Why do many people with good conditions not get married?

The older I get, the more I feel that not everyone is eager for love.

When I was young, I always thought that happiness had a template. True happiness consists of three or two friends, a close lover and a warm home.

But after a certain age, I found that this is only happiness in the definition of most people, which does not mean that happiness can only be like this.

Think of Sheng Ruxi in "The Leftover is King". As a high-quality white-collar worker, she has her own life circle, a good income and a focus of life, and can satisfy herself without love.

In this process, no matter how her mother urged her to get married, Sheng Ruxi always insisted on being single, not that she was in no hurry to fall in love, but that she was in no hurry to fall in love.

There is only one important reason for not being in a hurry to fall in love-confidence.

She is used to living alone, and she is not lonely even without company. She has the ability of self-satisfaction, and she is not afraid even if no one supports her. With these confidence, she is not in a hurry to fall in love and doesn't want to get married.

Observing real life, many single people are like this. Many times, they fall in love not because of poor conditions, but because they are too good.

This has broken the common perception of many people-that no one will want it until they get married at a certain age. In fact, they may just be too good to fall in love.

And the better these conditions, the less people want to fall in love, and there is a reason. The specific reasons are nothing more than these.

0 1.

Accustomed to living alone, I don't want to accommodate.

Miss Emma Woodhouse, the protagonist in the novel Emma, was particularly "special" in the society at that time.

While her peers are busy looking for lovers, she is busy between the dance floor and the garden, and doesn't care if she can get married.

Whenever someone asks her why she is single, she always says with extra confidence, "I don't need property, I'm not idle, and I'm not afraid of being looked down upon by others."

More importantly, Emma will only mention it to people close to her. She thinks that her father will always put her first, but other men may not be like his father, so she doesn't want to accommodate or fall in love.

I remember a classic quotation in Emma: "A rich single woman has always been respected and can be as rational and happy as anyone else. Only poverty can make a single person despised by the public. "

Think of a joke I once saw.

On the eve of the wedding, my father went to the man's bed and said, "apologize to me." The man didn't understand why, but his father still emphasized "apologize to me."

At his father's constant request, the man said, "I'm sorry."

Father smiled and said, "Now, you have mastered the method of maintaining marriage."

Although it's just a joke, love and marriage are so much. I really hope that the relationship between two people can last for a long time, and both of them should learn to be tolerant and patient.

Such a request is simple and normal, but for people with good conditions, being single is freedom and there is no need to fall in love.

02.

People who are confident and equal don't want to work together.

In real life, some people fall in love and get married because of love, while others fall in love and get married because of "living by love".

The writer "Su Nian" wrote about a girl.

After graduating from junior high school, she didn't want to go to school. She was too young to work and stayed at home for several years. After that, she casually found a job to kill boredom, with a salary of only 1000, and there was a risk of being fired.

In desperation, the girl started all kinds of blind dates after working for one year, eager to find someone to support herself and save her life.

You can't say that her choice is wrong, nor can you say that this girl has no ambition, because everyone has the right to choose the life he wants.

Whether the other person chooses to work hard in the workplace or choose to be a husband and wife, it can't be called a mistake.

However, it is undeniable that when a person has no ability to support himself and his family is average, marriage becomes an urgent matter, because they can't live by one person's ability alone.

For such people, waiting for the right person to appear is more like a luxury. It is common to be happy by fate, but it is difficult to be predestined.

On the contrary, those with good conditions can save their lives and support themselves. Love and marriage are just icing on the cake for them, so they are not that important.

Especially when a person has to wait for the right person to appear, the better the natural conditions, the less he wants to fall in love.

03.

More understanding of human feelings, disappointed in love.

In 33 days of lovelorn love, I don't understand why Wei, the bachelor of diamonds, still wants to marry a gold digger.

Wei still only gives one reason-simplicity.

What the other party wants is money, and he has plenty of money. As long as he can afford the money the other person wants, he can maintain this relationship and solve many troubles.

But just because it's true in movies doesn't mean it's true in real life. After all, living with someone who only wants his own money is always disturbing.

As a result, many people with good conditions are willing to have an affair with all kinds of people, and are willing to linger among many opposite sexes, but they will not choose to fall in love alone.

They are waiting for someone who really likes them and don't want to be with someone who only wants their own money.

When I was young, many people didn't know the importance of conditions, thinking that as long as they really love each other, they won't care about conditions, and they can care about each other's conditions.

After a naive age, people who really struggle in society know that material is not the most important thing, but it is the most important thing in some people's eyes.

The more people who have been lovelorn understand this truth, the more reluctant they are to fall in love.

04.

Some time ago, I read a saying that there is a hidden rule in the marriage and love market: most men don't like the opposite sex who is too strong.

Therefore, in order to attract the attention of the opposite sex, many girls may write in their dating materials that they are good at baking, like small animals and have love. ...

On the contrary, the stronger a boy is, the more popular he is with the opposite sex, but he doesn't necessarily need the company of the opposite sex.

Because truly confident and strong boys are either self-motivated, ambitious or have plans for life, love is not so important to them.