry him well.

He always avoids me when he smokes because I don't like secondhand smoke very much. I remember when we first met, I told him that I didn't want to quarrel about money in the future, and I didn't like to ask my husband for money. I will feel very tired. He said at that time that as long as he had 100 pocket money every day, he could give me the rest. In short, he was very impressed and satisfied with his hardware and software.

At that time, he also said that the small two-bedroom house he bought now was temporarily used as an investment, and he would get a new house when he had money. When he is free, we will go to places suitable for love, such as parks.

It wasn't long before I went to see his mother with him and got a big red envelope. At that time, his relatives said that his emotional intelligence was actually very low. Later, I found that some people have low emotional intelligence and are very expressive.

Looking back now, riding with him was very comfortable and I felt that he was sincere. I mentioned the people he had dated before, and he said he couldn't accept people who were too strong. I told him that I was actually a little strong, but I was still reasonable.

In this way, we spent a quiet time and got along well with each other. Until one day, we talked about going back to his hometown in Sichuan together. He said he wanted to continue his career in the future, and I agreed. He said that in order to develop his career, he might not buy a house in a few years. I'm really a little serious. At that time, I felt he had changed again. I said, you're not going to buy it. I didn't feel anything if you didn't say it at first, but I didn't like what I said and broke my word. I'm a little angry. At that time, two people had an argument about it, so I gave him a big red envelope. Then he took me home. A few days later, he asked me if I could give the other party another chance (I wanted to open it at that time, in fact, I have a house myself, and now he has a house, so I don't have to take care of it), so I agreed to continue to associate.

After a while, we made an appointment to visit Ciqikou. I was a little tired (I was at Dadukou) and wanted him to pick me up by car. He thought it was too time-consuming and circuitous to go back and forth (he lives in the new memorial archway in Yubei) and asked me to take a taxi. At that time, I asked him to call a taxi for me. He was very angry at that time and felt that I should not let him pay, but should take a taxi myself. For this reason, we also argue that we are right. A few days later, he called to apologize and promised to pick me up unless there were special circumstances. If he can't come, he is willing to call a car for me (I forgave him again, although most of them took the initiative after confirming the relationship. I understand that he is too tired to drive, and there is nothing interesting around my house. I have a lot of rest time and often go to other ancient towns by light rail. During this period, we have no major contradictions, which is natural.

In June, a friend of his, whom I haven't seen for years, wanted to go to Tibet and invited him to join us. He asked my opinion. Actually, I want to go myself. Although I didn't know him for a long time, I trusted him at that time. Later, we made an appointment with his friend (A for short) to drive his car to Tibet on 3 18 in mid-July. Four adults and a child b set out together. The car is full of luggage and various medicines. He will stop at famous places for a while along the way, but most of the time he is on the road, and the scenery on the road is beautiful. He just drove to xinduqiao for a day and stayed at home. After dinner in the evening, his friend A probably felt sick. I felt a little surprised and surprised at that time, because when we met in the morning, I felt that A was full of energy. After breakfast the next day, A felt a little like calling back. Then my boyfriend suggested that I continue on my way and go to a nearby hospital. If it really doesn't work, I will say it again.

My boyfriend mainly drove the car the next day and chose Batang with low altitude to stay. It's too difficult to book a room. On the third day, we went to Litang Hospital early in the morning, and then A went to the hospital with his wife. The children like being with me. They want to take the children with them, but they won't let me follow them. Then my boyfriend and I wandered around …

In the face of high altitude, some ups and downs need to be overcome, but they can also adapt, and occasionally take oxygen along the way …

Later, his friend felt much better after infusion, but he didn't watch the film. There should be something wrong with the respiratory system, not very serious. A decided to stay near Litang bus station, and the family went back to Chongqing by bus the next day.

I was really angry, very angry with my boyfriend. I thought A didn't want to go, and it wasn't fun. It was the first time we went to Tibet and watched the Raiders online. Although I have been to western Sichuan, my friends have made a strategy, which is very fulfilling and worry-free. His friend told us to walk the rest of the way, or go to western Sichuan again. I was a little angry and unhappy, but I didn't say anything. Because of these arguments with my boyfriend, I later understood him. After discussion, my boyfriend and I went to a place we had never been before, and then I went to Emei and climbed the mountain road for more than ten hours. Although occasionally quarrel in the middle, a little unhappy, but still accompanied all the way.

However, the second half of our trip was quite good on the whole. We saw a lot of good scenery, went where we wanted to go and came back at the end of July. It wasn't long before the epidemic broke out, and I didn't care so much about it.

I don't remember when I saw his side face when I was sitting in his co-pilot. I think it's particularly beautiful and handsome. I know I like him, and I don't want to miss it. But he said I was staring at him, and he felt very cautious, so I didn't look at it much, for fear of affecting his driving. I like walking with him. The air is good, which broadens my horizons. I play mobile phone, but I am very happy …

It was not until we returned to Chongqing that we were formally together. My father's birthday is in August. I want to invite my boyfriend to dinner at home in the morning and send him WeChat. He didn't call back or answer the video. I called him many times after 5 o'clock in the afternoon, and he answered. I scolded him. I was angry. The greetings from Chongqing people are called names. What are you doing? Then I wanted to get down to business, and he hung up. I was stunned. Wechat replied to me He said he would go next time. I said, "shouldn't I be angry?" I'm just emotional You should hear me out. Do you have to wait for your time to live? "

Then he also communicated with me about my swearing. It was wrong to swear, but I was really angry. I hope he can reply in time next time, and this matter will be over.

When my dad was alive, he also brought two Chinese (I was going to bring a soft cloud or something, and his clerk said that he was a good man, so I brought Chinese) and a bottle of red wine. My parents were very satisfied with his first visit to my house, and he behaved very steadily. In August, we also had a premarital examination. I was going to have a pregnancy check-up, but I couldn't.

Then one day in September I went fishing with him. He told me that his mother wanted us to go to the hospital for a pregnancy test. I felt a little sad at that time. I said that if it were you and me, I would consider it, but I was a little uncomfortable when your mother mentioned it. If you care so much about children, I really don't know if I can get pregnant, and I haven't. Or let's break up.

He was a little dumbfounded at the time, and later told me that his mother meant that if we had a problem to solve in time, we would adopt it if we didn't. I replied, "Since everyone is willing to adopt, why should we check?"

He didn't reply. I said, if you really mind, you can find a divorced girl who gave birth to a child. More likely to find a younger girl, he didn't speak. ...

Then we went home and talked again in the evening. I only remember that he said that a family still needs a child ... later, he didn't mention it again. After a while, he mentioned the bride price. He said he would pay 50 thousand before, and he thought it was high. We had a fight. We didn't know much about it, and later we didn't think it necessary to argue. A month or two later, he went to my house for dinner and mentioned this when chatting.

My parents said we didn't return the gift. Anyway, my parents will give me the child's money intact. According to normal procedure, I have to go through a procedure. Boyfriend didn't say anything. After a while, he proposed to get married once, and planned to hold a wine for the New Year. The bride price asked me to drop 20,000 yuan. He said that he needed money to stock up during the New Year. I hesitated at that time, and I wanted to change my mind.

My friend said that if we regress, should we compromise everything in the future? This is his own suggestion. I thought about it and told him what I thought. I don't want to compromise everything. You say Chongqing is expensive to make wine, and you want to go back to your hometown. No problem. If you have no money to buy wine during the New Year, you can wait until next year to make money, or you can borrow some money and pay it back next year.

At that time, he said that his sister had invested100000, but he didn't want to borrow money from her. One day, we had an argument about the bride price. I learned from him that he thought my parents were normal, but I shouldn't have asked for such colorful gifts. I feel like I'm betraying my daughter. She said I was abnormal and loved money. What my boyfriend told me before was to handle wine in Chongqing. Later, he may discuss with his parents and decide to go back to his hometown, saying that there are many people who handle wine in Sichuan.

I asked him to delete all the WeChat calls and break up. I thought we were going to break up. A few days later, he called me and said that I was emotional before, so breaking up didn't count. Let's talk it over.

I still like him in my heart, and I also said the bride price. I don't have much money I originally wanted to use this money to make wine in Chongqing. My parents' previous savings bought me a house, and I always gave the mortgage myself. If you make wine in Chongqing, I don't need a bride price! I still have him in my heart. I think he came to me by default and liked me, so I turned over the story.

10 In the middle of October, we also went for a premarital check-up. He also looked at the results, no problem. I was going to have a pregnancy check-up, but I didn't get the certificate and couldn't get it for free, so I didn't go for the check-up. Although I went to do follicular monitoring later, the situation was different every month. At that time, after several examinations, there was a relatively large follicle on the first day. I went to the toilet the next day and it was gone. The doctor said that he might have been discharged from the hospital. I told him everything the doctor said. He didn't say anything at that time. The last time I asked this question, he said I had a problem, and the doctor didn't say anything at that time. He said he went to Alipay.

During the Spring Festival, I went back to my hometown with him for the Spring Festival, but I probably didn't treat myself as an outsider and did a lot of enthusiastic things. For example, during the Chinese New Year, it's very hot, so I'm going to eat. His mother's clothes were a little penetrating, so I helped to zip them up and then unzip them so that they wouldn't get hot. Now that I think about it, I am nosy, but I mean well.

The last quarrel, on the fifteenth day of the first month, I asked him when he was going to get married. He said, I have no money. I said, you always say you have no money, don't you want to get married? He said to pull the card first and give me the money before the banquet. I can't remember clearly, but I disagree. I say we give the bride price before we get married, and we won't give in. ...

On the first day, he would invite me to lunch and bring me some takeout. Later, I didn't care. I had planned not to eat at noon, but I thought he would come back two or three hours after he went to the store, so I gave him a red envelope and asked him to bring me a bag of jiaozi. He said he would wait for the goods to arrive at the store, and the exact time was uncertain. It's only a few minutes' walk from home to the shop. I really didn't want to move at that time, and I was very tired. He said he didn't want me to do anything. I got angry and left. After three days, he came to ask me what I thought. If I want to check, he will arrange the time. Otherwise, it will be next month. He doesn't want to delay any longer. He said he couldn't spend it all at his age and would have other plans. I said, I don't know how to trust and continue to love him. He apologized for not bringing me anything before. This is his fault. What should I say?

Then we didn't talk for days. I really thought we could get married this year. I've figured out where to do it. For example, one day, I called him after work in the morning and wanted to invite him to talk in the evening. He is on duty during the day, but he says he is not available. Then I hung up angrily and wanted to see him again in the evening. Later, I made up my sleep.

I didn't see the news that he was going to break up until this afternoon. I also said some angry words at that time. I often called him two days ago, but I still can't accept breaking up. I hope I can take my time.

He said, I believe I will find it. I said, you will find it before me, you don't choose. After a few days, I still can't let go. I thought I'd been on and off before. I ran to find him again and told him in advance that I was going. He said he was out at night. I asked him where he was going, but he didn't say. I thought it was fake. Then I went, knocked on the door, and there was no response. When I called, I felt that he was outside and at home, and I struggled for a while. He answered the phone without speaking, so he put his cell phone aside. I want to talk, but he doesn't want to talk. I thought it was over. There was nothing to talk about. I thought he broke up fake. I thought we could still solve this problem. He said to make an appointment next time and talk outside. I said why don't you talk today? ...

He said that he was considering breaking up six months ago because I scolded him. I really forgot. I can't remember. A little careless. After that, I forgot and didn't hold a grudge. He also knows that this is my character.

Although he doesn't swear, he may say something I haven't eaten, and there is something wrong with his skull, bitch ... He said I was a princess, but I didn't either. I also buy food, cook and clean. He said that I washed clothes too often, but when I scolded him, he must have said something ugly, otherwise I wouldn't have scolded him, and some swearing might be unintentional. Some colloquial words that Chongqing people like to say are not scolding him.

Later, I asked him if he really wanted to break up, even if I said I planned to go to the physical examination together next time.

He said, yeah. I said, well, then don't come to me again. It's been ten days since the last conversation. I still have some problems in my heart.

A:

Hello, I have carefully read what you sent me. The following is my opinion, hoping to inspire you.

1,

I have read the content you sent me carefully twice, and my intuitive feeling is that you two are not suitable at all.

I'm not married yet.

You often have conflicts and breakups.

Even if you do get married, there is a high probability that this marriage will be difficult to maintain.

2,

Girl, you have a lot of problems. Let me make a list for you. You can reflect and summarize and see if this is the case.

1), we have an appointment to visit Ciqikou. I was a little tired (I was at Dadukou) and wanted him to pick me up by car. He thought it was too time-consuming and circuitous to go back and forth (he lives in the new memorial archway in Yubei) and asked me to take a taxi. At that time, I asked him to call a taxi for me. He was very angry at that time and felt that I should not let him pay, but should take a taxi myself. For this reason, we also argue that we are right. A few days later, he called to apologize and promised to pick me up unless there were special circumstances. If he can't come, he is willing to call a car for me (I forgave him again, although most of them took the initiative after confirming the relationship. I understand that he is too tired to drive, and there is nothing interesting around my house. I have a lot of rest time and often go to other ancient towns by light rail. During this period, we have no major contradictions, which is natural.

Treatment methods from good to bad, arranged as follows

A, you have an appointment to go out to play. You were a little tired, but because you wanted to see him, you were considerate of him, so you offered to take a taxi to see him (ideally, you might even meet a boy who offered to pick you up). If the boy directly approves you to take a taxi to find him this time, it's actually no problem, and you can have the same reaction as him in the future)

B, although I made an appointment to go out to play, I really felt a little tired, so I discussed with my boyfriend whether the activity could be cancelled (pay attention to discussing with him. He either agreed directly or offered to pick you up by car. If you are tired, he still insists that you go out and let you take a taxi, which is not good for him.

C, you ask your boyfriend to pick you up from far away.

D. The other party thinks that it is too detour to pick you up by car and asks you to take a taxi to find him, but you ask him to take a taxi for you.

Maybe some girls will not understand or even condemn my so-called plan A.

I feel that I am on the boy's side, defending the boy.

Girls, you should always remember that you are in love with a boy and are going to get married.

The pay and return between you are mutual.

So what I said above is not only for girls, but also for boys.

Many boys, you ask him to do something for you, if it is not very reasonable in the eyes of boys.

Boys with attitudes and accents will reject you directly.

Some boys, even if they choose to compromise temporarily, must have opinions on you in their hearts.

Although his views on you were not directly expressed in this matter, or after they were expressed, he chose to compromise with you.

But deep down, he must have a problem with you, too

Later, when he continues to get along with you, he will get along with you with a game mentality.

In this way, the relationship between you will become a game between each other, each with ulterior motives, not pleasing to the eye, playing tricks on each other.

It's easy for you to get along badly with each other, and it's easy to have conflicts frequently. After the conflict, you will choose a temporary compromise to cover up the conflict, and soon you will continue to create conflicts. .....

If you form such a mode of getting along, you will not experience more sweetness and tacit understanding in love and marriage.

But from time to time friction, as well as distrust and criticism of each other.

Maybe some girls will ask, then I am so kind, so considerate and considerate to him.

Isn't my gesture inferior to his? What if he pushes his luck and ignores me?

Girl/boy, if you really like someone, then you have to show that you really like someone.

You should make sure that you do well. If you do well, the other party is a baiwenhang, ungrateful and ungrateful.

Then you can end this relationship voluntarily.

But the point is: everyone is not an idiot, if you are really a good partner.

How can others be stupid enough to miss you?

The worst treatment methods are c and d.

You are an adult, and you have an appointment with your boyfriend to go out to play, and the other person is not on the road. If he offers to pick you up, or he is willing to pick you up.

This is of course good (maybe the other party offered to pick you up, and in turn you would feel sorry for the other party, so you offered to take a taxi to see him)

But if the other party doesn't, there's nothing wrong with the other party (he's just not that good, but it doesn't mean he failed)

You are an adult, just taking a taxi, and you should still have this autonomy.

2) Later, his friend felt much better after infusion, but after watching the film, he should have some breathing problems, not very serious. A decided to stay near Litang bus station, and the family went back to Chongqing by bus the next day. I was really angry at that time, very angry with my boyfriend. I thought A didn't want to go, and it wasn't fun. It was the first time we went to Tibet and watched the Raiders online. Although I have been to western Sichuan, my friends have made a strategy, which is very fulfilling and worry-free. His friend told us to walk the rest of the way, or go to western Sichuan again. I was a little angry and unhappy, but I didn't say anything. Because of these arguments with my boyfriend, I later understood him. After discussion, my boyfriend and I went to a place we had never been before, and then I went to Emei and climbed the mountain road for more than ten hours. Although occasionally quarrel in the middle, a little unhappy, but still accompanied all the way.

Well, what's so angry about canceling the plan temporarily because of physical problems?

I can understand your instinctive anger.

But if you can understand this, this is your more appropriate response.

Tell the truth, the other person is in poor health, if you insist on playing with you.

If the physical condition deteriorates midway, it will be much worse than going home.

To say the least, even if you are really unhappy that his friend changed course halfway.

Then you should be angry with his friend, too. There is absolutely no need to vent your unhappiness and anger on your boyfriend.

3) We didn't formally get together until we returned to Chongqing. My father's birthday is in August. I want to invite my boyfriend to dinner at home in the morning and send him WeChat. He didn't call back or answer the video. I called him many times after 5 o'clock in the afternoon, and he answered. I scolded him. I was angry. What are you doing with that greeting from Chongqing, and then I decided to get down to business? I was stunned. Wechat replied to me He said he would go next time. I said, "shouldn't I be angry?" I'm just emotional You should hear me out. Do you have to wait for your time to live? "

You are angry because that boy didn't answer the phone and video.

I can understand your emotions, but there is something wrong with your performance.

It's your father's birthday, and you want to invite your boyfriend to your house for dinner.

This kind of thing doesn't need to be discussed with people in advance, so that people can prepare in advance?

You sent him a WeChat, but he never answered, and neither did the phone video, and he never answered.

Except that he didn't see it, is it possible that he saw your WeChat at first, but he didn't want to go to your home, so he didn't respond positively to you?

Then you got angry because he didn't answer the phone or the video, so you scolded him emotionally.

If you had discussed with him a few days in advance, there would not have been such contradictions and conflicts.

4) Then one day in September I went fishing with him. He told me in the tone that his mother wanted us to go to the hospital for a pregnancy test. I felt a little sad at that time. I said that if it were you and me, I would consider it, but I was a little uncomfortable when your mother mentioned it. If you care so much about children, I really don't know if I can get pregnant or not. Let's break up. He was a little dumbfounded at the time, and later told me that his mother meant that if we had a problem to solve in time, we would adopt it if we didn't. I replied, "Since everyone is willing to adopt, why should we check?" He didn't reply. I said, if you really mind, you can find a divorced girl who gave birth to a child. More likely to find a younger girl, he didn't speak. ...

Girls will be unhappy when boys express themselves like that.

However, I can understand your feelings.

It is normal for you to be unhappy about it.

But your reaction is a little extreme.

Why did you break up with me? Why do you still say so many ugly things?

Your reaction and performance, even if you have no problem, can easily make the other person think that you have a problem.

This boy is also an idiot. Why does he date you well but not enjoy marrying you?

Then I suggest that you two have a pregnancy test together, which is normal and natural, but it is also possible.

The pregnancy test stick is for two people, not just for you.

Girls will not be so angry if they treat each other as equals.

5) After a while, he proposed a wedding and planned to hold a wine for the New Year. The bride price asked me to reduce 20,000 yuan. He said that he would use money to hoard goods next year. I hesitated at that time and thought how to change my mind. One day we had an argument about the bride price. I learned from him that he thought my parents were normal, but I shouldn't have asked for such colorful gifts. I feel like I'm betraying my daughter. She said I was abnormal and loved money. My boyfriend told me before that he was making wine in Chongqing. Later, he may discuss with his parents and decide to go back to his hometown, saying that there are many people making wine in Sichuan and it is cheap. I asked him to delete all the WeChat calls and break up. I thought we were going to break up. A few days later, he called me and said that I was emotional before, so breaking up didn't count. Let's talk it over.

I often break up when I am in love, and I often mention divorce when I get married.

This is not what an adult should do when facing differences with his partner.

Once the other person can't meet your requirements and expectations, you will be angry or even furious, which is very naive and immature.

You decide your own requirements, needs and attitudes, and then fall in love and live according to your attitude.

Don't keep moving yourself.

Once this way, once that way.

You don't know your attitude, and you don't stick to your attitude, so it's easy to send a message to the other party.

He can try to change your attitude and lower your requirements.

6) On the first day, he will invite me for lunch and give me some takeout. Later, I didn't care. I had planned not to eat at noon, but I thought he would come back two or three hours after he went to the store, so I gave him a red envelope and asked him to bring me a pack of jiaozi. He said he would wait for the goods to arrive in the store. The exact time is uncertain, and it's only a few minutes' walk from home to the store. I really didn't want to move at that time, and I was very tired. He I got angry and left. After three days, he came to ask me what I thought. If I want to check, he will arrange the time. Otherwise, it will be next month. He doesn't want to delay any longer. He said he couldn't spend it all at his age and would have other plans. I said, I don't know how to trust and continue to love him. He apologized for not bringing me anything before. This is his fault. What should I say?

Well, just order a takeaway.

Actually, you can do it yourself.

You are tired and don't want to move. Where's the other guy?

You want the other person to accommodate you and take care of you. What about the other person?

Accommodation, understanding and care between lovers should be mutual.

3,

Girl, after reading what I said above, I don't know if you realize your problem.

1), girl, your emotional control ability needs to be improved.

Don't be angry and don't break up easily.

If you get angry and break up, it's actually useless.

After that, your anger and breakup will become more and more useless.

At the same time, if you are angry or untenable for no reason, the other party will not really buy your account.

You often break up, which is also very emotional.

2) I know that girls want their boyfriends to take care of you.

But the problem is

Can your own values and conditions attract the other party to be considerate and obedient to you?

Have you done well yourself to attract the other party to be considerate and obedient to you willingly and actively?

Remember, girl, the kind of consideration and care you want, the kind of boyfriend you want to love you as much as your daughter.

This cannot be demanded unilaterally.

Once you meet someone who doesn't meet your expectations, you will get angry and break up, which won't help you achieve your goal.

Even if the other party temporarily compromises, apologizes and begs for mercy, it is impossible for the other party to really meet your expectations in the future.

3) You discuss marriage with your ex-boyfriend.

You want to know what you want, and then you make it clear to each other.

Then you discuss it further and compromise with each other.

If we can talk it over, we'll be together. If we can't talk it over, forget it.

You should have a normal pregnancy test.

And each other, because this is for you and each other.

Is necessary.

What do you think are necessary for the bride's gifts?

How much, how to give, you discuss.

Don't forget that one is the other (this is also for your ex-boyfriend)

Everyone is not stupid, and they are weighing the pros and cons.

Since you can't just talk about feelings, be rational.

As long as it is not so embarrassing, it is reasonable for the other party to be willing to meet the other party's requirements.

Finally, to add, this boy also has many problems.

For example, if you break your word, you will go back on your word; Obviously, he has a problem with you in his heart, but he can't stick to his attitude firmly; Obviously, he has a lot of dissatisfaction with you, but he didn't make it clear to you as soon as possible.

In short, you all have a lot of questions.

This directly leads to the incompatibility between you two.

Falling in love and getting married is obviously a very sweet and happy thing, but you have to make it so unpleasant.

It's really unnecessary and a waste of time.

So girl, you'd better turn this page and choose another marriage.

I hope it can inspire you.

Your loyal love doctor

Qingxiansheng

2022-3-30

Ps, don't take the initiative to find this man after girls.

If you meet him and come back to you.

I still suggest you turn over this page.

But if you really don't want to turn over a page, then you should discuss with him what you want when you marry him (pregnancy test, bride price, wedding and so on)

If you can discuss a result, go on. If not, turn the page decisively.

So as not to continue to delay each other's time.