How should parents answer their children's embarrassing questions?

Guide: As children grow older, they will gradually become curious about their gender and often ask some embarrassing questions to their parents. How should parents answer this situation?

In fact, the "sex" in children's eyes is not an additional color of adults, they just understand it as a behavior similar to a game. Just like the functions of diet and excretion, the function of sex is also one of the functions of our body. Children's understanding of sexual organs is no different from that of their opponents, such as feet, eyes and mouth. Parents in similar situations can do this:

1 Why can't I pee standing up?

Meimei is very strange: why can my little brother pee standing up and I can't? I'll try.

Mei Mei peed her pants. When her mother saw the fire, she flew into a rage: "You are a girl, why do you have to pee standing up?" That depends on how you wear your pants when they are wet! " "Mei Mei knew she must have done something wrong, but why not? She still doesn't understand.

In fact, the reason why children wet their pants is curiosity:

Children aged three or four are particularly curious, indicating that children are exploring themselves and others. Mom may realize that Meimei is imitating a boy, but her reaction is wrong. Shouting at the child who is urinating may bring some physical sequelae to the child, and the mother did not clearly point out where Mei Mei's mistake was.

The correct way: educate children that "men and women are different"

Mother said softly, "Meimei, you can't stand and pee in a hurry!" " ""But my neighbor's brother Xiaohui is standing to pee! " "Lucas is a boy, the boy has a penis, standing to urinate won't pee pants. Boys and girls are different ... "

When talking about sex with children, parents should be gentle and gentle, and avoid intimidation and threats. Especially for some imitation behaviors of children, we should take this opportunity to impart relevant knowledge after persuasion, so that children can accept it more naturally.

Play house, let's get married!

Pumbaa likes Kiki best! Today, he and Jingjing got married at the doll's house. Pumbaa is the father and Kiki is the mother. They also hugged and kissed each other. Of course, like a person is like this!

The reason why children do this: simple imitation

Many parents think that their children's words and deeds are funny and take an indifferent attitude towards this phenomenon. I wonder if the parents' attitude will strengthen the child's imitation behavior and make him think that this is recognized and liked by his mother. And some parents will be surprised when they find their children's behavior, and then show some radical reactions: "You child, don't study hard at such a young age, will you understand when you grow up?" "This child is a hooligan when he is so young, and he will definitely not be a good boy when he grows up!" ..... These words can easily leave a shadow in children's minds, and some children will imitate this action more frequently out of rebellious psychology; Some children will have a sense of inferiority, and they will not dare to touch different games from now on, which will lead to difficulties in interpersonal communication in the future.

Correct guidance: "Just hold hands"

Hugs and kisses between children are purely imitative behaviors. They express their innocent love with the action language they learned from adults, so parents need not worry too much about it. Parents can say to their baby, "I know you want to be friends with her when you hug her, but good friends can just play hand in hand."

3 What are they doing? Fight?

Dongdong loves to see the animal world. Suddenly, there was a scene of two lions mating on TV. Mom is embarrassed. She wants to divert Dongdong's attention: "Baby, do you want to listen to mom's story?" But Dongdong, who is in a good mood, certainly doesn't want to hear this story. He asked curiously, "Mom, are two lions fighting?"

The wrong practice aroused the children's suspicion.

Don't tell your child the wrong answer just because you don't know how to answer it. Some mothers are proud of this wrong behavior and think that their goals have been achieved. In fact, when the child returns to the kindergarten to communicate with the child, he knows that his parents are lying to him, and he will doubt the authority of his parents.

Guide children correctly: "prepare for having children"

You can calmly explain to the baby: "Baby, they are not fighting, they are preparing for the future baby's birth. We call this behavior' mating'. You can't have a baby lion until you mate. Think about it, Mom and Dad love the baby so much. When the little lion comes out, his parents will love it very much ... "Parents should guide their children correctly and scientifically. Only in this way can children get used to this scene next time.

4 "Mom, do you also use diapers?"

Wenwen is a little girl. Once, she found her mother using sanitary napkins and asked curiously, "Mom, what is this?" Mother casually said, "This is a diaper for adults!" " After a while, Wenwen began to ask Dad, "Dad, I want to see if your diaper is wet. Is yours the same as mom's? "? Why is my mother's diaper smaller than mine? "Dad was embarrassed by his daughter's sudden behavior. His face turned red. He stood up and staggered away. Wenwen stubbornly followed his father. "Dad, let me see!" "Dad didn't. Only mom has this thing. Don't ask this question in future. Well, wash your hands and eat quickly! " Dad tried to avoid the "embarrassing" question raised by his daughter.

We should be generous in this matter.

In real life, when children ask the above questions, most mothers will avoid, perfunctory, or provide wrong information, such as "this is a paper towel" and "it is used to wipe things"; Dad's reaction was mostly embarrassment. Parents should face up to the problems these children will encounter in the future. Preschool children are curious about everything they don't understand, so they tell them generously.

Correct guidance: "Only for girls"

My mother took Wen and patiently explained, "This is a sanitary napkin, only for girls, but not for boys. Because girls will menstruate when they are eleven or twelve years old, they should use it. Menstruation is coming, indicating that she has grown up ... The baby will use it when she grows up. " She hugged Wenwen and kissed him ... when the TV program broadcast the advertisement for sanitary napkins, my mother could start all kinds of topics about sanitary napkins ... or she could say, "My mother has a small house in her belly, and you lived in this small house before you were born. Sometimes, things like your nose will come out of this small house. Your nose is less than urine, so your mother's diaper is smaller than yours. " Try to keep the discussion casual and interesting, and let the baby know the "secret" of growth in a relaxed and harmonious atmosphere.

Children's problems may embarrass you, but they are normal in children's eyes. If parents respond negatively and educate their children by deception and concealment, it will leave deep hidden dangers for children, such as asking others out of curiosity, getting answers from others, or keeping misunderstanding on this topic.