Look at people talking on different occasions.

Read more books to ensure adequate knowledge reserves.

There is a detail in the recently hit drama Ode to Joy, that is, Qu Xiaoxiao plays cards with Andy, Viagra and Dr. Zhao at home. Andy teased Brother Wei: "Dear Lady Macbeth, your hands are not clean!" " Qu Xiaoyu didn't recognize Andy's allusion and joked that Viagra was a little upset. Suddenly, everyone was embarrassed collectively, which eventually led to the end of the game, and Dr. Zhao also thoroughly saw Qu Xiaoxiao's shallowness and ignorance through this incident, and even didn't bother to answer the phone.

Actually, the song slightly misinterpreted Andy's meaning. Lady Macbeth mentioned by Andy is called "super witch" by Goethe and is a "beauty" of conspirators. She has a pair of hands that can't wash away blood. Even after the murder, she can calmly say "My hands are the same color as yours, but my heart is ashamed to be as pale as yours".

Qu Xiaoxiao made a big joke because of his lack of knowledge reserve, which exposed his shallowness. IQ is not at the same level, how can we have fun together? So Dr. Zhao's impression of her plummeted.

Therefore, if you want to be a "person who can chat", you should first read more books, not to mention being familiar with astronomy and geography, at least don't look silly or even joke when others talk about a topic.

Of course, no matter how much knowledge a person has, he will also encounter problems that he doesn't understand. At this time, it is time to offer the second move.

Modest and prudent, learn to ask questions

Asking questions with an open mind is much better than pretending to understand a field or topic you don't understand. It is hypocritical not to pretend to understand, and it is enterprising to ask questions with an open mind. Others have reason to laugh at your hypocrisy, but there is no reason to laugh at your thirst for knowledge and enterprise, otherwise he is shallow, not you.

In addition, asking for advice with an open mind will give people a sense of knowledge output, which will bring you closer to the person you are talking to. Not only can the person you talk to have something to say, but you can also increase your feelings and knowledge through questions and answers.

Kill two birds with one stone, why not?

Distinguish between occasions and people.

Distinguish between occasions and people when you speak. The so-called "talking with people, talking nonsense" is not necessarily rhetoric, but learning how to speak properly in different situations and in front of different people. In the face of unfamiliar people, don't joke, don't be reckless.

I have a friend, whose emotional intelligence is slightly low, and he doesn't pay much attention to his words. When my girlfriend first came to Beijing, I invited everyone to dinner and get to know each other.

My girlfriend suddenly lost her appetite because she was in a bad mood. I tried everything to persuade her, but she refused to eat chopsticks. That friend may be joking to ease the atmosphere: "If you don't eat, let her go back to her hometown."

My girlfriend has been worried about this sentence. More than a year has passed, and every time she mentions this matter, she will be very angry and say, "We are strangers. Why did he say that about me? You said it was a joke. Are we that familiar? "

I mediated for a long time, and the prejudice gradually disappeared. It can be seen that it is endless to talk regardless of people.

Don't treat malice as fun, and don't treat injury as humor.

In this era of "poison tongue", many people regard poison tongue as fun and think that poison tongue can show wisdom, express ability and make a splash. In fact, it doesn't matter if you swear at the debate on "Qi Ba Shuo". After all, it is a TV program. We like to watch heated debates and just play with our heartbeats.

However, in daily life, speaking ill in front of relatives and friends is a rude and vulgar behavior. Therefore, if you want to make people comfortable, you must learn to restrain your meanness and poison tongue, talk less cynicism, and don't take malice as fun. Otherwise, you think you are playing with humor, but it is a needle and a cone in other people's ears.

Get into the habit of praising others.

Undoubtedly, everyone wants to hear good things, and no one wants to hear you say that he is ugly, lazy and poor.

So you should cultivate the habit of tapping people's advantages. When a person is ugly, you can praise him for his talent. When a person is lazy, you can praise him for being smart; When a person is poor, you can praise him for his diligence.

When you are good at praising others, you will become everyone's little sun, and everyone can get positive energy from you. Who doesn't want to be friends with someone who praises himself and gives himself positive energy?

More sincerity, less routine.

To put it bluntly, speak with your heart, not hypocrisy. People in the Jianghu are not stupid. You can tell at a glance whether you are sincere or not. It's true that you can praise others, but remember to take your mind off. First, pick out the advantages of the person you are talking about, and second, pile the advantages you think of on him, which will not only be unpleasant, but also hurt people if you are not careful. For example, you say to an ugly person, "You are so beautiful!"