"Poverty-relief marriage" is a pit, and women must take a detour. Why?

A post in Weibo became popular, which triggered a hot discussion on "poverty alleviation marriage".

The reason is that a girl in Guangzhou has been in love with her boyfriend for three years, and it's time to talk about marriage. Originally, the two agreed that each family would pay some money as a down payment for buying a wedding room. As a result, the man's family mortgaged the suite privately. In this way, according to the latest marriage law, the house has become the man's pre-marital property.

Even after the marriage, the woman paid for the renovation and helped repay the loan. After the divorce, the house still belongs to the man. The woman was not at ease after knowing it, so she consulted a lawyer privately and asked the parties to add their names to the room book at the suggestion of the lawyer. As a result, she was accused by the man of haggling over every ounce. In the end, the two families broke up and called off their engagement.

The man's behavior has also been criticized by many netizens. This kind of "poverty alleviation marriage" has been criticized. Men want to have tools for free childbirth, women want to have money to get married, and they want to take the opportunity to search for women's assets. Such a good thing is too ugly for a man to eat.

Before marriage, if you don't study the latest version of the marriage law, you will really suffer.

Last year, a story about Weibo made many netizens sigh. Xiaoding, a girl from Zhejiang, has been in love with her boyfriend for 5 years. My boyfriend bought a house in Hangzhou, saying it was a wedding room for Xiaoding to get married. Xiaoding was particularly moved, so she took out all her savings from working for many years, rushed to decorate and buy home appliances. Her mind is full of the future warm little family, and she is looking forward to a happy life after becoming the hostess of this family.

She never imagined that near the wedding, her boyfriend suddenly derailed and her marriage broke down. She disliked Xiaoding's lack of a local hukou. Xiaoding is disheartened and ready to leave this sad place. Before leaving, she adjusted the invoices for decoration and home appliances and listed a bill of 250 thousand, hoping her boyfriend would return it. Boyfriend directly hooligans: "I have no money in my hand now, so hurry up and find someone to take away all the furniture and appliances decorated in your home."

Everyone knows that decoration is impossible to take away, and it is useless to take it away. Some netizens said that they would rather spend a little more money than hire someone to smash the decoration, let alone let love rat take other women to enjoy his contribution. However, even so, Xiaoding's losses cannot be added up. She can only think that she spent 250 thousand to help her ex-boyfriend's marriage and made up a law class for herself.

The so-called "poverty alleviation marriage" means that a person keeps saying that everything he does is for you, and then asks you to be grateful and give back unconditionally. And once the relationship breaks down, you will find yourself with nothing, nothing. After all, "poverty alleviation marriage" is a pit, and women must make a detour!

If you don't talk about money before you get married, you will be wronged in the end.

Before her friend Xiaolin got married, her future mother-in-law said to her, "Although our family is not rich, we still have to give our son a down payment when we get married. Your salary is not high, and you will have to raise children in the future. If you are married, we will definitely not let you suffer, and we will definitely pay back the loan in the future. " Hearing this, Xiao Lin felt that her husband's family was really reasonable. Although she regrets that there is no name on the room, she also understands that after all, she doesn't have a penny and can't take advantage of each other just because she is married.

Husband said that for their wedding room, parents took out all their money, and they couldn't afford the wedding, or simply held a ceremony. Kobayashi's parents are honest people, and they have no complaints as long as Kobayashi is willing. In this way, Kobayashi inexplicably married herself.

After only one year of marriage, the parents-in-law asked Kobayashi and his wife to bear the mortgage themselves on the grounds of financial difficulties, and asked Kobayashi to transfer their monthly salary to her husband's account to help repay the loan, and the rest was used as their living expenses. After three years of marriage, Xiao Lin is afraid of having children. She complained occasionally, and her husband accused her of ingratitude. Without the support of his parents, they would still rent a house.

In this forced "poverty-alleviation marriage", the more women pay, the more unwilling they are, the more unwilling they are to leave, and they will persist even if they are wronged again. Because, after the divorce, I will not only get a penny, but also be annoyed by my original decision.

Women don't talk about money when they get married It is not the so-called love, but the irresponsibility of one's own life.

San Mao said: marriage can't last long if it can't get caught up in the trivial things of dressing, eating and counting money.

My college classmate Xin Li is a very smart woman, and her husband and I both have a good income. Before marriage, her husband paid for the house. When two people were talking about marriage, Xin Li made it clear that it was no problem to add her name to her husband's house before marriage, but they should implement AA system after marriage, and she should not bear all the family expenses because he paid off the mortgage. Because, in case two people can't be together in the end and the property is divided, the house has nothing to do with her.

Xin Li's husband understands her worries very well. The two agreed that Xin Li's name would not be written in the house, and her husband would bear the mortgage and living expenses; In the future, the children's education expenses and Xin Li's own consumption will be borne by herself.

Xin Li has been married for more than ten years, and she has never had any problems with her husband because of money. Their attitude of talking openly about money did not disgust each other, but enhanced understanding and tolerance. Xin Li was asked if he thought it was a particularly vulgar thing to talk about money, which would hurt his feelings. Her answer is wonderful. She said, "Pure love cannot be eaten or worn. I can't stand the consideration of money and dare not talk about the division of money. I don't want to be irresponsible for my life. "

Conclusion:

The essence of marriage is a community of interests between men and women. A paper engagement is not only a noble proof of love, but also a contract for the two sides to form an economic community. As a weak party in marriage, women should first know how to protect their own interests and beware of falling into the pit of "poverty alleviation marriage".

As a woman, we must understand that marriage is because of love, and we must form a family with the people we love. In a family, not only love is enough, but also some very realistic things such as interests, money and status. Life is once and for all, always related to money. Only by solving the problem of money can we really love.