In marriage, a woman can tolerate everything about her husband, but this behavior of a man cannot be tolerated. What is this?

In marriage life, husband and wife need to be responsible for this marriage, * * * participate in every procedure in marriage life, and * * * experience the ups and downs of marriage. Loving a person is reflected in a responsible marriage. If a man is irresponsible for marriage, neither husband nor wife will be happy.

Xinxin has been married for five years, and her child is almost three years old. Husband loves leisure and hates work. Their biggest problem is that they have no money. The problem is that even if there is no money, her husband still won't. He fantasizes about falling pies all day, refuses to work hard, spends a lot of money, thinks about getting a side door all day, is cheated again and again, and never repents!

When he first got married, the man lied to Shen Xin that he needed to pay for the project and asked her to help him borrow money. Shen Shen went back to her family and helped her borrow 200 thousand. Up to now, she hasn't paid back a penny, and she hasn't seen him finish the project, and her money is gone. Not only that, the man got a bride price and three gold medals when he got married. He also borrowed money from relatives and friends and asked his in-laws to help him borrow an unknown amount of money. He bought a car when he got married, but later he sold it.

The child has grown so big, Xinxin said that her husband didn't care at all, and the money spent on the child didn't add up to 10,000. It has always been the parents of Xinxin's family who helped them raise their children.

Moreover, her husband especially loves to drink and is addicted to alcohol. Every time he drinks, he begins to brag. Others can't say anything about him, otherwise he will throw things lightly and disappear. On average, I change three mobile phones a year, and my watch is not broken, so I have to put it on the ground.

There is no business all day long, and there is no money in my pocket to go out for dinner with my friends, so I have to take the lead myself. Sometimes when someone invites him to dinner, he grabs the bill. Slowly, more and more people invited him to dinner, because he rushed to pay the bill every time. When he invited others to eat spicy food outside, Shen Xin and her in-laws scrimped and saved at home.

I have communicated with my husband countless times, asking him to find a job in a down-to-earth manner, save money, and slowly make money to pay off debts. It doesn't matter that he is poor. Every time the man verbally promised, it was very good, and after a few days, it was the same. Shen Xin didn't want to tell him a word later, so there was nothing to say.

The point is, Shen Xin's husband didn't say anything, but actually hit her. Originally, this is a very small thing. Thousands of men didn't flush in the bathroom. Shen Shen didn't know that she took the child to the bathroom to prepare for a bath, and the result was a mess. She couldn't do anything with her child in her arms, so she took the child to bed and wrapped it in a quilt, and then told her husband to flush the toilet first and the child should take a bath.

After several calls, the man didn't move. Shen Shen got angry and said a few words to him. However, her husband just ignored her and went to sleep in another room. Later, he wanted to take the children's things. Shen Xin went to the room and found that the door was locked and could not be opened. She was really angry and kicked the door hard. As a result, her husband slapped her as soon as she opened the door.

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Shen Xin was really shocked at that time. She didn't expect her husband to do it at all. She continued to walk into the room, so that her husband pushed and kicked her hard. She pushed the man back and her husband slapped her again. At this time, the mother-in-law heard the noise and stopped her son. As a result, the mother-in-law looked at her son and slapped her daughter-in-law.

Shen Shen didn't fight back, so he immediately called his parents and asked his family to come over. Before Xinxin's parents came, her husband told her to get out, and her mother-in-law kept telling her to stop it. She also said that her daughter-in-law is not sensible and has a big temper. She doesn't know how to let her husband go and how to tolerate him.

Xinxin said that she can go, but if her husband is asked to return the 200,000 borrowed from her home, she will go at once. As a result, my mother-in-law lost her temper and said that every quarrel would cost money because it was too loud, and that outsiders saw jokes. The mother-in-law blames her daughter-in-law for being unreasonable, and her son seems to have no problem.

Later, after Xinxin's parents went, she slapped her husband in front of both parents. With her parents around, the man is afraid to fight back. The most ridiculous thing is that he doesn't admit to hitting his wife at all. He said he didn't. Pretend to be honest in front of your parents-in-law.

Xinxin said she wanted a divorce, her husband said he didn't want to leave, he was sorry for his wife, and so on. There are many nice words.

Mother-in-law also helps her son speak. I clearly saw my daughter-in-law being slapped, but I told my in-laws that only my daughter-in-law was saying that her husband had hit her, and no one saw it at all.

On the other hand, she also said that Shen Xin was too strong and her son was wrong. His daughter-in-law should not slap him in the face, which made him lose face. In the past, Shen Xin had a good relationship with her mother-in-law. They usually got along well, but once their husband and wife quarreled, her mother-in-law always turned to her son and told her daughter-in-law to be patient and tolerant.

Shen Xin is not a weak person, but her parents are honest and kind people. They often tell their daughters that they should live a good life when they get married, and they can't always quarrel with their husbands when they have children. No money, no money. The bride's family can give money to her daughter as long as she can live.

In addition, her in-laws were not bad to Shen Xin before, so she silently endured many grievances, and no one said it.

Only this time Shen Xin won't tolerate it any more. In her mind, she just wants her husband to take responsibility and find a job to go to work. Women don't have high requirements for marriage, just want three people to live safely. And this incompetent man, not only does not take responsibility but also takes it out on women.

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When a man attacks his wife, the woman will either be patient or divorce, and the choice of applying for the application is definitely the latter. In marriage, a woman can tolerate everything about her husband, but this behavior of a man cannot be tolerated.

In the long-term life, with the fetters of children, women's demand for marriage will gradually decline, and a man can be tolerated regardless of his family, as long as the family can live in harmony.

But what women ignore is that it is useless for only one person to work hard to run a happy family. Marriage is done by men and women together. Therefore, running a marriage also requires the efforts and maintenance of two people.

Men are the pillars of marriage and family. Without the efforts of "husband" and "father", the happiness of wife and children is not guaranteed. Life is your own, and you can't rely on others for relief all your life. At the same time, as a man, you can have no great achievements, but at least have a job to support your family.

Moreover, a man who can't give his wife happiness, has no sense of responsibility for his family, and still beats a woman is unacceptable and will be condemned by society; Of course, a person's personality is closely related to his family education. It can be seen from the mother-in-law's protection of her son that all the bad habits of this man are related to his growing environment.

However, the influence of family background is on the one hand, with emphasis on individuals. In the final analysis, it's just because he doesn't love it. When a man doesn't love his wife, he won't love his family, let alone be responsible for his marriage.

In the real marriage life, a man should be a responsible man under any circumstances, responsible for his wife and children, that is, responsible for his own marriage.