An objective evaluation of Aunt Xue, is she really "kind"?

Whether Aunt Xue is a kind person cannot be determined with absolute certainty. It is like judging whether a person is a good person or a bad person. You cannot completely deny a person just because he has done a bad thing. Label him a "bad guy", and the same applies to good guys. Human nature is complex, and it will be affected by many aspects. Sometimes it is forced, and sometimes it is uncontrollable. It is difficult to have a fixed standard.

On the surface, Aunt Xue is a kind mother. She loves her daughter. She also loves Baoyu, Daiyu and others, and always praises them as "good children". In addition, Aunt Xue is also very respectful and filial to her elders. When she has free time on weekdays, she and Sister Feng often visit Jia Mu and tell interesting stories and jokes to make her ancestors happy. In "A Dream of Red Mansions", it is almost rare to see Aunt Xue looking angry. Whenever I see her, she looks kind and kind. It wasn't until Xue Pan married his fierce wife Xia Jingui and made the family so upset that he rarely showed a trace of sadness.

I believe that many readers like Aunt Xue very much and think that she is a respectable elder. But if we analyze it carefully, you will find that behind Aunt Xue’s kind face, there are some unknown secrets . Once, she teased Baoyu and Daiyu, saying that they were a perfect match and that she would go to her ancestors to match them up. But the fact was that she never mentioned this matter in front of Jia Mu, as if what she said that day had never happened. Same. In fact, she also has her own little plan. She wants her daughter Baochai and Baoyu to get married, so that they can have a "golden and jade marriage" and gain both people and wealth. When Aunt Xue first entered the Jia family, she kept emphasizing the meaning of "gold lock" and "beautiful jade". The implications are self-evident. It can be seen that she did not really want to match Baoyu and Daiyu, it was just superficial words. Doing one thing in front of others but doing another behind the scenes is hard to escape the suspicion of hypocrisy and scheming.

Another point is that Aunt Xue expressed her desire to sell Xiangling many times, believing that Xiangling was the main reason for the unrest in the family. If Baochai hadn't stopped her, I'm afraid Xiangling would have been sold. Kicked out of the house, this shows that Aunt Xue is a cold-hearted and unreasonable person. Xiangling was abducted since she was a child and wandered around the world, which created her low self-esteem and cowardly character. After marrying Xue Pan as her concubine, she was often suspected and hated by Xia Jingui, and was tortured and beaten in every possible way. After Xiangling was wronged, she also She didn't dare to say anything, and only told Baochai occasionally, but Aunt Xue actually thought that Xiangling was the culprit of the constant quarrels in the family. It was really unreasonable. Anyone with a discerning eye would know at a glance. Couldn't her Aunt Xue not see it? After all, it was A person who bullies the weak and fears the strong is exactly the same as her son.

Whether a person is really kind can be known by looking at his children. Xue Baochai is generally okay, but the city is too deep and there is a ruthlessness in his bones. Needless to say, Xue Pan is full of kindness. The word "evil" is written all over it. It is said that teaching others to correct themselves first, but the family tradition is like this, so there is no need to talk about the word "kindness".