Why does the phrase "I don't want to have children, I don't want to have children, and no one is forcing you" make women angry?

This sentence is naked moral kidnapping. Translated into Chinese, it means "don't give birth now, you will have to bear the consequences in the future".

It is a typical "it's none of my business, it's up to you" to downplay the speaker and others. To tell the truth, I'm a woman, too. Hearing this sentence, all the pressure on me flooded into my mind, and I obviously felt that others had pushed all the responsibilities to myself, and I had to bear the responsibility of life instead of.

Where is the woman's anger? It is obvious that giving birth to a child is something that two people discuss together, but it is so complicated that many people participate. Finally, the lover turned to everyone and forced the woman to have children flexibly in the name of morality. If this woman is not born, there will be countless people to attack her.

Therefore, in this case, women seem helpless and people around them are attacking themselves, so anger naturally appears at that time. When women face this situation, I think love is a very important link. If love is not on the woman's side, the relationship will deteriorate indefinitely.

In fact, with the development of economy and the continuous progress of society, female friends have made progress in sovereignty, and we have also made progress from awakening to economic independence now. What should be pondered is whether the man's idea is at the stage of being a woman or a fertility tool. If so, it's all wet.

Why do women subjectively not want to have children?

1, the economic pressure is great.

The rapid economic development has made everyone live a better living condition, but it has also overwhelmed houses and cars.

2. Widowed children.

I remember a little girl's homework became popular on the Internet. The name of this connection question is "Division of Labor in My Family". Among the housework options such as mom and dad, cooking, buying food, washing dishes, mopping the floor and cleaning the room, the girl connected all the lines to her mother.

A survey was made on fathers of children aged 3-6 in Beijing, and 8 1.2% of fathers claimed that they were too busy at work to spend time with their children. It takes a lot of time and energy to raise children, which is what mothers have to do, even giving up their careers and freedom. Even so, they may not get the understanding of their husbands.

3, seriously affect the work.

In the enterprise, as soon as you prepare for the second child maternity leave, you will immediately promote someone else to take your original position, and when you come back from maternity leave, it will become a dispensable role. Later, if you take time off to take care of the children, people will immediately try to persuade you to leave.

So, you dare not live, you can't live.

4, dare not expect the child's return.

There are many children, and there are many elderly people who are left unattended.

5, others: out of shape, lose charm.

In a word, having children is too expensive, too tired and too painful. None of them can make women feel understood after giving, and the more they are born, the more insecure they are. Having children means you have to bear everything yourself: career distractions, obstacles to promotion, careful spending, and in-laws complaining.

Objectively, women are also making progress.

With the continuous development of economy and the change of ideas, society has endowed women with more relatively equal personality and broader employment opportunities. The economic base determines the superstructure. With the ability to earn money independently and wear warm clothes, women's awareness of independent choice in marriage has become more active and their attitude towards marriage has become more extensive.

More and more women believe that getting married and having children is only a part of life, and "good wife", "good mother" and "good daughter-in-law" are only a part of "being good to yourself" and cannot prove their full value.

Psychologists say that in addition to the repositioning of self-worth, modern women's independent thought is also manifested in the change of marriage pursuit. From the former "when a man marries a woman" to the present "true love" and "soul mate", marriage is no longer a tool for modern women to live together, but a spiritual comfort.

Therefore, I don't think anyone can make decisions for us women. Our destiny is decided by myself, and no one can force it.