How can brothers and sisters resolve conflicts when they become enemies?

As the saying goes, "One monk carries water, two monks carry water and three monks have no water."

When parents are too old to walk and need their children to share alimony and take full-time care of them, the contradiction between brothers and sisters becomes more and more obvious, and no one is willing to bear the main responsibility for support. Even fewer people can "take the lead".

After the death of parents, the contradiction reached a fever pitch, and the brotherhood disappeared.

Looking at blood relatives, slowly alienating, it will inevitably hurt, and it will also be ill-treated by parents' parenting.

How to resolve grievances? The following methods are recommended.

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First, don't lose heart and actively seek opportunities for reconciliation.

There is no overnight feud between husband and wife, because love and responsibility have always been there.

Brothers and sisters can make enemies for a long time, because parents don't care, and the blood has been "separated".

If you can remember the old love and shoulder the responsibility like a lover, then this family will exist for a long time, and there will be no unresolved contradictions.

The ancients said, "The eldest brother is the father."

In a good big family, big brother will come forward to mediate the relationship between brothers and sisters and assume the responsibility of being the "protagonist" of holiday parties. If eldest brother doesn't want to be the leading role, then in the family, you can recommend a person with good moral ability as the "backbone".

In fact, many brothers and sisters don't usually come and go, but they still get together at the birthday party of the elders, the wedding banquet of the younger generation, the school banquet and other occasions. At this time, everyone will sit together and talk about their daily lives, and the contradictions will certainly gradually ease.

If you can speak with the cheek, although you are "inferior", you look noble, which is the proper meaning of being a man.

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Second, don't turn over old scores, but learn to move on.

My uncle has always been on bad terms with his brothers and sisters.

After he retired from the army, he went back to worship his ancestors and found his second uncle lying in bed. His family is too poor to buy a wheelchair. At that moment, my second uncle cried. I really didn't expect that my brother who had quarreled with him would have such a tragic ending.

Since then, his uncle has visited his uncle every month, bringing gifts and a wheelchair.

The older you get, the fewer relatives you have around you. Living relatives are precious. What is the past feud compared with blood relationship?

When brothers and sisters become enemies, think about it. What will everyone be like in ten years? Do we all have to leave the leaves behind and help each other to walk?

Hatred is a temporary resentment, a dispute over money. Let go of these two things, and everything will be fine. Usually, the more you turn your face, the harder it is to put down your face in the future. Think long-term, and there will be less hatred.

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Third, with the help of external forces, please ask the elders to mediate.

On the day my third grandfather died, my children made a scene and overturned the table.

Grandpa's eldest son quietly took the house of the extended family for himself. This matter is the focus of contradiction.

In order to deal with the aftermath, grandpa's in-laws came to the scene.

He said meaningfully: "The old man's bones are not cold, and the brothers are quarrelling endlessly. What kind of reason is this? " Will show jokes to outsiders. Besides, houses in the countryside are worthless. The boss has been a farmer all his life, and it is understandable that he wants a house. Other people have settled in the city, and some even set up factories to covet rural things. This is just "anger". I'm afraid you don't even want to live in the countryside. The boss did something wrong, apologize, and everyone nodded. Just ... "

A few words of truth, let the hatred between brothers, instantly resolve.